Hi im new on here, just wanted to share my story, im an emotional wreck at the moment, went for my antenatal scan and book in this morning to be told i had silently miscarried my baby measured 11weeks which is what it should measure by dates and a previous scan, but there was no fetal heartbeat, it can only be assumed its happened over last few days, i had felt a bit muggy but nothing more than a cold. Ive opted for a D+C but the earliest appointment is on tuesday. Im so anxious and worried it may happen naturally before then as ive already started getting period type cramps, not bleeding of yet. I dont know if i could handle seeing my baby, hence ive took this option. Any advice would be greatly appreciated x

Im so so sorry for your loss.I also had a silent miscarriage with no heartbeat detected at my routine dating scan, i also opted for the d&c.Its hard to accept when it just comes out of no-where and it feels like someones hit you with a ton of bricks.Take care of yourself, eat well and get plenty of rest because its so very draining emotionally and physically.Take soluble solpadiene for the cramps, i found they were the best.The d&c was scary but i found afterwards that i had worried for no reason.It was quick and i was home by the afternoon, the nurses were very kind i was hysterical by the time i went in and the nurse held my hand and was very kind.There was cramps afterwards but not very much bleeding.If you ever need to talk feel free to pm me or just post on here as everyone is very understanding and they've all been through it.If you have any questions or just need a rant we're here Thinking of you and sending hugs

I am so so sorry for your loss sweetheart. I found out a week today that my baby has died at 10 weeks, also a MMC. I was angry, sad, devastated, shocked...everything you are describing. If it puts your mind at ease at all, the further on you are the less likely you are to go into natural MC. I went 6 days and tried everything possible to bring it on naturally and I had nothing other than the odd cramp. Thinking of you sweetheart, it's cliché, but time is the only healer and I promise it will begin to feel better with time. Huge

I am sorry for your loss.I am going through this hell at the moment too. I decide to see if I could mc naturally. I did not and was booked in for surgery on 11th nov. I ended up not needing the surgery as nature finally took charge. It took along to time for the pregnancy to expel. I don't know what I was expecting to happen but what did was nothing like I ever imagined. It took a long time and was painful, and still is. My advice to you is do what feels right for you. At the time waiting seemed like the best option for me but I wish I had gone the surgery route as seeing the misscarriage was very disturbing and painful. My other advice to you is rest, wear comfy clothes and eat properly. You probably don't feel like eating I still don't but my friend is making me eat! and I know she is right. Remember to grieve you are experiencing a huge loss. the physical pain will go, but the emotional pain will never go it will just get easier over time. Remember everyone deals with things in their own way, this is a very personal individual thing, what ever you have decided I am sure will be the right choice for you. Remember your family and friends they will want to be there to support you. I have had the most wonderful friends throught this and don't know what I would have done without them. Take care of yourself and if you want a chat I am happy to talk to anyone its sometimes easier talking through it with someone going through it xxxxx

I found the more i did the more pain and bleeding i had! I would say put your feet up eat well and be strong.

It took me 9 weeks to miscarry fully and that was after i had medical managment, they eventually realised i still had retained products and did the erpc last saturday! My story is unusual though!.

Be kind to yourself too.. your hormones will be all over mine got to about the 11 week mark before they started to drop! The hormones really do play a part in the upset of it all.

Thanks for your kind words of support they really do help, im trying to rest but my daughter has a dance competition this weekend and im having to try stay strong for her and had to come as i couldnt do it to her. I have not told her yet also as i didnt want to spoil her weekend and she is only 7 and found out i was pregnant a few weeks ago after someone slipped up. Ive notice today ive had pre-period type cramps in my lower back, but can only assume this is because ive been unable to rest much, and wont be able to till tomorrow night x :'(

Sorry to add and i dont know how to feel on this been reading bits, and was wondering before my D&C do i request another scan, as although ive had some signs im still finding it hard to except everythin in view of baby did measure correct dates?? or is this normal part of grief/acceptance??? sorry to woffle x

if you are concerned and feel there maybe a chance you are still pregnant i would demand a second scan. Part of me choose to wait and see in hope they had gotr it wrong and was hoping when they next scanned to see the heartbeat. I had 'normal'pregnancy symptoms all the way up till last sunday the day I began to bleed. I had sicknes, sore breast etc and then it suddenly stopped. Everyones body reacts differently. The hospital where I a went were amazing and if I were unsure I know they would have scanned me if I asked. You are the only one who knows your body, if you feel you want them to check ask them. I hope all works out for you xxxxxxxx

make sure you get a second scan because if you don't hun your mind will never rest, i had a second scan even though i knew i had passed bub the morning before just to make sure before i had my dnc to remove the bits of tissue left, it took me 7 days of hard bleeding, contractions and pain before passing my angel and my dnc was on the 8th day so if you are having no bleeding i wouldn't worry, so sorry for your loss we all know how you are feeling and there isn't a single word to make you feel better at the minute but just know we are all here to support each other any time
lots of love xxxxx

Definatly request one, i had no signs and deep down i knew but i needed the closure.I wouldnt have been comfortable going ahead unless i had gotten the second scan and if theres even so much as an ounce of doubt in your mind you always be thinking what if.I think i only fully accepted it was all true when i read my chart outside the theatre before i went in, i saw the pictures and read all the notes and i felt calmer knowing for sure as it would have played on my mind unless i gotten that closure.I think its a normal reaction, its so hard to believe that its happening with mmc as theyres no signs, hope your ok