To Any BNB member Who has suffered a Miscarriage at Over 35

LucindaE · Jan 2nd, 2010, 12:41 PM

Hello, Lovely Ladies!

to any of you who are feeling very bereft and downhearted now.

I hope you don't mind me intruding here to say that I think a lot of information about the chances of conception and the chances of conveiving easily after miscarriage in women over 35 are unduly pessimistic.

Some medical people - not all of them- do seem to take a very negative view about 'old eggs' and I heard quite a lot of that when I suffered a miscarriage at one month under the age of forty, particularly from some - again not all - of the nurses who seem to take overall a more dismal view to the doctors about fertility in older mothers.

After suffering the sadness of having a missed miscarriage - it had taken five cycles to conceive - I conceived my daughter - now school aged - the next month, around the time of my fortieth birthday.

Do not believe all the 'older woman are so infertile' arguements. I am just one of many I have encountered.

All Good Luck to You All

truly_blessed · Jan 2nd, 2010, 13:22 PM

thanks for your story Lucinda. I was pregnant with my first at age 39 but I found out at the 12 week scan it was a blighted ovum and didn't develop past 5 weeks. I spent my 40th recovering from the D&C (although I was in New York so it kind of makes up for it a bit). The D&C was 23rd nov and I'm just having first (very painful) AF now. I'm hoping to start TTC in march so your story gives me hope .x

Hoolie · Jan 2nd, 2010, 13:29 PM

I had my first child at 36. Everything went okay and she is a healthy 3 year old. I'm now 39 and lost a baby in July/August. We started trying straight after first my period and we conceived first month of trying and am now 15 weeks pregnant (fingers crossed).

Alex

Rumpskin · Jan 2nd, 2010, 13:31 PM

I am 38 and have had 3. We have our first referral for recurrent miscarriage on 27th of this month xxx

lauraperrysan · Jan 2nd, 2010, 13:50 PM

just wanted to say dont let dr's make you think it is just your age....i'm only 22 and i have had 5 miscarriages in the last 2 years. it can be due to plently of other things than just age.
this country doesn't really know when it wants women to reproduce. Looked down on for being a young mother and then made to feel your too old....when is right mr govenment lol xxxx

Hoolie · Jan 2nd, 2010, 14:28 PM

I ada conversation at my MW appointment about have a tubal ligation at the same time as my Ceassearian section if I opt for a cesearian this time round. The midwife advised against it as she said that circumstances can chnage your mind. I pointed out to her my age and she said that the oldest mother she had cared for was 57 years old and she had a beautiful healthy little girl.

She was a fab MW and I won't be opting for a ligation after our conversation.

Alex

LucindaE · Jan 2nd, 2010, 14:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rumpskin

I am 38 and have had 3. We have our first referral for recurrent miscarriage on 27th of this month xxx

So sorry, Rumpskin - that is tough. Don't give up believing that it will all come right for you.

to you, if you will accept them.

Thanks, everyone, for your responses. Glad if I have made anyone feel more positive. Yes, medical people can be disapproving if they think you are not the perfect age, according to their rules either too young or too old.
Miscarriage may be common, but it is so bitter and disappointing when it happens.

As many

to all of you as you wish in the future!

XXX to you all.
Lucinda

tiggerlix · Jan 2nd, 2010, 14:41 PM

im 35 and pregnant..my m/w didnt seem that concerned about my age,she was more concerned with change of partner

fluffyblue · Jan 2nd, 2010, 15:01 PM

im 37 and have had 6 losses - 5 MC and 1 ectopic since i was 35!

The eqq quality does start depleting after a certain age however this does not cause miscarriage it just may take longer to conceive !!

My last appointment at the recurrent miscarriage clinic I asked about my age and she told me 60% of the women registered with the clinic are over 35. I do think there is some attribute to age however I would never class it as a cause !!

thanks for your info xxx

truly_blessed · Jan 2nd, 2010, 15:15 PM

ah Heather so 40% are under 35 and still registered with the clinic. my glass is well and truly half full, literally tonight x

Jan 2nd, 2010, 12:41 PM	#1
LucindaE Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Mid Wales Posts: 143	To Any BNB member Who has suffered a Miscarriage at Over 35 Hello, Lovely Ladies! to any of you who are feeling very bereft and downhearted now. I hope you don't mind me intruding here to say that I think a lot of information about the chances of conception and the chances of conveiving easily after miscarriage in women over 35 are unduly pessimistic. Some medical people - not all of them- do seem to take a very negative view about 'old eggs' and I heard quite a lot of that when I suffered a miscarriage at one month under the age of forty, particularly from some - again not all - of the nurses who seem to take overall a more dismal view to the doctors about fertility in older mothers. After suffering the sadness of having a missed miscarriage - it had taken five cycles to conceive - I conceived my daughter - now school aged - the next month, around the time of my fortieth birthday. Do not believe all the 'older woman are so infertile' arguements. I am just one of many I have encountered. All Good Luck to You All

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 13:22 PM	#2
truly_blessed Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: North West, UK Posts: 2,213	thanks for your story Lucinda. I was pregnant with my first at age 39 but I found out at the 12 week scan it was a blighted ovum and didn't develop past 5 weeks. I spent my 40th recovering from the D&C (although I was in New York so it kind of makes up for it a bit). The D&C was 23rd nov and I'm just having first (very painful) AF now. I'm hoping to start TTC in march so your story gives me hope .x

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 13:29 PM	#3
Hoolie Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 625	I had my first child at 36. Everything went okay and she is a healthy 3 year old. I'm now 39 and lost a baby in July/August. We started trying straight after first my period and we conceived first month of trying and am now 15 weeks pregnant (fingers crossed). Alex

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 13:31 PM	#4
Rumpskin Other BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 7,261	I am 38 and have had 3. We have our first referral for recurrent miscarriage on 27th of this month xxx

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 13:50 PM	#5
lauraperrysan Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Dorset Posts: 1,882	just wanted to say dont let dr's make you think it is just your age....i'm only 22 and i have had 5 miscarriages in the last 2 years. it can be due to plently of other things than just age. this country doesn't really know when it wants women to reproduce. Looked down on for being a young mother and then made to feel your too old....when is right mr govenment lol xxxx

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 14:28 PM	#6
Hoolie Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 625	I ada conversation at my MW appointment about have a tubal ligation at the same time as my Ceassearian section if I opt for a cesearian this time round. The midwife advised against it as she said that circumstances can chnage your mind. I pointed out to her my age and she said that the oldest mother she had cared for was 57 years old and she had a beautiful healthy little girl. She was a fab MW and I won't be opting for a ligation after our conversation. Alex

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 14:41 PM	#8
tiggerlix Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: cornwall,uk Posts: 1,867	im 35 and pregnant..my m/w didnt seem that concerned about my age,she was more concerned with change of partner

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 15:01 PM	#9
fluffyblue On a break (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: Birmingham UK Posts: 2,543	im 37 and have had 6 losses - 5 MC and 1 ectopic since i was 35! The eqq quality does start depleting after a certain age however this does not cause miscarriage it just may take longer to conceive !! My last appointment at the recurrent miscarriage clinic I asked about my age and she told me 60% of the women registered with the clinic are over 35. I do think there is some attribute to age however I would never class it as a cause !! thanks for your info xxx

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 15:15 PM	#10
truly_blessed Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: North West, UK Posts: 2,213	ah Heather so 40% are under 35 and still registered with the clinic. my glass is well and truly half full, literally tonight x

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