Hi sweetie, i also have a little girl and although i feel like the luckiest person alive to have her and love her with all of my being, it's nothing to do with anybody else being pregnant or not having children or anything else, it's about u, how u feel and i do understand your heart is breaking, i do believe time is a great healer but it doesnt help at the moment when u are greiving so so much.
My thoughts are with you i just wish you well in the future.
This was my 3rd miscarriage and we had made the plans chosen names, thought about when baby was due (bonfire night) planned birthdays in our daydreamy chats, that he or she could have fireworks parties and everything else that we all do, thinking of you and i hope you find a ray of light in your tunnel x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x

I am so so sorry your feeling like this...and i completely understand!
I lost my little baby at 12 weeks...i would have been 20 now. My midwife later told me that they're pretty sure i was having a little girl..and that has made it so much harder..i keep talking to my baby although i know shes not here anymore. i cant seem to move on, and i've just completely emersed myself in ttc! I know that if i get pregnant its not going replace the baby i lost, and i dont want it to..she was special. I was due September 16th, and its going to be so much harder on that day trying to cope, when all i'll be thinking about is my baby...
Sweetheart, if you ever need to talk, i'm always here..

xxxxx

maddie i am sure you have not embarrased yourself!! Not on here!! It's impossible!! Of course you are still struggling and nobody would think having another baby is a replacement all our angels will never be replaced, we understand!! We all just want babies to love and cherish!! Your baby will always be special to you x x x

Hello there go,
I too understand how you are feeling!! IT SUCKS!!!! I have 3 children and I feel vey blessed to have them I remarried and so very much want a baby with my dh, i had a tl in 93 after my dd was born and now I had remarried in may of 02 and had a tubal reversal in Oct of 02, after a very long wait for a bfp we finally got it in Oct of 07 we were the happest people in the world, but it ended in a m/c it was and still is tearing my heart out. Our baby would have been due next month, and it seems as of late that is all I can think about. I am now getting ready for my 3rd cycle of clomid I only have one good tube. I just want to send you some I will never foget the baby I loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

I know exactly how you feel i lost my baby on 11th April this year and although i have 3 lovely girls already it still does not begin to help the pain i feel i too looked to the future was so sure i was having a boy and picked a name i know i can have another baby and have to look to the future but feel so sad and angry at never being able to know the baby i get mad at myself for missing something i have never known it will get easier as time goes on but when it gets to 28th November(when i was due) it will bring it all back again and at christmas when i should be hanging an extra stocking will feel very sad too you are not alone in your feelings all of us who have lost a baby feel the same take care if you want to talk PM me xx

I know what you mean hun. I'm missing our little baby more than anything. When it first happened, I was so angry with my body for failing me that I shut myself in my bedroom and cut myself I just didn't see how I could carry on, I didn't really want to be alive anymore. I thought if I wished hard enough my heart would stop and I could be with Beau forever. The truth is though, it just isn't my time and no matter what I do, he's not coming back.

Since then I have picked up. I, like Maddie have thrown myself into ttc. I will take home another healthy baby one day. I've got two children whom I love to bits but it doesn't mean the pain is any less when you experience losing a baby.

I hope the pain gets better hun When I found out our baby had died someone said to me, 'What doesn't kill us can only make us stronger'. I honestly believe that. We never forget our little ones we lost but we will come out of this stronger people. I really hope you get a sticky one soon

Hope your feeling little better today hun, thinking of you. This forum been Godsend to me over the last couple of weeks, hope you agree, anytime you need a chat feel free to pm me. x

It doesn't do much good to be fertile and have miscarriage(s). What you said is on the list of what not to say to women who've lost a baby.


I'm sorry OP.