owo

I know you have read my post so probably know that my LO stopped growing at 6 weeks and it wasn't until 10 weeks that i found out when i started cramping and bleeding. I couldn't imagine having to wait like you are, I know that the hopsitals prefer not to do a DNC unless they have to because there is a small risk of scarring (very small), go back and talk to them, i think that they get so used to dealing with women who have miscarried that they forget about the emotional termoil that we have to go through.
I am thinking about you.
PM me if you want to chat.
xx

Freya

Hi there, So sorry to hear about your loss.

I know you've had lots of responses but thought I'd post mine too. I had a missed m/c, diagnosed at 10 wks, bub stopped growing at 8 wks

Because I hadn't naturally m/c at 8 weeks, the NHS in STaffordshire decided they would do a D and C and was booked in for 2 days time. I must admit that I just wanted everything out, it felt wrong and those two days were hell.

I 'can' understand the medical view as it's so much better for our bodies to m/c naturually and in 'theory'......

Does your history of brain haemorrage put you at risk during surgery? Thinking of the general anesthetic.

Maybe, if you can, decide on a time scale for YOU, that you feel you can 'wait and see' and then after that request a D and C. Perhaps your own GP will be more sympathetic and speak to the hospital on your behalf.

NikiJJones

Hi everyone. Thanks for all your kind posts. I am so sorry to hear about all your losses too. This is about the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with. It helps to know that those of you who are a few weeks further on than me are feeling life is a little easier. One minute I think I feel better, and the next I'm crying. So many different feelings going through me I don't know where to begin.
Just to let you all know though: I actually just started bleeding about an hour ago. There is a weird sense of relief. All these months I've been dreading AF and bleeding, and now I am relieved, as I know the sooner it is all out of me, the better.
I read in my herbal remedy book that parsley and ginger tea can bring on an overdue period and thought I'd give it a go, and either that or mother nature has done the trick. I'm just hoping that it's not going to be too painful, and that I can deal with what I have to see coming out.
On the up side I'm feeling positive as I know that I might ovulate as early as two weeks time, so if I'm feeling healed enough emotionally, can start ttc again.
Niki xxxx

Sambatiki

Hi Niki,

Glad to hear you are starting to feel better. Best of luck for future TTC when you are ready.



Kerry

Visqueen

So sorry for your loss,I too had a missed mc back in April I found out at my 12 week scan that my baby had died at 9wk 6days. My hospital gave me a D & C the next day as i just wanted it to be over as quickly as poss as I felt just as you are.If you feel you are ready for a D&C I would go back and try to request one. I did find that this helped my body get back to normal getting my period on day 29 since operation. Unless a person has been unfortunate to go through this they dont understand what it feels like, people try and be supportive but its our bodies. You take as much time as you need and talk about it as much as you need to, I found this site and other peoples understanding very helpful. I am thinking of trying again but finding it rather scary at the moment.
Take care