shadowsilk

thanks to everyone.
i didnt have a d/c because the doctor said I didnt need one. thankfully.
but it's still heart-breaking

buffycat

i know just how you feel......it is such a heart-break to have a mc.....

mine was almost 8 weeks ago, and in one respect it seems like a different world. However, the pain is still there, you know, that pull on the heart when you think about it for more than a minute.......I really don't think that either us of us has ever cried so much.....

i'm certain that the pain will never go, only that we learn to live with it...like the others say, a routine is a good thing.

take care.....

maccy

Take care hun, I'm in the midst but sure it'll get better in time. xxxxxx

todteach

I'm feeling your same pain. One minute I'm as happy as anything...the next in tears.

I had a missed miscarriage May 18th at three months. I had my d and c that day. Then... terrible pain that put me on the floor, for over a week with huge clots (guess that was my lining as it was silvery). I went back to my own doctor and they did a second d and c as I had an infection and retained products.

Now I'm sadder than ever, to go through the same process twice. My body is so tired and exhausted. I've been getting migraines everyday.

It is so hard to sit in a room full of expectant moms and new babies, waiting for my appt. with my doctor. To be in that same office where I had my positive pregnancy test months ago. It hurts so much.

Although my husband has been absolutely wonderful, don't know that I could do this without him. I just have this empty, hollow feeling.

I'm expected back to work tomorrow.....I work at a daycare centre, where essentially everyone drops off their baby (toddler) to me. Fortunately my boss has told me that I'll be doing office work (instead of working with my toddlers) for the first few days back.

I just feel so sad. I too wish I would feel better. I guess as they say Time Heals Pain

Thanks
for everyone.

buffycat

todteach....here's a big hug for you.......

this is a rough time.....but we have to be determined and say 'i will get through this'..

take care everyone......

wishes

Hey hun, i had d&c on 11 april and know that empty heartache too.

I dont think its supposed to go away, think we juts learn to accept and live with it in time.

I am getting better and th tears are getting less... i did find putting together a little memory box helped me. We bought a little toy which im keeping, but in the box it came in ive put the positive tests, cards, hospital bands etc so that i will always at least remember what happened.

Feels kind of nice putting the lid on and tucking it away.

ladywadey

Reading your email really reminded me of myself 9 months ago, but it doesn't matter what people say it doesn't make the pain go away. I thought that time might heal it plus throwing myself into work and for some it might but for me I just went on a downward spiral. I struggled for 8 months until a friend forced me to get help. She had had two miscarriages but had got through it with some external help. It sounds a bit weird but she found specialist reflexology and other alternative treatments worked. I'm really synical but I was desperate and I also went to stop her nagging - and it worked for me too. Infact within a month (3 treatments) I was back to my old self and after two months I was pregnant! Although this might just have been luck.
Anyway, it might not have been the treatment but just trying something like this gave me hope. Good luck and don't suffer in silence...

maybebaby

JASMAK

I had my last m/c in Dec. I still hurt. I hurt from the one last Aug. too. It takes time. Let yourself grieve, and don't feel guilty for it. People around you may or may not understand...but, you need to let yourself cry and mourn. I am only starting to deal with the two I had, because I pushed all the emotions away. (hugs)

NikiJJones

Sending you my love and sympathy. I lost mine almost two weeks ago, and I just can't see how I will ever feel better. Everyone on here has been a big support to me though.
xxxx