I had a missed miscarriage and found out just over a week ago via an early scan. I chose to wait and see if things progressed naturally which they did today. I wanted to share my story because other's have shared their's and I found them really helpful.

The pain and bleeding began at about 1am (ish) this morning. The pain got steadily worse over the later morning. It came in waves and just felt like the period pain I have always had to put up with. I was coping with it until around midday when it just became unbearable. I had been bleeding heavily and passed quite a few clots and what I believed to be the sac. That happened whilst I was in the bath trying to get some relief from the pain.

What would happen is that the pain would come in a wave and when it was almost done, I could feel a flow of blood. I was changing pads regularly - probably every 20-30 minutes.

My lovely other half phoned the hospital and they said to bring me into casualty so I could be referred to a ward. I really didn't want to go because I wanted to be in my own home and because I didn't think I would make it without needing the bathroom.

When I arrived at A&E I was doubled over in pain and was taken straight to a private cubicle/room. The staff were wonderful and soon had me hooked up to a drip and adminstered pain relief and anti-nausea medication.

A female gynochology doctor examined me a few times over the course of a couple of hours. She located and removed the fetal tissue during one examination. She said she thought that it was probably complete but gave me the choice of either going home with codeine for pain relief, going home having taken one dose of Cytotec to soften the cervix with another to take at home several hours later or being admitted to the ward for an overnight stay so they could continue with the morphine if I felt I needed it.

I was given time to make a decision about whether to stay in or not. Obviously I wanted to go home and be in my own comfort zone but I was worried about the pain coming back. I eventually chose to come home as the waves of pain were much softer after the fetal matter was removed. I have been home and comfortable ever since.

The pain was pretty awful. I was constantly moving around and on the loo. I threw up probably eight or ten times before going to hospital and then again a couple of times when I got there. I honestly didn't think I would make it to the hospital without having to use the loo (too much information, sorry ) but fortunately I did. I was only a short journey but quite harrowing when in so much pain.

Having had this experience, I would say to anyone else in the same position not to hesitate going to A&E if you feel you can't cope with the pain. I does feel like I imagine labour to feel like. I have always had very painful periods and this was more painful. All members of staff were absolutely lovely. So much so that we're going to take in some flowers and choccies when we go back in next week for the scan to make sure everything has been expelled.

oh hunny its not a nice thing to experience mine was finally over on thursday, the pain was unbearable and I don't know how I got through it, I am still in pain and on tramadol now to ease it. The hospital I went to were amazing and were so supportive. Everyone has been so wonderful and are looking after me. Make sure you get plenty of rest and don't rush back into anything. I am hating not doing much but know its for the best, its a hard thing to deal with. I found the whole experience very traumatic and hard to deal with the emotional pain is still hard but less painful take care hun, if you want to chat i am here xxx

Oh sweetheart, thank you for being so brave and sharing your story. Here for you anytime angel -x-

Thank you so very much for sharing. Your post and Drazic's have been invaluable. It was what I needed to read.

I am having a missed MC. At 9 weeks, I had some brown spotting and went to EPU. The scan showed baby oly measured 5-6 weeks with no heartbeat. I was told to come back 10 days later. Scan didn't show any change. I am now 11 weeks and waiting for a natural loss but no much is happening. My bleeding is picking up but nowwhere near a regular period flow. It is just mixed with cervical mucus (TMI sorry).

I am going to call EPU on MOnday as I have given the natural option a good chance.

Forgot to ask how much the painkillers at the hospital helped. Also, did it hurt when the gyna removed the tissue?

Hi

I'm glad you shared your experiences with us, I think if you ever feel 'this is too much' then its a wise move to go to the hospital, there is no right or wrong with this. I went through similar coming up to 2 months back now. I have a very high pain threshold but when in established labour it goes out of the window (I have three boys; last two were precipitous and very scary painful labours); so I was surprised at quite how relatively 'pain-free' my miscarriage was but the amount of bleeding shocked me, I think I must have had a very thick lining. I knew the bleeding was not uncontrollable though as it stopped completely inbetween the 'contractions'. I threw up once as well but nowhere near as bad as you, poor lamb. I felt faint and dizzy at one point as well but I realised that it was mainly due to just the whole ick factor (I'm quite squeamish) as there was one point where the placenta got jammed half in, half out, it 'went right through me' so to speak; but lying down helped. Dh and I did consider going to hospital but decided against it (the hospital with the good epau can get very very busy and their A&E is packed so didn't fancy being stuck in the waiting room or anywhere else there waiting for them to come and help) and once the placenta was out (took a few 'contractions'); the bleeding died down to a very light flow and physically, I felt totally fine again like none of it had just happened. I wouldn't choose to do it again but then again if it did happen again, I would choose to try to let it happen naturally before doing anything else as anything medical doesn't really agree with me.

Soph x

mke, I hope your physical and emotional pain ease up for you soon.

Thanks Drazic, your post really helped me so much.

sk100, I hope things come to a conclusion quickly for you. If you feel you have waited long enough, you should definitely go into hospital and have it helped along. I'm thinking of you.

The pain relief they gave me was intravenous morphine and it was a Godsend. It totally took the edge off and then some. I calmed down completely and was finally able to be comfortable. I could still feel the contractions but they weren't painful, just a little uncomfortable.

It didn't hurt when the Dr removed the tissue. I would guess that was because of the morphine and also because I guess it was just floating around inside me. She asked me if I wanted to see it which I did. It was light in colour and kind of looked like smooth rope. My baby was measured at 6mm at my scan so I wasn't able to make out the foetus.

sophster, you poor thing. You were so brave not having gone to the hospital. I know how you feel, I really didn't want to go but hubby insisted as the pain had obviously become so much worse. Having had to go through several contractions to get the placenta out sounds like a harrowing experience. I'm surprised you didn't actually pass out.

Big hugs to all of you. Having this place to rely on for advice and experiences has been such a help for so many of us by the sounds of it.

Thank you Bingo. That is very helpful for me to know. I think my waiting has gone on long enough and so I think I will have to call the hospital tomorrow.

I wish you a speedy recovery and much happier times ahead.

Started miscarrying a set of twins (7+6) last Sunday and passed the first baby on Sunday. Was booked in for an early scan on Monday morning and they told me there was also another complete sac and foetus also in the process of being passed out. I was really surprised there was a 2nd baby and disappointed. On Monday afternoon started to have severe cramps like contractions and passed the 2nd baby later in the afternoon which I found really traumatic and shocked by the size. I'm still bleeding today but starting to feel better. I coped with the pain by going for a walk with a husband to take my mind off it and took 1 painkiller which helped a lot. to all who have gone through it as it's not a nice experience at all.