Simi

Hi Carman

I know how you feel. I was going on 12wks pregnant when I went for my first scan and they also didn't find a heartbeat they told me and my husband that I was going to have a miscarriage. I asked for a different doctor and to do the scan again and it was the same result. So my doctor said to give it another week. So I did, this time they used a different ultrasound machine and a different doctor. And once again the same result.. no heartbeat. So my husband and I decided to give it another week so we can go though it naturally. And we did and had one more scanning but the results were still the same. So then my doctor spoke to us about a medication to soften the cervix so that the tussue can pass and we can do it in the privacy of our own home. So we did and nothing happened. So our last options was a D&C. My husband and I didn't like the idea of me going into surgery, but we had no choice. So on Jan 24, I went to the hospital and had the surgery. The doctor that did the surgery said everything came out fine. Then just last week on thursday night I started to get a severe pain on my abdomen, I couldn't even sleep. Then early the next morning the pain wouldn't stop even after a took a pain pill. It just keep getting worse. When I got out of bed that was when I started bleeding and it won't stop. I went to the bathroom to clean off, but it didn't work. I kept on bleeding for an half an hour before it managed to stop. I called my husband at work to come and take me to the emergancy room. When he got home I was still in the bathroom crying, there was alot of blood and small to big blood clots. When we reached the hopital I passed out three times, when I saw my doctor who did the surgery, he told me that the blood and clots that I had passed was part of the miscarriage. It wasn't until he told me that, that I realized the pain had gone away when that really big blood clot passed before my husband got home to get me, that I had given birth to my daughter in the bathroom. I started to cry again and called out that I wanted my mother. But my mother lives in Chicago and I'm in Kansas.But luckly my husband was with me. The doctor give me some pills to stop the bleeding and percocet for the crumping. He send me home where I started to cry again. My husband was with me the whole time, he was the one that called mymommy and told her what happened. Then my mommy told everyone in my family and everyone started to call to talk to me, but I didn't want to talk to anybody. Not even my mommy and big brother. I didn't even what to clean my house or cook, (and I love cooking). Today I just started to wash the dishes. It made me feel good that I did some tihng. Now I'm going to try to do the laundry again.
I'm still bleeding alittle, not that much. But it still hurts to know that I loss something so beautiful and I blame myself for what happened. But everyone tells me it's not my fault that god thought I wasn't ready to have childen right now, or that it was god's way to tell me that something was not right with the baby. I want to get pregnant again before my husband has to go to iraqi next year, but I'm scared that I might miscarry again. And now I can't seem to stop leaking milk. Has this happened to you?? Well I hope you know you can talk to me if you need to.

Simi

carmen

Hi Simi,

Well i don t believe its not your time to have a baby, its just there was something wrong with this one. Normally when the babys heartbeat stops 2/3 of the time this is because of chromosone abnormality, so at the time of conception there is some information missing, so it will grow up till a certain age, then it will stop because it doesn t have the information to continue. That how is was roughly explained to me, but you never knows why it happened.

But everyone is different, myself i want to try again soon as i have this 2cm pregnancy tissue that is left in me, out. But some people want to wait.


Keep strong and dont be afraid to continue trying

Simi

foofox37

Hi there i was just passing when i found this thread,I miscarried on sunday I was 13 weeks pregnant exactly,i woke up and felt my waters go then the bleeding,i spent the next 7 hours just backwards and forwards to the loo and just feeling generally lost and empty, i decided that i didnt want to go to hospital and didnt even call my midwife as i knew that it was a miscarriage and that i didn't want to be in the hospital being prodded and poked and couldn't bear the thought of having a scan to tell me what i already knew,my OH was worried but he supported my decision,it is now 5 days since i lost my LO and although i am still experiencing some pain and losing clots and bleeding it has slowed down dramaticaly,Alot of people would go through with a DC but for me i felt that i really couldn't face the whole clinical side as i have miscarried before but on that occasion i was'nt put to sleep just given a local anaesthetic and it traumatised me so much i honestly could not face it again. I know i am doing the right thing for me and that is all that matters,of course if i have any bad reactions or if i feel that i was getting worse i would go straight to hospital but for now i am letting nature take its course, to all of you who have lost a LO you have my sympathies and i hope that you all feel a little better soon, I am just taking it day by day now as i feel there is nothing more i can do.

Rumpskin

So sorry girls for your losses. Your stories are so very sad.

xxx

carmen

Hi Foofox37,

Im really sorry to here, it is an empty feeling and i wouldn t wish it to happen to anyone, So my thoughts.
But i hope that you been to the hospital to get checked if everything is clear, i m like you i don t like to go all the time. But it is important x

Visqueen

[HI Carmen,

I had a D & C on the 18th April 08. I went for my first scan at 11 weeks and found out that my baby had died at 9wk 6 days old, it was such a shock as I had been feeling well up until then. I went in for the op 2 days after I just cant wait to start trying again for another baby. How are things now for you?

Visqueen.