kelly2903

dont you worry. i no it can be scary, the whole of your pregnancy will be like this. i worry every min of the day.due to what happened to my friend and i have another friend who cant carry past 21 weeks and another who also lost baby in 3rd trimester.so getting through everyday is so scary if i dont feel LO for ten mins im wobbling my belly to get a reaction its all part of been a mum i think. my midwife thinks im a hypacondriact( if thats spelt right) im sure you'll be ok if you try hardest to relax if i stressed at all through first tri i got in the bath an put my ears in water so i could hear my heartbeat and relaxed.

AS1

Hi Suzan

I am so sorry for your loss.

My baby had a heartbeat at 6 weeks. I went back for a scan at 9 weeks 4 days as I had pain on my left side coming from a large ovarian cyst I had, and there was no foetal heartbeat. The foetus had continued to grow at a slow rate and I had no bleeding and still had all my pregnancy symptoms. In a way I was glad that I had the ovarian cyst as otherwise I probably would not have gone to the hospital until my 12week scan and may only have found out then as the foetus showed no signs of coming away on its own.

In a leaflet the hospital gave me when I went for my D&C it said that only 1% of miscarriages are "missed miscarriages" like we have suffered, but there appears to be quite a lot of people on here who have suffered the same.

Simi

To Suzan

I know how you feel, I went thou it also. I was going on my 12wk when the doctors told my husband and myself that our baby has no heartbeat. We give it another week to see if anything changes. We went the following week and asked for a different doctor and she used a different ultrasound machine, but the results were the same... no heart beat and the baby measured at 11wks and 5days and I should be in my 13wk by then. The doctor told us that I was going to miscarry in a week or so. So we waited and nothing happened and it was going on 3wks since they told us the bad news. So they give us some pills to start the miscarriage, but again nothing happened. So the last thing to do was to have the D&C. So we did it. Then just last week early in the morning I started to have severe pain in my abdomen then before I got to the bathroom I started to bleed alot and small blood clots started to pass then it became bigger and bigger and before I knew it a really big one passed and what I saw scared my half to death.. it was really little arms and legs. I called my husband from work to come and take me to the hospital. When he got there at home, I started to cry and I showed him his little girl. He then took me to the hospital wand I saw the doctor and he told me that the bleeding and the passing of the clots was part of the miscarriage. This was my first pregnancy and I'm really scared that I might miscarry again. My mommy and family say that what happened was god's way of telling me that something was not right with the baby, so that was way he had to take her from us. Knowing that still doesn't make it any easier to try to move on with life. I blame myself for what happened thinking I could have done something different. But I know that there was just nothing we could have done. Things happen for a reason right??

suzan

Am sorry sweetie
I guess ya, things happen for a reason.
I am scared to death too