I don't know where to start really. I found out I was pregnant with my first on boxing day which was a massive shock as we weren't trying, saying that we were both pleased and this baby was very much wanted from that day.
We had a scare at 8 weeks with some spotting but a scan at 8 weeks 4 days showed baby with a good heartbeat.
Then the world came crashing down on Sat evening when I should have been 11 weeks, I had bad period pains with bleeding and clots, went straight down a&e where I was kept waiting for hours and eventually told to go home and to go back if things got worse.
Sunday evening and monday morning it was much worse so I went back to a&e, this time I was admitted and given a scan. It showed that my baby had died at 9 weeks 5 days.
I was then given my options, to go home and let nature take its course which could take 2 weeks, have tablets to bring on the miscarriage or surgery. I chose the tablets and 11 hours later was allowed to leave the hospital after passing my baby and the placenta. I saw my baby after passing it and I'm not sure if this helped or not.
I just feel so empty and upset now and want to stop crying but can't. There are so many questions that will never be answered, why did this happen? was my baby sick or is there a problem with me that didn't allow my baby to survive? will it happen again?
Its amazing how your world can be so perfect one minute and then for everything to be so dark and to feel so low the next.
I am hoping that things will start to get easier slowly each day although this hasn't happened yet, I am sure it can't be possible to cry much more.
My thoughts are with all those who have had or are going through a similar experience x

Hun Im so very sorry for your loss.

I gave birth to my son at 18 weeks, 3weeks ago tomorrow.
I had a scan at 17 weeks and everything was perfect no problems and then a week later I was told he had passed away. No reasons and when he was born he looked perfect. We are waiting for Post Mortom results.

Its the hardest thing to have to go though no matter what stage you are at.

The questions are natural, noone can tell you if it will happen again(I have had 6 including Jacob) Unfortunately they wont do tests until you have had 3 losses, which I think is disgusting!

Things do get easier, I am starting to get dressed and go out now, Im sure I will fall apart again after his memorial service next Tuesday.

My crying has stopped apart from the little breakdown here an there.
Just take you time and grieve for your child. Take each day as it comes and tell the people that matter exactly how you are feeling. It helps.

Sorry again for your loss, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers xx

Im so sorry for your loss. Its a very difficult time and its natural to have lots of questions. Unfortunately in this situation there are very few answers and I think that somehow makes it harder.

You will have good days and bad, highs and lows, tears and laughter. take each feeling as it comes and allow yourself to grieve for your baby.

Slowly you will start to feel better but take as much time as you want. there are no set rules.

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i am so sorry for ur loss hun.... you are going to have your good days and your bad days.... just keep thinking your little angel is in the best place now and will be lookin down on you...

i currently just lost my little angel at 17 weeks 6 days due to a rare condition called edwards syndrome.... i had to have the tablets to start off the miscarriage and i passed my baby through.. i wanted to look at my baby as if i didnt i would have kicked myself... but other people are different of how they would like to say goodbye...

your in my thoughts and prayers.. i am sorry again
xx

short on words but lots of hugs

Hun, your story resonated with me so much.
We also had a bfp on boxing day, even though we hadn't been trying. We went through every emotion possible - shock, fear, nerves and eventually excitement. Just as we had begun to get used to the idea and start looking forward to the new challenges, our 8 week scan raised concerns. Two weeks later a second scan confirmed that the baby hadn't developed past just over 5 weeks.
We were both devastated, and after deliberating our options I decided to go for a d&c which was scary and physically quite demanding, but I'd hoped this would allow us to recover and move on quite quickly. Unfortunately it didn't quite work out that way, and I'm still recovering both physically and mentally, as I had problems with an infection and am now waiting for a second scan to confirm that I don't need to go through the whole thing again to remove leftover tissues.
It made me realise though that you need to give yourself time to heal, both physically and emotionally, and can't rush that process. I think us girls are used to taking on the world, and so sometimes expect too much of ourselves. It's not a weakness if you want to lock yourself away for a day or two and just have a cry. Even without the additional rush of crazy hormones still swilling around in your body it would be a perfectly natural response to such an emotional rollercoaster.
And although it probably doesn't count for much a the moment, I promise you it does get easier each day. You will probably never have the answers to all of the questions that are buzzing in your head, but eventually things do start to calm down and it stops feeling like you'll never get past this.
In the meantime, you have the thoughts, prayers and virtual hugs of all of us on here.

Thank you ladies for all of your kind words, support and for sharing your experiences. My thoughts are also with you all and your families at these extremely hard times. x

I am really sorry for your loss.
I had a missed miscarriage in december 2007 and they told me to go home and wait 2 weeks if it hadnt passed to call back and they would make me a date for surgery. It didnt pass and I had to have the surgery. It is one of the worst things in life to happen to a person and you never ever get over it, you just learn to live with it.

I am now a mummy to twin girls! I sometimes think what it would have been like now but then I look at my girls and I know it all happened for a reason -- although it doesnt feel it now one day you will look back and remember that feeling it never goes away.

I hope you take the time you need to grieve for your little baby

xxx

Hi, Im so sorry. I had a natural miscarriage on saturday. One minute you'll feel fine then the next angry and sad and guilty but all these things are completely natural. My husband has been great but I'm starting to feel like I'm going on about it too much now. I'm just waiting for the bleeding to stop then I can try again. Im not sure if thats the right thing to do or not and Im sure i'll be so anxious and afraid if I do get pregnant again.

You'll never know why it happened but it's completely normal to try and figure it out. One minute you're pregnant then the next your whole world has changed. No one can tell you why it happened and unfortunately we have to just try and accept it although its very hard.

Dont forget your hormones are all over the place too. if you need to cry then cry. the smallest things affect me. Hopefully every day will get a little bit better. xx

I'm so sorry to read what you've been through and are feeling. I didn't want to read and run, having accessed this site for support myself. I'm thinking of you x