Had an ERPC done yesterday when I was meant to be 10 weeks. Baby only grew to less than 6 weeks, no heartbeat. Didn't want to see it during my last scan and certainly didn't want a photo memory of it- felt very strongly about this. Was terrified of the procedure but was fine in the end. Husband and I have become even closer which helps. Trying to take it easy but not willing to be defeated by sadness. Am feeling very optimistic about having a baby in the future. Don't know if this is how I should be feeling? Have been given 2 weeks off work- is this normal after ERPC? Any advice or experiences really appreciated! Also how long after ERPC can I try again?

(((HUGS)))) Everyone grieves differently. I was fine after this one because it was my 4th loss. I didn't really get sad unless I started talking about it to someone. I got upset at work when a co-worker who knew what I had JUST gone through told me her sister was pg. I was so mad!!! My boss politely told her that she was insensitive for saying that. Well two weeks later her sister had to have surgery for an Ectopic so I felt bad for her obviously...

If this was your first (and hopefully only if so) loss, then for me, the best thing after my first loss to make me feel better was when I started trying again! Typically Dr's want you to wait one cycle before trying again so they can easily date the pg and so that your lining has time to build up properly. Good luck!!

So sorry hun x

I felt ok after D&C physically after the first day when I was a bit sore but they had been doing all sorts to me pretty much all day in the hope it would happen naturally so I expect it was more down to that.

Emotionally it took me a long while to get over. I too had 2 weeks off work and I needed every one of those days and I did nothing but cry. After that I was still emotionally raw but needed to get back some sort of normality so I went back to work, this did help as it kept my mind off things but for many weeks after I would just run off to the ladies and have a good cry.

I still, 6 months on, get upset if I think about it. OH is now trying to arrange a plaque for his grave (I was 17w) and I can't deal with it just yet, I'm just not ready to fully let it go as such.

Take your time hun, the grieving process can be a long one but I promise each day you do get a little stronger x

Im sorry for your loss. I had my D&C about a week and a half ago. Im currently not working, but if I were, I would need those 2 weeks off. Like ladypotter said, everyone grieves differently. For the first 5-6 days I was an emotional wreck, just someone asking how I am made me burst into tears. I stayed home for nearly a week, only went out to get the mail. I was very depressed, and now it just all feels like a dream. I am still sad that I lost my baby, but Im moving forward the best I can.

Im still bleeding a little bit, Im really hoping its going to stop soon. I just want to get started on my normal cycles again, so if my fiance and I decide to try again, I can some cycles behind me. Im glad to hear that you are feeling optimistic about a future pregnancy, as you should, one miscarriage doesnt mean you will have a future one. I think its good that you feel this way, right after I lost mine I went through a phase thinking I never wanted to get pregnant again. Well, that only lasted a few days follwed by a phase of I NEED to get pregnant and now lol. But I think for the most part, Im back to where I was, if it happens, it happens. They do say to wait atleast one cycle before trying again, but my doctor, and a lot of things that Ive read online recommend 3 cycles. But rest as much as you can, my nurse said it can make you heal faster. Wishes for a speedy recovery!!