Hi all I'm new to this site,
I thought I'd share my experience with you all as I'm feeling very lost and devastated and I've found this website comforting.
I lost my little angel, my second child, on 2nd August due to a missed miscarriage at 15 weeks. My baby had passed away at 13 and a half weeks but I only found out at a routine consultant appointment when there was no heartbeat. I opted for a medically managed miscarriage but it was very strange because I have a little girl already and it was my darling daughter's 1st birthday on the day between taking the initial tablet and going into hospital for delivery.

We think our little lamb who was so beautiful was a boy but cannot be sure and it worries me to give him a boys name and discover later that she was a little girl. Now I cannot think of anything else but what has happened, it hurts so much. We decided to have investigations but it takes up to 6 weeks and I feel in limbo until then. We are having a private burial afterwards which I hope will help. Does the pain ease with time? The world seems like a different place to a week ago last Friday.

It will get better with time...it will never be "normal" again, you will just find a new "normal". Does that makes sense?
Sorry for your loss and we are here for you

I am so sorry for your loss. Time is a great healer, it does get better. I didn't feel like i could properly move on until after the results, but every day does get a little easier.

im so sorry for your loss. massive for you. maybe you could give your baby a name that can be used for a boy or girl? like taylor or ashley....just an idea?
time really is the greatest healer and once your hormones get to normal your mind starts to clear you will find the strengh to get through this.
we are all here for you xxx

So sorry for your loss, it is heartbreaking I know from personal experience having lost my angel at just over 15 weeks, but time really is a great healer, you never get over it, just learn to live with it and the pain does ease up with time...

sending you lots of hugs..

reading your story, i really feel for what you and your oh are going through. i lost my baby at 22 weeks and had to give birth. we too had a post mortem. time is a good healer but noone can tell you the time frame as this depends on you. after the first 2 weeks, i stopped bleeding and sttarted frantically trying to get pregnant for 8 weeks. it obviously did not happen as i was constantly either peeing on an ovulation stick or a pregnancy test only to always come negative. i then diverted my attention to my heallth, eating sensibly, exercising, not drinking to dissolve my grief. these things helped to divert my attention from baby making. to try to help myself get over the loss, for the first month, i let myself cry whenever i felt i needed to. i was open and honest with my oh so that i could openly share my grief and he could understnad how i was feeling and thereby support me as he felt appropriate (eg. not going out with the boys when i felt so low). by 6 weeks, i stopped thinking of having lost my boy, but more so looking forward to his return when he is fit and well and started to try to think of positive things everytime i felt like i wanted to cry. additionally, i did not go back to work until i was emotionally and physically well cos i needed to get over this major trauma of losing my first baby. that helped alot.

i know my response may seem dijsointed but i am writing from the heart about my experience, but i hope that it makes sense. if youneed to talk, please do private message me.

Thank you to everyone for your kind words of support. It means a lot to me.

I am so sorry for you!

Lots of big hugs to you

xxx

So sorry you are going through all of this, & unfortunately I know exactly how you are feeling. I had a missed miscarriage 4 weeks ago (tomorrow). I was 18wks, but found out at 17wks 2 days that our little one only grew to 16wks 4 days. I opted for induced labour & delivery. We did not find out the baby's gender as I couldn't bear knowing. I opposed an autopsy but agreed to get testing by my bloodwork. We'll find out in a few weeks.

I'm still having a hard time getting out & trying to have a 'normal' life for our busy 5 yr old DS. I guess time will heal, but it's still very raw for us right now, too.

Please PM me if you like.

Sorry for your loss, sending you lots of hugs