However you resolve this Fluffyblue they are both very lucky to have a Mum who loves them and caresas much as you

Oh hun it really does sound like you're doing everything you can and everything a committed and loving mother should do. I guess what works for one child doesn't necessarily work for another, the same as with any parenting stage from what I can tell so far.

Just hang in there and try and enjoy your Christmas with the family and then in the New Year sit him down and try and have another chat with him about how he would like to see things change and maybe he could come up with some suggestions for moving forward that you can consider and maybe compromise on (as I can imagine his suggestions could may well test the boundaries you've already set him). Good luck and keep us posted.



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Aw hun, I can relate to how you feel. I have an 8yo daughter who can be very hard work, she is hyper, demanding and sometimes so rude to me I cringe and wonder where I went wrong with her. My 3 yr old however is a totally different child, very calm, happy and doesn't answer back / give me cheek - YET lol!
Because Lauren (3yo) is so much easier than Kay (8yo) we have a much better relationship which in turn makes Kay very jelous and I can understand that.
Sometimes I feel so mad with Kay and just can't bring myself to hug her and tell her she is just as important to me yet I know that is probably the one thing that may mend it all.

Perhaps try spending some one on one time with your son, giving him the attention he needs, ecplaining why you're so angry and that it isn't just because of what he has done but that you're still grieving. maybe he needs your recognition as well, needs to know he is just as important. I think they older they get the more we expect them to deal with things. Saying all that I think I need to take my own advice with Kay.

Don't worry hun, you're not alone. Sending you a big hug and feel free to pm if you even need to chat or just someone to listen x

Well all the good work of the last three days blew up this morning and I give up and to be honest I cannot be bothered with him like this over xmas.

I have just told him "I am the boss and while under my roof he abides by my rules" and then totally ignored all his moaning after.

I switched off broadband completely last night so neither of them could get on and have told him if he comes home in the same mood then ill do it again.

So for now its wait and see !!

You go girl! Don't let him walk all over you, especially when you are down already xxx