todteach

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dizzy65

aww i know it must be hard when people say that after it has been soo soon after a misscariage.. I mean after i had mine when i was younger i was soo not ready to just "try" again it took time to get over the loss... *hugs*

todteach

Thanks for listening to my little rant. Did I mention that I have my period right now.....I tend to be a little more emotional when I have

dizzy65

oh yeah i know some of those types of people and than all u wana do is not even think about it or anything and they want u to keep on trying... Some times it is hard. I no for the longest time i was hard to even think about putting my self threw a pregnancy again.. Even now i am still a little bit scared...

Yeah its only natural to get a little bit more emotional around that time... Rant away it is good to let your emotions out!

*hugs*

todteach

How long ago was your miscarriage? Did you get pregnant again right away, or take a break? I know that I have mixed feelings. I want to have a baby, but don't want to replace our loss, with another baby.

My husband told me that he's ready when I am. I know that I will be a complete wreck when we get pregnant again; whether we get pregnant now or in a year. I'm sure that my doctor will be ready for that. hehehe. That means lots and lots of extra visits, ultrasounds, etc. to put our minds at ease. We lost our little one at 3 months. Not something that either of us, obviously, expected.

NickyT75

Hi Hun

Its perfectly natural to feel sad after losing your LO... it took me 2 years to feel ready to TTC after my 1st loss.

I wanted to be pregnant immediately after my most recent loss but it was under different circumstances so I guess it's different for everyone xx

NikiJJones

Hello Todteach,
So sorry to hear all this. You need support now and lots of hugs. This is your Mum's way of dealing with it, but I can imagine it is not at all helpful to you. It is completely understandable that you are going to feel pretty rotten for a while yet.
I agree: you are NOT depressed: just sad. This is what I keep telling my DH too. I've been depressed in the past, and this is different. You (and I) are grieving for something so sad that has happened to us. You are doing really well not taking the anti-depressants. Try to feel proud of that.
Wish I could be there to give you a .
xxxx

leeanne

Perhaps what your mom is doing seems unsympathetic but I think she's probably trying to be hard in the hopes that, in her mind, that she gets you back on track with your life. Does this make sense?