dizzyhev

well heres the scenario....basically im waiting to miscarry, been home all week feeling shit!
after telling my fella how depressed i feel, guess what he does, arranges a night out with his pals!! after i told him i thought it a little considerate, cant he just wait for everything to be over...he still goes out!! im so angry... feel completely hurt, its not like i can go anywhere or do anything right now.

i considering ending it.... im so upset and feel very lonely and depressed.

Shinning_Star

AWww, hun. Ok, I don't know the history of this relationship so I'm gonna take it simply on face value. YOur gonna be hurt and heartbroken over your ms and so prob not thinking with the right parts of your heart. He is prob hurt to and he is just dealing with it by going out for a drink.
It is a bit inconsiderate he's gone out witout thinking of you BUT he may not know how to deal with it, he may be completely devastated as well hu8nni. All I know is mc's affect the men more than we imagine, going on past exp. I would levae it, chill out yourself, let him go out. allow time to grieve and invite a mate round or ring a mate up. Then tomorrow, when he's back and your a bit calmer if thats poss, talk to him tell him how upset it made you nd that you both need to talk abt the loss in order to overcome.

HUGE HUGS HUNNI PIE, and best of luck. xxxxx

dizzyhev

Im so sad, we spoke earlier and i expressed im not trying to stop him. just think its appropriate to wait until everything has happened. Im sooo angry at how selfish he is right now. We spoke about the baby and he got nasty and said all im interested in is the baby not me and him, i just said i want to grieve properly so im sorry i cant be all smiles for his sake.
I didnt want a row, thats the last thing, i just wanted to tell him how i felt.Selfish Selfish selfish

Sambatiki

Hi Dizzy,

I am sorry for your loss and also sorry you are having to go through relationship problems aswell.

Im afraid only you will know the answer to whether you leave him or not.
Was he very excited about becoming a dad?? Where you happy before this all happened??

Thinking of you.



Kerry

princess_bump

hi there, in so sorry hon, i don't no what to say and couldn't read and run. i don't think your selfish at all and i would feel the same as u about my OH going out. sending huge hugs to you

dizzyhev

well it was a surprise but once we got our heads around it we were both excited. me more so than him i think, i just feel very hurt like hes not that fussed, hes not grieving hes out with all his mates.

We started making plans and started saving and hes already dipping into that ridiculously.
he says im tarnishing us and being unreasonable... what can i say, i feel hurt, empty like iv lost everything

superp123

Hey hun. Sorry for your loss . If it's any consilation my DH and I are greiving at different paces too. He delt with things right away when we found out and I've only just begun to let myself deal. That said... I just want you to remember that everyone deals with loss in different ways. Try to give him some space to deal in his own way, and support him in it, while still being open with each other. If he wasn't a horrible guy before then chances are that he's just carrying on the only way he knows how. I know its tough and it does feel horribly lonely at times, but I promise things will get easier.
I'll keep you in my thoughts and here if you need me. Lots of
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dizzyhev

thank you.

its hard as i know its just him being selfish, i dont think hes grieving, i think he did that last weekend. i have tried to understand, i dont see how going out is supporting one another, i thought bad things would pull us together not tear us apart.

sorry for the moan.

superp123

Its okay to moan. That's what this board is for, moan, scream, cry or just throw plates...

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shimmyshimmy

I am so sorry for you,
xxx