lauren709

Hi ladies! So last year in December 08 I found out I was pregnant, I guess around 16dpo, went to the doctors, got a scan done at 6w2d and heard my little beans heartbeat! They said everything was going well EXCEPT I had what was called a "subchorionic hemorrhage" anyways it was really small though and they told me it was nothing to worry about as they had seen people with larger hemorrhages who turned out perfectly normal but just as a precaution my doctor put me on progesterone pills, about 5-6 days later I started spotting, I didnt think it was that bad at the time but I called my doctor and she told me to go in for a 2nd scan, I went in and they could no longer find a heartbeat on my little bean I went home and miscarried that very night, I passed the tissue,placenta,everything and had to go back for a 3rd scan to make sure everything was out, while at the scan the technician checked my ovaries,uterus,etc and told me everything looked fine, she even commented that I had abundant number of follicles and they deduced the miscarriage to just being unexplained. I was devastated and unfortunately hubby had to travel on business after that so we didnt end up trying again until last month, I didnt get pregnant but got pregnant now my 2nd month of trying, I havent had a dr's appt yet as it's still very early but Im just absolutely terrified to have another mc, it was the most painful thing I've ever been through, both physically and emotionally and I know that there are some women out there who have suffered 2 or 3 mc's and then go on to have a healthy child but frankly I don't think I'm that strong or brave to go through another one, anywas I just wanted to ask if any of you have gone on to have a healthy child following a mc? What did you do to help ease your fears and concerns?Thanks ladies, all of you who have suffered a mc are truly brave, it really is the hardest thing in life.

Jolene

Sending your way. I feel the same about being pg again. I know I will be terrified when I fall pg again and so are all the ladies out there who have mc'd before. My doc also said everything looks fine and it's just one of those things that cannot be explained, but I know that doesn't take away the fear and anxiety. Good Luck with everything and congrats on your

littleblonde

hello. I miscarried my 1st as well. It was early i think around 6 weeks. But i was still devastated. I then found out i had pcos. I got pregnant and started spotting at the exact same time. I was worried about progesterone but my doctor wouldnt check my levels as had only had 1 loss. Im 26 weeks pregnant now. Its hard hun and you will never relax, at least i cant. But you do have hope.

Las78

Hi Hun, first of all big congratulations, really pleased for you.

I too lost my little boy (haematoma too) at 17w back in Feb and fell preg in August, am now 16 weeks and all is looking ok albeit no end of probs from week 5 as was told at week 13 I was mc a twin.

Anyway, I totally understand how you feel - I was really scared when I found out, didn't dare let myself get any hopes up, I too didn't feel strong enough to cope with another loss and OH and I decided if it happened this time there was going to be no more, I was a bag of nerves, constantly anxious, my head felt all over the place, it was affecting me as a person and my job.
I had regular scans and this did nothing other than to reassure me for a few minutes then it was back to worry, worry and more worry till the next scan!
Only now at 16 weeks am I feeling slightly more relaxed although I am desperate now for another scan (in a week and a bit), the wierd thing is I will be scanned on the day I am 17w 5 which is the day I lost in Feb, if that one is ok then I will let myself get excited but not till then and even then I will be constantly aware and scared of something going wrong. Until my baby is born I will not be entirely happy that everything is ok.
I once remember someone saying that a mc takes away all the joys of subsequent pregnancies and that is so true.

The only thing that has helped me is just taking one day at a time and accepting that I am not in control of this, it has taken a while to get here though.

I would try and see your midwife asap, if you're worried express this. My midwife is a fantastic support, I couldn't have asked for anyone better. I spent my first appt in tears and she had me in for a scan the next day purely to ease my anxiety, bless her. Don't be afraid to tell them how you're feeling hun.

Try and remember hun, that one mc does not mean you will have another.

As hard as it is try and keep positive and I have everything crossed for you that your little bean hangs in there and that you have a very healthy pregnancy.

Take Care x