1. please can you tell me about your expereinces of medically induced miscarraige?
2. AND ESPECIALLY the likleyhood of conceiving again quickly?
3. i've heard women are at their most fertile within 6 weeks-3months of delivery? i want to try again straight away.

I was so excited at the news of my first pregnancy- i didn't even know i was preganant until 13weeks. i can't bear the pain of the loss of my baby boy at 20 weeks. It's true that i've only known for 7weeks but i've fallen in love with my baby and desperately want him back. i was told he died at about 16-17weeks and had to have a medically induced miscarraige on Thursday (less than 48 hours ago). i'm so sad and have been up since just after 4am this morning crying.

Here is what happened on to me for those of you who would like to know about medically induced miscarraiges:

i returned yesterday (Fri 11th Sept 09) from the hospital after induced labour of my miscarried baby boy at 20 weeks. I had a scan, which i was so excited about on Tues 9th Sept, which was my 21st week of pregnancy. The consultant was quiet and asked me if i noticed anything different about the baby. i said i thought he was a bit still, since he was rolling over and moving around at my last scan abroad at 16weeks. He told me the fetus had demised. I covered my face and just could not stop crying for ages. An hour later, I moved to a ward and took a tablet. then 2 days later, i was given 4 vaginal tablets to start off the labour and paracetelmol via a drip. 20 mins later the pain began. I had agreed by prior arrangement with the doc that if i needed it, the nurses should give me as much pethadin as i wanted/can safely take. they shot me with pethadin 5 mins after the pain began. didn't work. i was in terrible pain and was crying. they shot me a 2nd time with pethadin and then another 20mins later another shot of pethadin. it was my 1st pregnancy. i was in terrible pain and crying unstoppably at this point. the pethadin wasn't strong enough for me. my pain theshold for sudden expected pain is great, but with ongoing pain, I cave. my partner was panicked and i had never been to any antinatal classes due to being so early in pregnancy and being my 1st of course. then doc came in and said it was not safe to administer any more pethadin. he was talking to my boyfriend who was an angel and right beside me all the time. then doc came back with Nitrous Oxide (the gas they have in some dental surgeries). i was hysterical with pain, both emotional given that i knew i would have no baby to take home at the end of all this pain, and physical. the emotional pain came flooding back with the intense physical pain of labour. 30 seconds after i started on the gas i was silent and totally stoned. my boyfriend couldn't believe it. i had gone from being in uncontrollable screaming pain to cracking jokes! the pain, both emotional and physical seemed to be there, but so far away from my concious mind. I am so glad for the Nitrous Oxide gas, the pain was maddening. i had no bleeding which is what the nurses were waiting for to indicate the baby was near-ish. they were worried since my pain seemed too great considering i had no bleeding yet. 10-15mins before the baby came, in spite of the gas, the pain began to get more intense and i started to panick and feel it all. There was no bleeding at all (but then my period is very light- only lasts 1 day every 32-33 days- perhaps this has some relation), then the baby came and pain stoppped immediately. the whole ordeal had lasted 6hours by this time from insertion of tablets to delivery. 10mins later the placenta came and it was over. very very sad. one of the worst things that has ever happened to me. they let me finish the remaining gas, since they understood the emotional pain was intense for me. i feel much better for delivering naturally only because i feel good that i could see him which would have been impossible with a d and c procedure, which was the alternative, i realise now. i wasn't told about the alternative, which i'm glad about since natural delivery poses less infection and complication risks and better faciliates future pregnancies, but emotionally it was a ROLLERCOASTER. it's been like a heavy period afterwards and now I’m bleeding lightly. I feel a tad sore in my lower abdomen and can't walk quickly since it feels kind of ‘open’ down there but not cut or torn AT ALL. i've been on no painkillers since the delivery (except the gas that they let me finish- there was only 10-20mins worth left).


To Our Beloved Baby Boy, who will never be gone in our Hearts and Minds.

We were awaiting your arrival in January 2010, with a zest too great for this world. But this we promise, our love for you will keep you immortal until the day we see you again.

Love Mummy and Daddy

Im sorry that you have been through this, I can't give you any advice as I had a mmc and an EPRC but just wanted to give you lots of the girls that have been through m/c's on here are a great support and understand when our H's / oh's can't

re trying again - what advice has the doctor given you?? for me they said wait three months but that was more because of the emotions, we did wait 1 cycle but are now ttc again. I know that it has taken me 2 months to be really ready to try again as I was an emotional mess and couldn't even think about it. I know that quite a few people that have had m/c's on here have gone on to get pregnant quite quickly, there is always hope

So so sorry you had go through this hunny, hugs


I had medical help first time, it was the most distressing thing I have ever been through. Bleeding for me lasted 8 weeks, so.. knowing when was fertile etc etc.. wasnt an option.

Hope your being looked after, resting ..sure someone will have some more answers for you hun.

didnt want to read and run hunny

your doing amazing not having any pain relief.. I darent miss a cocodomal!

Keep your feet up!

kisses for my baby boy from Mummy and Daddy

Just a quick reply as away out and wanted to say that there is hope......

I had a Medically induced miscarraige on the 26th Aug 2008, i was 16 and a bit weeks pregnant with twin girls. It was a very distressing and dark time, i laboured for 36 hours before both babies were delivered.

Afterwards i bleed for about 10 to 14 days physically i recovered very quickly but mentally i dont think i will ever recover. Its something that stays with you forever.

I concieved again by the November and my Son was born on the 21st July 2009.

Good luck honey xx

So sorry for you loss and that you have had to go through this

Glad you found this forum, the ladies on here are extremely supportive and their posts have certainly proved to me that there is always hope.

Give yourself time to recover physically and emotionally and know that we are always here to listen

I'm so sorry hun xx

I'm so glad for you. Thanks so much for sharing this with me. I'm hoping to get pregnant again ASAP.

The saddest and most disturbing thing is that I feel my baby's heartbeat may have stopped due to stress. My mother is an absolute religious maniac and shouted constantly after i told her i was preganant, enagaged with a lovely ring and going to get married to my boyfriend of 7, yes that's right, 7 years on Oct 1st this year! she sceamed and shouted constantly and called him and myself on the telephone, with the odd moment of excitement at being a grandma. The date the doc says the baby died is approx 16-17 weeks, which i know was around the time i told her. It is not an accepted medical phenomenon that stress can cause miscarraige, according to doctors and nurses at the hospital but according to what i've read on the net from some very reputable sources, e.g. BBC or Daily Mail.

Has anyone found this to be true? i just have absolutely no peace of mind at the moment and i'm starting to get seriously angry.

I am so sorry for your loss hun.Thank you for telling us of your little boy.Sending you lots of hugs x x x

Oh, the stress question, that's a tough one. Personally, I don't accept it. There is so much stress in the world and not enough miscarriages to equal the stress. Think about 3rd world countries, poverty, drug and sex abuse, and so many thriving babies are born. I don't see it as a realistic cause personally.