dizzy65

aww i am sorry to hear that

superp123

People are stupid sometimes I agree.
Glad to hear that the first day wasn't too terrible. Hope the next one is even easier.
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trickysgurl

OMG.. What a situation to have to deal with! I have had 4 mcs but never had to go back to a place like that.. Although one time i worked at Old Navy clothing store and even though my male manager knew what had jus happened he put me in the infant and kids department!!! My female over all store manager came in later that day and lost her mind on him and moved me to mens after letting me have a 2hr paid break in which i jus cried my eyes out the whole time. I also understand that feeling of failure.. I mean i kno i shouldnt feel that way but i cant help it! The hardest part of my mc was when they start sending u all kinds of free samples of baby related stuff in the mail right around ur would have been due date.. I hated checkin the mail! I would say i hope things get better 4 u cuz i do but i kno its gonna b a long road. If u need to talk.. Im here.

Omi

Im glad it wasnt too bad, hun. I too found it difficult to go back to work, but as it has been mentioned, it helps keeping your mind working and getting to grips with life post mc.... and people DO really come out of the woodwork..

As far as stupid people and their stupid comments..good grief, whats wrong with some people? hey, you're slim..lucky you! One day (very soon i hope) you'll be a yummy mummy, the kind we all envy!

Hope you'll feel more like your old self soon, in every way!

, Omi xxx

todteach

Hey Hun

Glad your first day back was okay. Wish we could have all been there to support you through day. Especially when little miss know it all had her rude comment. I think we've all been faced with people like that. It makes you wonder if they think before they speak. Certainly doesn't seem that way.

As time goes on, I hope you feel a little bit more like your old self. I know that's what I want for me. Just to be able to laugh and joke around like I used to. It will come for all of us. This is such a huge mourning that we are all going through. We have to give ourselves time to heal.

I've been busy at work for the last two days. My group of children keep me on my toes. I bet your class is keeping you busy too. My coworkers that understand are very supportive to me. The ones that don't.....think that I should be back to my old self.... 'If she's here, she must be all better' right?... WRONG. I'm still quite sensitive, look at me sideways and I'm crying. It's hard to explain to people who haven't miscarried the mourning and grieving process that we're going through. Hey, some of these women didn't know that I was pregnant until two weeks before I miscarried. Since I didn't give birth and have a baby, where's the attachment? I hope that these women never know first hand what it feels like to miscarry, I just wish that they understood what I'm going through. I'm sure that a lot of us feel this way. Sorry about the babbling......

Big to everyone
Take care.

NikiJJones

Hi TodTeach, Glad you are keeping busy, but I know what you mean about being so tearful and sensitive. Some of the other teachers at my work seem to think because I'm back I must be all better too: especially the men. And with all the pregnant and child-blessed ones they don't seem to understand the pain of a MC either. They just seem to think it must have been a bit like getting AF a few weeks late. One woman I work with did have 3 MCs and she understands, but having said that, the then had her son, so she is very philosphical, and just believes that "everything happens for a reason" and I will "get there in the end". I don't want to get there "in the end" I want my baby to be born next January as he should have been. I'm not very good at being patient!!!

So glad I have all the ladies on here who do understand!!!!

Thanks everyone for your support.
Niki xxxx

bonfloss

Hi Niki

Just read your thread, really sorry to hear about your m/c. As I said in other post, last month I had a 'chemical pregnancy'. Had tested week leading up to AF and got positives and had pregnancy symptoms all week but arrived in style late one night. Its bloody awful isn't it? I was trying hard not to get excited but deep down I kept thinking this is it and OH was also very disappointed. We are now on cycle #11 and I was on pill for around 13 years. I am also not the most patient.

Keep smiling.
Lorr
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NikiJJones

Thanks for your message Bonfloss. Losses, however early, are so awful, especially when you've been trying for so long as we both have. I'm sending you lots of hugs and am here if you need to chat.
I just noticed that in your other post, you are wishing you hadn't tested. I had what I now strongly suspect may have been another very early MC or Chem Preg. earlier this year. I didn't test as was waiting till more overdue. But now I wish I had done, as I'd rather know if it was a PG. This has been really playing on my mind last few days and funnily enough I'd decided to post about it this morning. This will sound awful, but the fact you do know about your loss, however awful it may feel, at least reassures you that you can get pregnant.
I was on pill for almost 13 years too, but once we started TTC, patience has gone OUT THE WINDOW for me.
Anyway: good luck TTC again. I've been told we are very fertile just after a loss, so fingers crossed for you.
Niki xxxx

bonfloss

Thanks Niki and I do know what you mean about at least we know we can get pregnant. That is exactly what my OH said and I know that he is right but as you know it is still very raw. Nice to have someone who understands. The board is fantastic.
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NikiJJones

I just don't know where I'd be without all the support I've received on here. I used to laugh at people who spent hours on internet forums, but this one is great. I just wish I'd been here for all the time TTC prior to my pregnancy!
Let's hope we both get super-sticky beans very, very soon!
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