Edited post as too depressing when u ladies have enough sadness.

I am just so low and im getting no support frm DH and i lost my job today due to being off yet again, this time with a chest infection as im so low my immune system is shot. its 5wks tomorrow since i lost jellybean an my tube.

Im in a sad place right now and DH has given up on us

Hi Hun, I, sorry your having a tough time.

Im sure he hasnt given up on you, but you both sound like you have had a tough time of things lately.

Did you have lots of time off work before with non pregnancy related issues? If they have taken your time off because of your difficulties in pregnancy in to account then they cant legally do that!

You mentioned in a previous post that you Husband works away, is he still away?

My OH finds it very difficult when Im so low- to the point where I think he doesnt care etc, but its just because he doesnt know where to put himself. We usually just need to sit down with a bottle of wine and talk things out. We usually get to the bottom of our feeling and resove any resentment or niggles we have with the way we are both handling things.

If he is still away maybe he to is finding it difficult and doesnt know how to handle it, if he is home you should sit him down and explain how you are feeling.

I lost my Son just over a week ago and I to need to find work so I knw how low you must be feeling.

If you want to talk feel freeto PM me xxxx
Thinking of you xxx

Hope you are okay hun I know how low it can get. It seems like my OH has "moved on" sooner than me. I was okay til yesterday and then got all upset again and he wasn't in that frame of mind...doesn't mean that he won't be tomorrow and I will be feeling okay. It would be easier for everyone if we were all at the same place with our grieving.

I lost my triplet boys at 21 weeks, 4 weeks ago today and the memorial was last Monday so Mondays are always difficult for me. I am at work and don't really want to be here. I feel I am just existing from day to day, no longer living and just want to be with my boys.


Like Jasa said, if they have sacked you for too much time off which can be backed up with a pregnancy related sicknote, then they can't do that.

xx

Sorry to hear you're having such a bad time, AfricaQueen! Things sometimes just pile up. Like the girls say, see if they could have sacked you legally...

Are you sure DH doesn't care? Maybe he just doesn't know what to do... I sometimes have to remind myself of the nice things mine does, as I often have rather negative thoughts.

Hope things start getting a bit better for you!

big to you.

im feeling very similar today, and i almost feel like a failure as its been 2 months to the day since my scan showed i had lost our baby, and one of my friends text me earlier to tell me she was pregnant...just what i wanted to hear

hope you feel better soon hun.

It seems today is a bad day for all of us.

Hugs to you all

xx

Thank u all for support.
I am feeling a tiny bit better. DH is still working away and home on wed so think that is making things much harder at the moment but we need the money so nothing we can do except pray he gets a job locally soon as possible

As regards my job, i was only in my probation mth and my performance had been poor too due to not coping as it is a very target driven job, my boss did give me a few chances and she feels sad for me but overall she has a business to run and i understand that. I am sad in a way that we are losing that extra income but mentally and physically i am glad i have lost it... i never got the chance to recover after my loss and operation as i was in work less than 2wks after it... so im going to see this outcome as positive and get myself back on my feet and healthy body and mind again. I need to feel strong again as i really want us to ttc in may. Im desperate to be pg again but im not rushing it too much as im still fragile.

Dh has been calling me and letting me knw hw much he loves me but he said he does not knw how to act around me anymore. we are both going thru sadness in different ways but he prefers to gloss things over rather than talk things thru

I hope things get better for us all soon and we find some peace of mind and happiness and one day soon hold our babies in our arms and for this feeling of sadness and longing to be gone xxx

lots of hugs I hope you and your DH can talk things out soon and really become closer for it sorry about the job