WW1

Hi all,

I'm coming into this forum as I went for a scan on Friday and was told that our little one hadn't grown from the last scan. This was my first pg and i can't believe how joy can turn to despair so quickly.

I'm not really sure how far gone I was. My LMP was 29th Feb, I had some bleeding on 18th April, followed by scans. The first showed a sac, the second (10 days later) showed a fetal pole but no heart beat and on the most recent the sonographer could no longer see a fetal pole and the sac seemed to have shrunk.

I suspect therefore that I stopped at about 6 weeks. The nurse told me that I should start to miscarry in the near future but if I don't then I can have it medically started.

Over the weekend me and my OH have obviously been devastated and I'm now just waiting for the inevitable. It's a horrible feeling - knowing something is happening that is breaking my heart and I can do nothing about. I don't think I've ever felt so helpless.

I've got a million questions buzzing through my head. Do I go into work tomorrow? Do I wait for it all to happen naturally or do I get medical intervention? Do I give in and cry whenever I feel like I need to or try to keep control?

AM I GOING CRAZY??!!

I'm sorry to write this diatribe down - it just helps to share my thoughts with people who know where I'm coming from. I know it'll get better and I'll be able to try again soon (ish) but it seems like it's going to be a very long few weeks.

Thanks for reading this. I appreciate all your support.

shimmyshimmy

I am so sorry for you.
Please take it easy over the next few days, things will start to get better.

Please take care, and let us know how things go,
Many of us know how you must be feeling, but at the same time we all have different ways of dealing with things. God bless.

Shim,
xxx

buffycat

hi.....so sorry to hear of your loss.......

this is by no means an easy time, and i agree that it is heartbreaking. Mine started just 4 days before my first scan. Everyone is different, but there was no way that i could go into work as i was in no fit state. I had had no sleep, and had had terrible stomach pains for most of the night. I don't generally do sick leave, but with this i was off work for the first time in 6 years.

this is such an emotional time for you though....please ask all of your questions, be it with us here, or friends, or medical people - you are not on your own with this.

please take care though.....and here's lots of for you at this difficult time.....

porkpie1981

I am sorry to hear you have to go thru this. Please rest and try and recover

porkpie1981

Forgot to say i wouldnt go to work. I was waiting on mc happening i i took a few weeks of uni due to repeat scans and i just didnt want to go back until it was over

biteable

sorry about your loss hun,i know how hard it is.Personaly i wouldnt go to work hun,i waited for it to happen nauraly after being told id miscarried at 7wks 4days and it took til 9wks 3days to happen,but when it did, it happened so suddenly,with no prior warnings,just went to the loo and bang full blown clots etc,theres no way i would hae felt comfortable being anywhere else but home.Once again im so sorry that your having to go through this,sending you big hugs

golcarlilly

Hi so sorry to hear you are having to go through this, it is very difficult to predict when it will start unless you decide to go the medical or surgical routes, I opted for medical, I had started to bleed on Tuesday 15th April, went to A & E on the Wednesday, had a scan on Thursday and they told me I was probably miscarrying and scheduled me a repeat scan for the next week and then I had a massive gush of blood and lots of clots on the Saturday so went for an earlier scan on the following Tuesday but everything hadn't come away so I went for the medical on the following Saturday - I am still bleeding now this is day 29!! I have another appointment today to discuss my options -either repeat medical or go for surgical and I have no idea what to do?!

Personally, if i had the choice from the start again I would go for the surgical I think, just because all this waiting is a total nightmare, I had a week and a half off work and will have to have another few days at least this week, I am just so fed up of bleeding and cramps and just desperate to get back to normal. Having said that, everyone is different, my work are terrible with absenteeism but if you have a good employer and can take time off, waiting to do it naturally could be a viable option for you, I think you do need to be at home if at all possible if you go down this route as it can be traumatic to say the least when it starts to happen

Sorry I have waffled on a bit! I hope you get sorted, we are all here if you need any advice or a shoulder

maccy

I've had a similar experience to you and just coming through my natural miscarriage read my other posts or pm me if you wanna chat, take care hun. xxxxxxxxx

TashaAndBump

So sorry for your loss... Take care x

Happy

I personally wouldn't go to work. I had been bleeding since Friday 9th, I went for my early scan this morning and all they could see was a small sack which was 3mm, no where near the size it should have been at 7 weeks. I was told a miscarriage was inevitable, I had bloods taken and I have to go back on wednesday for more blood to be taken to make sure my levels are going down. About 2 hours after I got home I started with terrible cramping which resulted in me miscarrying this afternoon. It was my first baby and I feel terrible but relief that it happened so quickly. I have been given as much time off as I need by my employers but there is no way I would have gone into work this morning I needed to be in my own home.

I hope your ok and if you have any questions please pm me. x