AS1

Hi - I just wondered if anyone can give me any advice. I am 9 weeks 2 days pregnant and went to the hospital today and there is no heartbeat so my worst fears have been confirmed. The foetus measures approx 6 weeks 5 days but I have not bled at all. The doctor gave me three choices leave it for a few days and see if nature takes its course, take the pills or have a D&C early next week? It dosen't look likely that I will bleed as the foetus has not grown for almost 3 weeks and has still not come away so I thought the best option would be the D&C so at least you can start trying to get things back to normal?? Have to go back on Thursday with my decision - does anyone have any advice??

NeyNey

honeybunch2k7

I tried the natural option, but I still had to have a D&C in the end. So keep in mind that if you op for the natural choice you may still need surgery...or not... I'll also warn you that I pushed out my baby, and it was VERY emotionally draining.


The sticky in this forum helped me make the decision that if I had to have another miscarriage I would still try to do it as naturally as possible.

poppy

I am so sorry for your loss.

I am sorry I can't give you advice what to do - when I had a miscarriage in November, I just got the bleeding. Also, like Ney Ney said, it's the one personal for you - the doctors should be able to give you more advice.

Whatever, you choose to do, just make sure you give yourself enough time to recover - maybe take a few days off work.

xxx

Rumpskin

Hi

I am so sorry for your sad news. I am also very so sad that you have to make a choice. It must be so very difficult for you.

I was 'lucky' in that my m/c happened very quickly. After going to A&E one evening, the doctor said there was nothing they could do for me and suggested that I go home and 'wait' and take painkillers. Although the advice i got was very limited and emotionless, I was glad that I was at home. I did not have to have a d&c.

Whatever your decision, it is yours only. Please feel free to PM me if you want to talk.

I am sending you a massive hug.

Lots of love.

anita665

Im really sorry for your loss.

Often it will come away on it's own if it's given long enough but the doctor won't want to leave it too long incase it becomes infected. It's strange why not everyones body clears it's self out immediatly but maybe it's due to hormones. With a bit of luck it will be done before your next appointment. Fingers crossed for you and keep your chin up!

Ann-Marie

Hi there,
I'm so sorry to read this. I had exactly the same 3 years ago. I had a scan at 12 weeks, and the baby had died at 9 weeks. They didn't give me any options, as they said if the bby didn't come away properly, I could end up with an infection, and have to have the d&c anyway. I had the d&c, my husband was with me, and they let him be there when I came round. It was quick, and relatively painless. It was a bit like having really bad period pains. Nobody can tell you what to decide, but I hope you can be strong whatever you decide. I really feel for you, and hope to see you in the pregnancy boards soon.

**angel**

nutty

I am so sorry for your loss. I too had this choice at the end of December, I went for a 14 week scan but no heartbeat. They thought the baby had died about 10/11 weeks. I decided to have an EPRC (D & C) as I thought if my body hadn't sorted itself out in the last 3 weeks it was for the best. I was alseep for the procedure and didn't physically feel too bad after. It really is a personal choice. Again sorry for what you're going through

miel

i am very sorry ...i do agree with NeyNEY it is personal choice but make sure you have your DH or a family or a close friend with you.
my thoughts are with you.