I don't know if it is technical depression or not, but I just feel blah and more blah!

If I could, I would just stay in bed and be blah. I clean my house because I have to and because my partner or family or or or are going to be home and I get up because I have to and I go through the motions but I don't WANT to do any of it. I usually love to cook and we have been eating freezer dinners as I don't want to cook, I feel like I am just going through the motions. Can anyone relate to this almost 4 weeks after mc?

I just wrapped up my first AF and I started back on the pill because we don't want to try again for a while so I think it is all a lot.

I don't know...I feel like I had my babies and no one can tell me why they died. I miscarried the day or the day after they passed - they were measuring along with my weeks and I would love to know what happened. I had been feeling them move for about a week and I know I felt them the day before I miscarried. I just don't get it...

Anyway - I don't mean to moan I just wondered if anyone has felt "blah" after their miscarriage and how long it lasts?

i had a slight depression hun...its a horrible thing to have to go through hun and totally messes with you emotionally and physically...i went to a counsillor hun and it helped me loads....hope your ok hun xx

yes I feel like this, I went back to work too early and got thrust into 3 months (and still going) of hell at work and my stress levels are sooo high. I hate the fact of what happened and although know there is nothing I can do anything about it feel like crap about it all. I don't know that I will feel better until I am pregnant again. I feel like a piece of me is missing now

That is EXACTLY it...I feel like a part of me is missing. I feel this emptiness that just lingers no matter what. That put it into words for me exactly and "hit the nail on the head" as to everything I am feeling.

I'm so sorry you are going through the same thing...

you should definately get couselling. I had a mc 8 yrs ago a yr later my mum died ( i am an only child and i have no dad). I just bottled these events up and got wrapped up in work and about a year later i went into deep depression. I was on prozac which just zonked me out. i was depressed for about 4 yrs. lost most of my friends as they just did not know what to say to me.

feeling blah is a sympton but you need to try and stay positive otherwise you can spiral down.

you should actually try not to drink i know it numbs the pain but it makes you more depressed and emotional.

just try and get and action plan of what you need to do but dont set yourself unrealistic goals and dont punish your self for anything. i somethimes think my negativity is a self fulfilling profecy. i think negative thoughts all the time and these bring me down.

take sometime for yourself and def go for counselling

of course its technical deppresion, hugs. dont deny yourself time to greive

I would think it would be hard not to, im seeing a counsellor at the moment and taking prozac.I only had my d&c two days ago and its a real struggle to get out of bed in the mornings and tbh i usually dont im lucky if im out by afternoon.I know this is because i differed college this year so dont really have any structure or things that have to be done.The only thing i can say is that your grieving a terrible loss, dont rush yourself and try and make small goals.I made one a few days ago that i would leave the house and today i did it, tomorrow im going to see my friends hopefully and that is my goal. I hope your ok and im sorry you are going through this right now

Thank you for all your great replies and letting me know my feelings are ok.

Last night we got into bed and my partner snuggled me up and I just lost it - I mean - not a little upset but full out sobbing. I was just hysterical. He just held me and told me he can fix so many things and make so many things better for other people and there is nothing he can do for me. I think he feels helpless and I feel like I shouldn't show my emotions as then he gets more upset. Ugh...

When he went to work this morning, he was very distant and I hate that. He is a law enforcement officer and I hate when he goes to work and isn't as his usual self.

Oh I don't know, ladies! I'm a mess. I thought I was doing much better and then everything I had bottled up has hit me at once.

Thanks for letting me vent and always being here for me.

I have started counselling again after slowing thesession righ down from work issues that were resolving, I was due to go back to work after 5 months off sick the week I mc. The counselling really helped before and am sure it will ow as it just allowed me to talk and feel that I was allowed to feel the way I did. No matter at what stage we mc we have all lost out babies, so u are allowed to grieve, so do so, try not to bottle it all up. I know one of my DH's struggles is that he has just felt so helpless and unable to help me through, in my good moments I make sure that I hug him, tell him I love him and that he is helping me jus by being there... I don't know if it helps. we are both nurses and it is so hard knowing that u can help so many others but not ourselves...