hi all, found out monday 2nd nov) i was pregnant after ttc for 4yrs, as u can imagine we was over the moon, but 2 days later i started to notice brown discharge so i went to the hospital and they did a scan, i saw my little bubble and the doc said all was healthy but bit early to see a heartbeat so i was asked to come back in 2 weeks time. But it got to friday and i was having mild cramps and more brown stuff got quite worried but assumed it was normal as this was my first pregnancy! sat morning i woke to what was like theee worst period pain so i rushed to the toilet and all i saw was blood, went to a&e and they did my bloods and said i havent miscarried and my hormone levels where about right at 6600 at 5 weeks pregnant i was then asked to come back for a scan on monday, things calmed down on sunday so i was hoping it was just nothing but on monday the nurse scanned me and said my baby was gone and my womb was completely empty soo gutted ive been crying my eyes out since its so unfair and i dont understand why this has happened. Does anybody know if its easier to get pregnant again after being pregnant b'cause we was trying for so long, im finding it hard to see happiness at the end of this awful experience ~

xx lea xx

Oh sweetheart...Im so sorry for your loss.Thinking of you.Sending you massive cuddles! Take one day at a time sweetie.

I'm so sorry. This must just be devastating for you having been trying for so long.

It was, but im told it happens for a reason, and my baby may not have been developing. i hate it that the docs call it pregnancy products. its my baby, weather it was just cells still it was still our baby and its soo heart breaking. Im lucky to have such a supportive fiance and family x x

Poor you. The worst for me is this "come for the scan in two days". This waiting was killing me. the false hope. the docs saying there is nothing we can do...
Hold on babe. I understand your pain. I'm so sorry

Hi hun

I went through something similar six weeks ago; we were not trying for as long as you but it was still a very long time, its really gutting; we already had kids but I've had on and off fertility and menstrual problems forever really but it never occured to us that our long tried for pregnancy this time would end in a miscarriage especially since I'd had a threatened miscarriage in my first pregnancy and all was well (and quite a lot of minor bleeding and spotting in my two other successful pregnancies as well). I was very lucky to be treated by a hospital with very sympathetic and understanding staff (well aside from the male gynacologist who explained our options; he was pretty blunt and dismissive but he was the only one). In some ways it has affected my poor dh more than me as he is very very broody and I know this has affected him emotionally more deeply than me. He was really making plans around the new baby and now that is all gone and he doesn't know what to do with himself .

Soph x

I also find that my husband deals with the losses much worse than me. Seeing me in pain, ill, devastated - I don't think he copes with it at all even though he pretends to be the strong one.
It's hard to them when you're in pieces yourself. People who haven't gone through it just don't understand that the miscarriage affects the whole family...

Im so sorry for your loss, in response to your question i have read that you are most fertile for the 3 months following a mc.There are many woman on here with success stories following a loss im sure,some have tried as long as you have aswell.There is a light at the end of the tunnel, that i am sure of although i understand its hard to see following such a devastating experiance. Thinking of you and your oh and hope your all doing ok

I completely understand how you feel as I have been ttc for over 2 years now. If it helps, the midwife told me that quite often people who have been through a miscarriage are back at the EPAU a few months later having conceived again as its easier to get pregnant soon after.

I went for my scan last week at 11weeks 3 days and was told that the pregnancy failed about five weeks ago but I haven't miscarried. This came as such a shock to me and husband who was with me, as you expect everything to be fine, I didn't have any signs there might be a problem. I was told I needed another scan a week later to "double check" this was the case but it was confirmed yesterday that it isn't viable. Waiting that week with a seed of hope that it might turn out OK was so upsetting.

I have now opted for medical miscarriage (tablets) and took the first one yesterday. Back in hospital tomorrow for the second course to finish things. Emotionally I think I will be scarred for life, I don't know how nature can be so cruel.

Is anyone going through medical miscarriage at the moment? I'm scared about tomorrow, haven't had any signs of the mc yet but praying it will happen today so I don't have to go through it at the hospital tomorrow.

i really feel for you, but im guessing your feeling worse, i only had a week to get my head around being pregnant and exactly a week later it was all over, its so sad, getting your hopes up! was told on the saturday i was still pregnant and then monday came and i wasent, i knew the baby had gone because the amount of blood and the size of the clots, hope it went okay for u and it wasnt too painfull. My bleeding has stopped ten days after it started and cramps are gone thank god ! but since the m/c started i havent been off the toilet (no2) lol and it hurts to go ! im wondering if this is anything to do with the m/c? x x thanks all for your support, atleast now i know i can get pregnant and the next pregnancy hopefully will be a sucessful one <3 x