How do you cope with your due date?

fluffyblue · Jan 15th, 2010, 12:20 PM

Hi girls

My due date was 20th Jan and im dreading it, how do you cope, what do you do, ive never felt like this before about a miscarriage this one has really affected me

The one in September and November didnt even register with me to even think about a due date just think this one I am struggling becuase I saw HB etc 3 times on a scan and it still didnt survive.

How do you cope x

debgreasby · Jan 15th, 2010, 12:36 PM

No words of advice.. i'm still struggling with pregnancy week milestones.

I'm sure someone will be able to share their experiences.

Much love to you, as always xxx

aviolet · Jan 15th, 2010, 12:43 PM

For me personally I kind of lost the attachment I had to my potential due date when my mom suggested the baby's birthday was actually the day I lost her ("the day she woke up in Jesus' arms"). So... in a way the due date is one less date that will pain me as I have no real attachment to it. It'll be a lot harder when October and November come around. I think I'll make a tradition of doing something special in my baby's memory each year. Be it a donation, or volunteer work or just a simply remembrance ceremony between me, my baby, and God, by reading some Scripture and journaling, etc.

I'm sorry for your losses

maratobe · Jan 15th, 2010, 19:46 PM

when our first due date came around, it was soo hard! OH and i had a night together, i got the night off work and we had a dinner and remembered what was, and affter we finished OH said a prayer for our baby!

Drazic<3 · Jan 17th, 2010, 06:04 AM

I am really not sure darling. We will probably just spend time together and do some lanterns for bubs. I think it's going to be a hard day - but don't forget to remember what you have, as well as what you have lost. Will be thinking of you darling

lauraperrysan · Jan 17th, 2010, 12:44 PM

oh fluffy, i am so so sorry. all my miscarriages were so early literally a few days after i got a

i started to loose them

so for me, i have to be honest i made myself forget the due dates, the only one i cant forget was my lil bean who was due xmas day just gone.....that one is very hard to forget!
maybe release a balloon for your angel or try to have the day with just u and oh to feel close to your angel.......
thinking of you

xxxxx

vicwick · Jan 17th, 2010, 13:09 PM

I was thinking about this today, even tho mine is still a long way off, (August) its gonna be really hard as we got so excited when we found out the due date as it was on my late fathers birthday, we took it as a good sign at the time

. It was the anniversary of his death yesterday making it 3 years, i guess thats what got me thinking about it today.

I really hope we can do something to remember them both together, i just don't know what yet

to you, i hope you have lots of support on 20th xx

catfromaus · Jan 17th, 2010, 17:28 PM

I went through my memory box and said a prayer for her. And then I got furious with DH cause he forgot, and to be honest, fighting with him made the day go faster! I won't lie to you, it was a horrible day, and apart from Christmas and the D and C, the hardest day to deal with. Make sure you take some time to remember.

Cat
xxx

Jellyt · Jan 17th, 2010, 17:50 PM

I'm really sorry for your losses

. I'll be honest, the due date is incredibly hard, we spent most of the day not knowing what to do with ourselves and ended up arguing and then just crying together. We brought some forget me nots to plant in the garden and I think doing something like that to remember them helps. I'll be thinking of you on the 20th xxx

Jan 15th, 2010, 12:20 PM	#1
fluffyblue On a break (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: Birmingham UK Posts: 2,543	How do you cope with your due date? Hi girls My due date was 20th Jan and im dreading it, how do you cope, what do you do, ive never felt like this before about a miscarriage this one has really affected me The one in September and November didnt even register with me to even think about a due date just think this one I am struggling becuase I saw HB etc 3 times on a scan and it still didnt survive. How do you cope x

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debgreasby Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Sutton in Ashfield, Notts Posts: 5,561	No words of advice.. i'm still struggling with pregnancy week milestones. I'm sure someone will be able to share their experiences. Much love to you, as always xxx

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Jan 15th, 2010, 12:43 PM	#3
aviolet Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: USA Posts: 2,129	For me personally I kind of lost the attachment I had to my potential due date when my mom suggested the baby's birthday was actually the day I lost her ("the day she woke up in Jesus' arms"). So... in a way the due date is one less date that will pain me as I have no real attachment to it. It'll be a lot harder when October and November come around. I think I'll make a tradition of doing something special in my baby's memory each year. Be it a donation, or volunteer work or just a simply remembrance ceremony between me, my baby, and God, by reading some Scripture and journaling, etc. I'm sorry for your losses

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Jan 15th, 2010, 19:46 PM	#4
maratobe Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Warrnambool Australia Posts: 5,381	when our first due date came around, it was soo hard! OH and i had a night together, i got the night off work and we had a dinner and remembered what was, and affter we finished OH said a prayer for our baby!

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Jan 17th, 2010, 06:04 AM	#5
Drazic<3 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Norfolk, England. Posts: 9,295	I am really not sure darling. We will probably just spend time together and do some lanterns for bubs. I think it's going to be a hard day - but don't forget to remember what you have, as well as what you have lost. Will be thinking of you darling

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Jan 17th, 2010, 12:44 PM	#6
lauraperrysan Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Dorset Posts: 1,882	oh fluffy, i am so so sorry. all my miscarriages were so early literally a few days after i got a i started to loose them so for me, i have to be honest i made myself forget the due dates, the only one i cant forget was my lil bean who was due xmas day just gone.....that one is very hard to forget! maybe release a balloon for your angel or try to have the day with just u and oh to feel close to your angel....... thinking of you xxxxx

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Jan 17th, 2010, 13:09 PM	#7
vicwick Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Tyne and Wear Posts: 1,145	I was thinking about this today, even tho mine is still a long way off, (August) its gonna be really hard as we got so excited when we found out the due date as it was on my late fathers birthday, we took it as a good sign at the time . It was the anniversary of his death yesterday making it 3 years, i guess thats what got me thinking about it today. I really hope we can do something to remember them both together, i just don't know what yet to you, i hope you have lots of support on 20th xx

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Jan 17th, 2010, 17:28 PM	#8
catfromaus Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 1,778	I went through my memory box and said a prayer for her. And then I got furious with DH cause he forgot, and to be honest, fighting with him made the day go faster! I won't lie to you, it was a horrible day, and apart from Christmas and the D and C, the hardest day to deal with. Make sure you take some time to remember. Cat xxx

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Jan 17th, 2010, 17:50 PM	#9
Jellyt Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Leicester, UK Posts: 1,473	I'm really sorry for your losses . I'll be honest, the due date is incredibly hard, we spent most of the day not knowing what to do with ourselves and ended up arguing and then just crying together. We brought some forget me nots to plant in the garden and I think doing something like that to remember them helps. I'll be thinking of you on the 20th xxx

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