shmoo75

I am so sorry for your losses hun. I found out I was pg begining of may and before the mth was out I had m/c. I got pg 1st cycle of trying and am hoping we do again. You will have your baby with your OH and, if anyone says stupid things that you already have children its ok just ignore them as they are talking out of their bums! My bestfriend m/c her 2nd pg and she says in some ways its worse than m/c your 1st as, you have had a happy and healthy pg b4 why can't you now? With me I am begining to think ok I know I can get pg but, can I keep it for the full 9mths or, am I doomed to lose all the time? It is so hard for us and, people who have never experianced this cannot understand what we are going through. We are all here for you if you need us. Sending you

millymolly

Thanks shmoo75 for your message and words of support....much appreciated!

We have to remain positive, I know...but it's hard, I desperately would love to be pg again but would be really scared of going through a mc again!

P.S. I lived in Essex for 10 years and my 2 sons' were born there!


Take care xxx

shmoo75

You are more than welcome hun. Me and the other girls are always here for you when ever you need us.

I know what you mean about being scared. I keep telling myself I got pg b4 I can do it again and, then another little voice is saying yes but you m/c b4 and that could happen again as well!!!! Me and OH have decided as soon as I get another I will go to my GP the following wk not straight away as I did b4, only tell our respective bosses and a few very close work collegues, once we have had an early scan to make sure all is ok then we will tell our parents, my brother and a couple of very close friends then, after the 12wk scan tell everyone else. Fingers crossed that we can get that far nxt time and end up with a healthy baby at the end. It is going to be so hard nxt time for us.

I was born and brought up in Southend and I now live in Thurrock with my OH

millymolly

I wish you all the best with your TTC

We told everyone about our PG straight away last year and when we mc, we then had to let everyone know the bad news. This year's PG, we decided not to tell anyone until 12 weeks and were getting excited about showing the scan pics to announce the good news but it wasnt to be as we only got to 8 week. We then still ended up telling everyone the bad news cos we were grieving and wanted people to know why we were not our normal cheerful, bubbly selves. Part of me was superstitious about telling people about the PG second time around but now I think it doesn matter whether you tell or not, you just have to do with what feels best for you and you OH!

I lived in Chelmsford and South Woodham Ferrers

Stay positive xxx

Loo

Shmoo75 I know exactly how you feel...I m/c on first pregnancy and now I wonder whether I can ever sustain a pregnancy full term. (let alone whether I will ever get pregnant again!)

Although I am sorry others have gone throught the same pain as us, I am grateful someone else understands what we are going through.

Good luck to us all next time
x