Hi guys,

I'm also opting to go for the medical management option - I go on Monday for the tablet and back on Wednesday. I'm dubious about undergoing a general anaesthetic unecessarily, and I have to admit the list op possible side effects of a D&C scared me a little. I know they have to tell you because there's a very small chance, and it's highly unlikely anything will actually go wrong, but it does make me worry all the same.

I'm just hoping once this is over I can get some sort of closure and start to move on..............

Kat

I had a medical EPRC hun. I understand where you are right now and it's scary but you are not alone. Reading my experience might help - its here My experience of Medical Miscarriage [May be upsetting] - if you need to ask anything please PM me. Sending love. Be kind to yourself -x-

Hi, Katykat, Have just gone through it this week, I started bleeding before the tablet, but took the tablet Weds morning and the process started at home weds night - not pleasant, but the pain is bearable - took two co codamol at the worst point. I had to go to hosp in the end due to blood loss and the rest happened there, I have to say, I was relieved as I knew I was in best place with constant supervision. It was upsetting and the prospect of it was very scary, but you get through it. I was due to go in today for the second part, but scan, yesterday showed everything gone, I did it myself. Sad as it is, I think when the physical side is over, the grieving can begin properly as the anticpation is the worst. If you want to know anything, I am here, and will answer anything. I find it helps to talk, you won't upset me anymore than I feel right now. I got alot of support from the girls on here, graphical details and all, all in preparation, so I knew what I was letting my self in for. xx

Thanks Whyme, that's made me feel a bit better about it all. I think you're right about the grieving beginning, I'm struggling with theo whole idea of being able to deal with our loss while our 'baby' (can't bring myself to say embryo - way too clinical) is still in my uterus.

You HAVE lost a BABY, don't listen to anyone who says otherwise, Those people may mean well sometimes, but makes me so mad. I have my scan to prove it! If it is any consolation, you are going through the worst bit, and that is carrying the baby in your tummy as I didn't want to let go and when I signed the consent form, felt as if I was aborting the baby even though she had already died if that makes sense. There are a few of us gone through it this week and all of us feel some relief that the physical side is over, I was to be blunt petrified and whilst I wouldn't wish it on anyone, it is bearable, painwise and I was prepared for the worst. If proud is the right word, then I am very proud of myself, I got through it, I was very brave and I did it on two paracetamol! When you hold your future baby in your arms, you will cry for this one, but that baby will be extra special cos they may not have been born had this not happened. xx

To everyone, I Just wanted to say, thank you so much for your posts. I started to miscarry on my own the end. The first tablet then just sped things up- I passed lots at home (horrendous, but pain was not too bad), Unfortunately, due to excessive bleeding, couple hours later, had to go to hosp - they had to help me remove the rest., The pain was ok, but the process so so sad and the staff were wonderful. Like you, I am now grieving my baby and healing myself emotionally.

I was so petrified of what was ahead physically and you helped prepare me for that.

I wish you all the best in the future and big hugs - I know exactly what you are going through

Hello Girls, I am so glad I found this thread. Thank you for sharing your stories, such a great help.

I have my share in this sad thread. I discovered that I was preagnant on March 25th on my husband's birthday, what a lovely surprise. My first ever pregnancy. Around 7 weeks I started feeling pains on one side and just as a precaution i went to see GP and she sent me to A&E for tests suspecting ectopic. After 5 long hours in A&E I got my blood test which were fine and was assured no ectopic but asked to come back for scan in 2 days. It was a lovely Friday morning ...until the scan did not show anything which raised chances of its being ectopic, so to cut the long story short I was sent for the surgery. Which was done the same evening under general anasthetic and when I woke up they told me it was not ectopic, it was a live pregnacy in the uteres. I was sent back home and invited to come back for another scan in a week. It was another lovely Friday..and it was lovely we saw the heartbeat and asked to be back in 2 weeks time just to monitor the progress. It was another lovely Wednesday .....and there was no heartbeat anymore.

I think emotionally I felt crushed on the Friday of my surgery, I cried and cried and cried, we went to the car, I shut the doors and cried very loudly and it was so painful...I accepted it then. I understood it was meant to be.

But the torture continued the next 3 weeks when I went from hope to no hope again. Now I feel very empty and emotionally drained and exhausted. I must say medical staff at hospital were very kind to me. I am not from UK and I could not have my mum, or best friend to be with me and though my husband is great, at that moment (first friday) I just needed some motherly support.


So I was diagnosed with missed misscarrage. I chose to go with medical option and I hope it will go well. However after reading the stories I am a bit concerned, I do not have an option to be in a hospital (not late enough) so I will have to be at home and I am scared now if this is managable at home. Did anyone have this experience?

Thank you so much.

Just wanted to say I created a thread ...

Hi, I had little bleeding on saturday, went to a&e and was told it was unlikely I was miscarrying, they didn't do scan as I was due my first scan monday @ 13 weeks, had scan, no baby just the sac, I wasn't told when baby passed away just that is was a silent mc. I am due to start medical management friday too, I have been bleeding off and on, I just want all this all over, I hate myself and my body right now, alll I can think of is my baby and blame myself

Claire, I am so sorry for your loss. Good luck to both of us on Friday.