Miscarriage & Loss Support

Lucy_lu_84 · Jun 13th, 2008, 10:08 AM

I know words are not going to make you feel better right now - but I just want to send you love and big

I m/c last week, so I kinda know what you are going thru...thank god for these boards I tell you.
If you ever want to talk, or rant or whatever I'm hear to listen if you need it!

you will get thru this babes

Lu x

NikiJJones · Jun 13th, 2008, 10:37 AM

Hope you are doing OK. Thinking of you!
When you feel like crying, just let it out. I know it is so hard to stop, but I think we need to get it all out. I have cried more than I ever thought I could this last few weeks, but better than holding it all in. Plate smashing sounds like a good alternative.
I know what you mean about your Mum. I felt guilty for putting so much pain on her. She has been desperate for me to have a child for years, and I could see how much she was hurting too. Having said that she was super with hugs and looking after me. I found my Granny was a great help too. She went through this before she had my Mum. She was very practical and strong for me.
DON'T feel guilty about the eating, please. I ate so much chocolate in the first week, and cake and all the things I've avoided for so long. I think our bodies are feeling worn out and probabaly low on sugar, so I'm sure it isn't too bad for them.
I know this sounds so hard, but time will heal. Don't dwell on trying again until you feel you can manage it. Just get yourself better little step by little step. We are always here for you!!!

xxxx

owo · Jun 13th, 2008, 10:44 AM

So sorry to hear you are having to go through this.
I found and still do find great comfort and support from all the girls on here when i miscarried three and half weeks ago.
Don't blame yourself, there isn't anything you could have done. Try and take comfort in the fact that you can conceive and you will again and next time it will be successful.
Please don't feel guilty about eating all the wrong things. The first thing my DH did when we came back from the hospital was to go and buy me a bottle of my favourite wine, smoked Salmon and Brie, all the things i couldn't have whilst pregnant. Indulge yourself, we all have done it.
If you want to smash some plates, go for it.
Take Care
xx

buffycat · Jun 13th, 2008, 12:47 PM

am so so sorry........i agree that two is too many, two times two many in fact...

stock up on some plates i say though, and get some earplugs for your neighbours too. You need to deal with this in your own way, whatever that might be.

understand what you said about your mum too, telling mine was just as heartbreaking.....and although i know it is wrong, i still feel as if i let so many people down.....

please try to love yourself though, we all love you.....

hugs:

superp123 · Jun 13th, 2008, 13:54 PM

Thank you so much ladies, for helping me validate my feelings. These boards are the best and everyone here so so supportive. You all made me cry. It's like getting a big internet hug.
Having a bit of a crazy morning. Still bleeding, no constant cramping or clots yet... and in my crazy little head I wonder, is there some mistake? Doesn't help that my symptoms seem to have reappeared. Woke myself up a few times last night with the blood rushing back to my breasts. Arg! This is torture and I'm only adding to it. So the plan for distraction today is to attack the house hold chores. Cleaning for some reason helps me deal with stuff. Literally and figuratively. Then after lunch take the boys to the 'pirate park'. Thats what they call the ginormus park on the lake. They'll have fun and it'll help me not feel so sorry for me.
Talk to you all later.
P

jacky24 · Jun 13th, 2008, 14:16 PM

Im so sorry for your loss, i wish i had all the words in the world to comfort you. May all just work out fine, and stay focused on the boys.

We are always here for you when you need us just throw a plate hun.

pm whenever you need to rant one of us will always listen.