Scared OH is going off the idea..

tinadecember · Jun 11th, 2009, 10:33 AM

Hey ladies,

if anyone has been following my story then youll know whats happened but if you havent.. well ive had a complete molar pregnancy and been told we cant try for another baby until next year depending on how my HCG levels are.

im desperate to be pregnant again and last night i mentioned to my OH "just think if my levels stay down we may be able to try again in October" and he really didnt seem keen at all. just changed the subject really after quickly saying "maybe we should wait a little while" so i said "youve gone off the idea havent you" and he went upstairs to the loo.

gah.. thats all i need. xx

catfromaus · Jun 12th, 2009, 05:08 AM

as much as it sucks, he is probably concerned about you. They can be a bit nazi like with following drs instructions! Hopefully he'll come round before october.

Cat
xxx

anothersquish · Jun 12th, 2009, 05:44 AM

I am sure he hasnt gone off the idea but instead is worried about you and future pregnancies. I had two mc and my partner lost his way for several months but when I managed to pin him down he admitted he had only 'gone off' the idea because of how upsetting it was and how hard he found it to see me so distraught.
Best thing you can do is sit down and have a proper conversation with him so you can both discuss properly how you feel, where things are at etc. Maybe he just wants to wait as long as the doctor has suggested as he believes that will give you the best chance? You wont know until you make him talk to you.

orange-sox · Jun 12th, 2009, 07:02 AM

I can't really say much more than what the others have said hun, he's probably so scared about you being hurt again sweetie. I know that doesn't make it any easier for you, but men tend to be super irrational when it comes to things that might go wrong. My OH has said he doesn't want us to try for another few years because of losing Seb... who was albeit unplanned but very much wanted and it hurts, but I can't force him, so I'm jsut trying to go with the flow, and try when we're both ready!

dan-o · Jun 12th, 2009, 09:55 AM

Mine's been a bit funny too, I think he feels partly or even wholly responsible for what's happening to me & doesn't want to put me through this again.
Thing is not being a mum would hurt me way more than another molar!

But how can you tell a man that? lol

DiddyDons · Jun 12th, 2009, 10:00 AM

I think he may just feel a little scared babe. Maybe when hes had some time to think then he will want to TTC again. Lots of love x

Jun 11th, 2009, 10:33 AM	#1
tinadecember Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,467	Scared OH is going off the idea.. Hey ladies, if anyone has been following my story then youll know whats happened but if you havent.. well ive had a complete molar pregnancy and been told we cant try for another baby until next year depending on how my HCG levels are. im desperate to be pregnant again and last night i mentioned to my OH "just think if my levels stay down we may be able to try again in October" and he really didnt seem keen at all. just changed the subject really after quickly saying "maybe we should wait a little while" so i said "youve gone off the idea havent you" and he went upstairs to the loo. gah.. thats all i need. xx

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Jun 12th, 2009, 05:08 AM	#2
catfromaus Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 1,778	as much as it sucks, he is probably concerned about you. They can be a bit nazi like with following drs instructions! Hopefully he'll come round before october. Cat xxx

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Jun 12th, 2009, 05:44 AM	#3
anothersquish Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 5,415	I am sure he hasnt gone off the idea but instead is worried about you and future pregnancies. I had two mc and my partner lost his way for several months but when I managed to pin him down he admitted he had only 'gone off' the idea because of how upsetting it was and how hard he found it to see me so distraught. Best thing you can do is sit down and have a proper conversation with him so you can both discuss properly how you feel, where things are at etc. Maybe he just wants to wait as long as the doctor has suggested as he believes that will give you the best chance? You wont know until you make him talk to you.

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Jun 12th, 2009, 07:02 AM	#4
orange-sox Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 2,442	I can't really say much more than what the others have said hun, he's probably so scared about you being hurt again sweetie. I know that doesn't make it any easier for you, but men tend to be super irrational when it comes to things that might go wrong. My OH has said he doesn't want us to try for another few years because of losing Seb... who was albeit unplanned but very much wanted and it hurts, but I can't force him, so I'm jsut trying to go with the flow, and try when we're both ready!

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Jun 12th, 2009, 09:55 AM	#5
dan-o Other BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: South West (UK) Posts: 6,549	Mine's been a bit funny too, I think he feels partly or even wholly responsible for what's happening to me & doesn't want to put me through this again. Thing is not being a mum would hurt me way more than another molar! But how can you tell a man that? lol

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Jun 12th, 2009, 10:00 AM	#6
DiddyDons Mum (Mom) Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Sunderland, UK	I think he may just feel a little scared babe. Maybe when hes had some time to think then he will want to TTC again. Lots of love x

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