I was in the bathroom, and she said she had something to talk to me about.
She pulled out some of my baby books. She had taken them out of my room. She also pulled out a list of baby things to buy I had made.
She told me I was selfish, and that I had nothing to offer a baby. Okay sure I don't have a lot of money, but to say I have NOTHING to offer a baby is a stretch. She says I can't have a baby til I have my own car, my own house, and a degree-I guess when I'm 30. Did I mention she doesn't even want me to date until I have all those things? SO and I are looking at houses, and if things go according to plan we'll find one in another state. But of course that doesn't count. A car would be easy for me to get, and you don't need a degree to be an entrepreneur. But I'm sure she wouldn't like that either. Not to mention I'm just not very career oriented.
She said if I got pregnant again it would hurt my grandpa. Well, it hurt me when he said my miscarriage was a "sign from God" so maybe we can make it even.
She told me that Nicole Ritchie can have babies cuz she's rich (cuz Nicole Ritchie must be why I want to be pregnant again, it could never be because I lost my dear baby. Whatever b!tch). I guess it never occurred to her that losing a baby can make a woman feel broody.
thats awful! How insensitive! Think everyone on here has had some level of insensitivity, it's just ignorance to others feelings im sure!!! My 'friend' said to me 'your too randy thats your problem, keeps getting pregnant'! WTF!!! (i have had three miscarriages) I put the phone down on her!!!
I think you should tell whoever it was to take a running jump!!! Love is what a baby needs!!! A baby doesn't know or care if you have a mortgage, own or rent their home!!! Makes me so mad paople think you need material things to make a baby happy!!! i am not saying babies dont cost alot of money because they do but as long as they are fed, clothed and clean and most of all loved wheres the problem!!! Much love to you sweetie at this sad time
I assume your quite young and the 'she' is your mother? Even so all of that is awful to say. Don't take it to heart, people like to think they know you better than you know yourself and that isn't true. You know in your heart the reasons for you wanting a baby and that you would do everything to be a great mum. Never let anybody tell you what you can and can't do. If you think you could have a baby and provide for it and give it all the love it needs then it's your decision, nobody else's.
I'm pure shocked by what i assume she (your Mother) has said to you!!! tell her to take up a new hobby that doesn't involve ,making hurtful comments to you, if she's able!!
Money does help, but growing up in a atmosphere that is warm and loving helps even more.
It's my mom. I'm 21, but I'm moving out in a couple months. Like I said, OH and I are moving far, far away if all goes according to plan, and we are already looking for a house.
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OMG thats a horrible thing to say to you!! It's really cruel.
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