maddiwatts19

Rumpskin

You poor button.

Your friend sounds very jealous of you first of all. That is why she is behaving the way she does. Guess she does not want anything getting in the way of the two of you.

I am sorry that you feel the way you do about someone who is pregnant. Your pregnancy is still very much so fresh in your mind.

Sending you a hug xxx

jojosalmon

I dont think you are being unreasonable to want your friend to act like a friend hunni.

MrsF

aww hun, you are certainly not stupid

just wanted to send you some hugs

shockd&amazed

I can totally imagine what you feel. A good mate of mine has recently had a baby and, while I was pregnant I was really thrilled and loved talking about it, but now I've lost my second I just feel i want to not go there!
Don't want to see pics, do't want to talk about it! I love the little baby to bits but it's just too raw.
Don't worry or analyse these things. You are going to feel a lot of strange things after a loss.
Hope you are doing OK xx

honeybunch2k7

No, you are not stupid. The jealousy you feel is normal. I felt/feel it a lot towards pregnant women and women with babies all the time.

Don't feel guilty for feeling jealous.

maddiwatts19

xclairex

babe dont feel stupid of course ur aloud to feel this way and everyone would i still feel jealous wen i hear people are pregnant or i see babies its so upsetting i lost both my babies an cant wait to get pregnant again but of course scared! u feel what u want hun cos u can!! x

Schmelly

I had to get all excited when I heard that my best friend's brother and his wife are 12 weeks along, just yesterday. I really am pleased for them...but I also feel sick with jealousy. I want it to be me. Instead of a BFP, I've got dear ol' AF paying me a visit...again.

I find it hard when I'm out and about too. I had an attack of jealousy at the supermarket at the weekend. It seemed that every woman I passed was either visibly pg, or had a baby in the trolley. BUT (big but!), I then stopped and made a conscious effort to think..."these ladies could be the girls from B&B...and if it was any of those fab girls then I would be pleased for them".

It helped me. Of course I'm not a saint and I still felt deeply jealous...but it helped me to get things into perspective and remind myself that all those ladies had a right to be happy and have children, and it's not their fault that I'm still waiting.

I think all your feelings are perfectly natural. It doesn't help those feelings to know that it's natural.........but maybe it could help you to stop beating yourself up for feeling those things. You can't help it! Just be patient with yourself.

Schmelly

And another thing..............

You are also completely normal for wishing your 'friend' could be happy, excited and pleased for you. Especially if you see her reacting like this for other people. That must be hard. I agree that she sounds jealous of you, so maybe she is having her own internal battles. But that doesn't mean you don't wish she could be there for you a little more, through good times AND bad.

Maybe you need to have an honest chat with her...if you feel strong enough? She obviously means a lot to you, if she is your MoH, and with the important friendships I think you have to work on them the same as with a marriage, etc. Try to keep the lines of communication open and don't avoid the big things as they may eventually cause an irreparable rift.

Good luck.