hi everyone,
well i was 7 weeks pg on thursday, then by sunday i wasnt. we lost our little bean and i am heartbroken. nobody at work knew i was pg, as id only just started my job. ive cried all day.
i was just wondering, how everyone copes? and how do you begin to think about trying again? once youve had 1 mc is this risk of having another increased?
sorry guys xxxxx

So sorry for your loss. I'm not sure about worrying I know when I fall pregnant again I will worry, I think it's natural to worry after something like this happens. Try not to worry to much though, easier said than done I know. Sending you lots of

hey hun, im so sorry for your little bean...i think everyone copes differently...i found out we'd lost baby g on the 13th april and some days i think im getting there n others i think im right back at the beginning. the doctors told me that having a miscarriage doesn't increase your risk of having another one and you can go on to have many successful pregnancies and healthy babies..my husband and i decided to start trying again (altho thats bn put on hold due to discovering it was a molar preg) but i think the general rule is only when u feel ready...take time to grieve your little bean...its something no woman should have to experience but unfortunately is for so many...this forum has helped me so much the girls on here are fab...take each day as it comes and my advice would be cry when u want to cry shout when u want to shout keeping things and emotions locked up inside will torture u...worrying is my biggest problem..every part of my body is aching to be a mum but i am scared of being pregnant...im just on a mission just now to get my body prepared and ready for carrying my little miracle..thinking about u hun...loadsa hugs xx

so sorry sweetie it hurts sooo much and there is nothing anyone can do as your sole wish is to have your baby back

I don't know how we cope, everything was over for me 4 days ago and I don't know if I am still in shock or if this is how I feel. I am sad and cry randomly, I can't talk to anyone without crying - I had to write a letter to my H to tell him that I was there for him as well because I just couldn't say it without crying, I have taken a week off work

As for trying again - give yourself a bit of time first, let your body recover for a few weeks, emotionally you will take longer than that, I would have one AF first before trying again. I know we will try again but I can't think when at the moment. Its too soon.

I spoke to the hospital today and they said just because I have had a mc doesnt increase the chances of another one the risk remains the same.

keep talking to us, it does help xxx

sweetie. You will do lots of crying, its normal. I still have my moments now. I am getting to the point where I can most of the time talk about mc without crying, but do still well up @ times.

Start ttc when you feel ready, but I'm certain it will be a very worrying time for us all when the next arrives.

Everyone here is very supportive, talking it out really helps.

Hi hunni

So sorry you are feeling so down, I never told anyone at work either and had to make some excuses re time off so only really had the Thu and fri after D&C. I found just being able to come on BNB and type the way I was feeling a great relief, I wasnt looking for sympathy but when there are people in our situation its good to talk.

Trying again is up to you listen to your body and your emotions - somebody put a quote on here recently think it was something like, the overwhelming desire to become a mother outweighs the problems arising from it - please dont quote me on that think it was worded slightly different however think it means that your desire to become a mother will naturally tell you when its right. I know its hard right now and you feel like it will never happen thats natural but it will - but you have to make sure you and OH are ready physically and emotionally,

Please take care and you know where we all are on this site, Im still a novice on here but there are so many people I admire and respect.

All my love Heather xxxxxxx