OH doesn't understand

Lynda09 · Nov 7th, 2009, 06:32 AM

Hi everyone I suffered an early mc a few months ago which I am grieving for but I get times where I get really upset and all rational thoughts go out the window. I feel like I really want a baby but the previous pregnancy was unplanned so oh doesn't want a baby he's not ready and doesn't understand why I feel like this. I don't think he will ever get it because he's not a woman but it upsets me so much that he doesn't want the same thing as me. I feel like I want my baby but also I know I can't have him/her but I also want to be pregnant and try again.

Thank u for listening

Lynda

Las78 · Nov 7th, 2009, 07:35 AM

cazza22 · Nov 7th, 2009, 13:02 PM

Awww hun hope ur ok, men sometimes just dont understand what us women want. I was ready for a baby years ago as we had been together for 6 years at that point but my fella was saying to wait a little longer which broke my heart why he didnt want what i wanted?? He wanted kids but we had always planned on doing some travelling, but i longed for a baby. Anyway we started trying over 2 years ago now and have had 2 pregnancys but they have both ended in miscarriage

it has made us stronger & more determined to be parents. Sit him down & explain to him how you feel just dont hold back hun he needs to hear it. Good luck with ttc in near future chicken & hope u get things sorted :-) sending lots of hugs x x x Caz x x x

sophster · Nov 7th, 2009, 13:33 PM

Hi hun

sorry your OH is not being understanding; but its possible maybe he does want another, but he is worried about this happening again, and men sometimes have a funny way of showing they're scared by just avoiding or denying anything. So try to keep an open mind. Communication is very important so try to stay calm and work through this together.

Soph x

K8YVW · Nov 8th, 2009, 07:50 AM

Aww hun, i know what you mean. My hubby as been so so supportive but he just doesnt understand. Not once has he cried for our loss and he thinks i should be moving on with things but i cant, im heartbroken, it hurts so much

I suppose to be going back to work tomorrow and he thinks i should and isnt listening to why i dont want to. I know its hard for men but i just wish he could understand me a bit more. Hugs to you hun xxxx

Nov 7th, 2009, 06:32 AM	#1
Lynda09 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Wiltshire,UK Posts: 385	OH doesn't understand Hi everyone I suffered an early mc a few months ago which I am grieving for but I get times where I get really upset and all rational thoughts go out the window. I feel like I really want a baby but the previous pregnancy was unplanned so oh doesn't want a baby he's not ready and doesn't understand why I feel like this. I don't think he will ever get it because he's not a woman but it upsets me so much that he doesn't want the same thing as me. I feel like I want my baby but also I know I can't have him/her but I also want to be pregnant and try again. Thank u for listening Lynda

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Nov 7th, 2009, 07:35 AM	#2
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Nov 7th, 2009, 13:02 PM	#3
cazza22 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Manchester Posts: 2,254	Awww hun hope ur ok, men sometimes just dont understand what us women want. I was ready for a baby years ago as we had been together for 6 years at that point but my fella was saying to wait a little longer which broke my heart why he didnt want what i wanted?? He wanted kids but we had always planned on doing some travelling, but i longed for a baby. Anyway we started trying over 2 years ago now and have had 2 pregnancys but they have both ended in miscarriage it has made us stronger & more determined to be parents. Sit him down & explain to him how you feel just dont hold back hun he needs to hear it. Good luck with ttc in near future chicken & hope u get things sorted :-) sending lots of hugs x x x Caz x x x

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Nov 7th, 2009, 13:33 PM	#4
sophster On a break (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 391	Hi hun sorry your OH is not being understanding; but its possible maybe he does want another, but he is worried about this happening again, and men sometimes have a funny way of showing they're scared by just avoiding or denying anything. So try to keep an open mind. Communication is very important so try to stay calm and work through this together. Soph x

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Nov 8th, 2009, 07:50 AM	#5
K8YVW Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 31	Aww hun, i know what you mean. My hubby as been so so supportive but he just doesnt understand. Not once has he cried for our loss and he thinks i should be moving on with things but i cant, im heartbroken, it hurts so much I suppose to be going back to work tomorrow and he thinks i should and isnt listening to why i dont want to. I know its hard for men but i just wish he could understand me a bit more. Hugs to you hun xxxx

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