Hi, I'm new here. My midwife advised me to come here for support.
I found out today that my baby has died some time ago. It's my second miscarriage. I lost a pregnancy in August and accidentally fell pregnant stright after (no period). It wasn't planned as I was totally devastated after loosing the baby. But with this pregnancy everyone was so encouraging saying it must be a miracle baby etc (we had sex only once and I conceived...). With all dates mixed up I had the dating scan today. Unfortunately started bleeding yesterday and had a very bad feeling.
And here I am. Losing another baby. I took so much Kalms that I only feel numb. I totally lost it in hospital, just couldn't calm down.
I was told to wait for things to happen naturally as it has already started (bleeding is getting heavier). Signed off again.
I'm very worried what will happen to me now. I'm not myself anymore.I didn't recover after the first miscarriage and now this...
I've got a 4 and a half-year-old little girl and I put on a "normal" face for her.

It all sucks. I'm so angry.

Ashii

hug hun am so sorry you are going through this again. if you need to talk please pm.

so sorry to hear you're going through this - my situation is somewhat similar, m/c in august (at 14 weeks) then conceived 2 months later, sooner than we'd planned. now waiting to complete my second m/c, realizing i am totally not "over" the first. i don't have kids to put on a cheery face for, just a husband who wants to try again as soon as possible.

wising you all the best - r.

Thanks guys.
I feel devastated but also very, very angry. Like breaking something or screaming so loud that I lose my voice.
I'm losing my mind. Time, I need time.

Do you stay off work at all?

oh hun i am so sorry to hear this, i have only had one miscarriage but i do know the pain of it. We are all here to listen anytime you want. Of course your feeling angry thats completley normal. PM me if you want to chat about anything.

take as long off work as you need hun, i was off for nearly 2 weeks.

i took a week of but decided to go back as sitting around was driving me mad. but you can self certify for a week and my gp said he would sign me off longer if i needed it. i felt so angry and and was so mean to my oh as i felt he didn't get how i was feeling. but he was giving me space!

ive been off 8 weeks now due to complications more than anything though. but i would have said it took me 4 weeks to feel emotionally strong again so i would have returned after 4 weeks.

Just go back to work when you feel well in yourself.

first time i took a week off (half of it in hospital, second half stayed home and went to the ocean with my husband - i do recommend getting to water, somehow it seems to help to look out into the vastness...)

this time i only will if i have physical reasons, but my job isn't mentally very involved so i can space out or chat here off and on.