Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

Well ladies, I'm back from my apt. It went something like this.... "How are you feeling?" and I reply, "A bit anxious but otherwise okay..." Then doc, "we don't have test results back yet from the fetus so I'd like to wait until they come back before testing you two...I'll call you when we get them." I was then told if I don't feel better in the next couple weeks to call back and he'd prescribe me something for the anxiety. I'm floored, I just feel like that was a waste of my time, $ and energy. I could have completed that exam on the phone. Idiot docs.
Hubby thinks I'm over reacting. Maybe he's right. But I had hoped to get started on something today. About the only thing accomplished that I feel good about is that I've been given the go ahead on having sex! So woop!!! for that. But it wasn't w/o a cautionary warning that if I did end up knocked up this month it would give me higher chance of mc. DUH! Like I'm even thinking of the next pg yet. This doc must think I'm gluten for punishment. LOL Any way, overall I'm disappointed in my doc. *big sigh* So now a wait some more.
Thanks for listening.
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haaza123 - congrats to you. Hoping next time will be 4th time lucky too...

P - how annoying... what was the point in going if that was all the doc said? I'm with you... I'd be really annoyed/upset too. Hope you get results of fetus soon as possible xx

Thanks to all the other ladies who've responded. It is also lovely to hear of good stories out there. I can't imagine going through 10 mcs but to know you have chn at the end of it would defo make it worth it xx

p so sorry to hear you are having to wait a bit longer. i too would be upset and disappointed why they cant of just told you that over the phone i dont know!

glad you can resume sex now though am sure you will want to wait til you get the results before trying again. i know i cant risk falling pg til i get my results from jessica (not that df would without protection anyways lol)

coming your way did they say how long it would take?

widger its lovely when you hear of success stories i know i have 2 girls already but they were born before my miscarriages and my dream of having another healthy baby is slowly slipping away so it too gives me hope that i might one day get another baby and hopefully not go through anymore heartache. x

sorry they couldn't say much else, dr's do suck and its worse when they play with your time and money! and cheers to a promising future.

Those docs sure do have a way of stringing us along.........................

Originally Posted by bklove

wishing did they offer any medical support for what they found so far? or is more a keep trying thing? It is hard to keep trying...went through that this weekend...it just hurt so bad physically it was like I can't keep doing this....but I do want my own child at the same time.

Hi
they said to call with any questions but there is not much they can do. its very hard to keep trying but i know that it will be forgotten once we are sucessful. (hope i dont offend) forgotten might not be the right word but the pain is not as raw.
every time we m/c we say not again but once i stop bleeding we always say one more time. its a damn hard road but the reward at the end is worth more than winning a multi million dollar lottery. i hate that i go through so much pain but i dont think i would feel so lucky if i did not experiance this. (once again i hope i did not offend anyone with my point of veiw)

good luck to you all

edit: forgot to add that it was not found untill i had m/c #8

wow. and I do understand every bit of what you said from dealing with the pain, to the reward being great enough to take it all way. I really can't wait for that, its soooo hard. I'm debating now if to go see the specialist 1st or just keep trying? My hubby rather we keep trying, but I want to go...

bk and wishing- I know what you mean about the rewards being worth all the grief. It takes me some time to get over it and 'forget' but each time, I go into knowing.
I've been stewing over my doc apt since Monday. It's just got me feeling so helpless and hopeless. I just want a doc who's going to jump on it, do whatever is possible (within reason), give me the facts and help me make a decision. I'm tired of waiting and playing the science experiement games with progesterone and asprin. It's just like each time we add something else, to see if maybe that'll work. I want to know my odds, so I can move on. I feel like I'm stuck.
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Hey girls.. I have gotten my bloods back and this is how it was put to me.
You bloods are looking better still low Iron, which now have put me Repliva a Iron tablet. As for the virus I had some more bloods taken to see if it is still flared up, but Dr. seems to think the antibiotics I have taken for a week have done the job.
Dr. is hoping if I can get my Iron under control that my immune system will pick up and we can fight this.
I am second guessing my decision now to have the surgery. My DH asked me last night if I am absolutely sure I really want to stop trying since I was so adamant on having another child. Feeling very unsure with myself at the moment. I am so afraid even if I go through all this meds and get my irons under control that I will get y hopes up to have them broken again.
I have a appointment with a specialist today (second opinion) to show him all my paper and bloods to see what he thinks and if he thinks I could carry another baby to term. This is very expensive but I feel I have to have it as this surgery I have planned is a permanent decision. Thanks for listening

Rachjim98 the decision should be between you and your OH. I'm gald you are getting a 2nd opinion to get more data to base that judgement on. Is it possible to atleast hold off on the permenant proceedure to give yourself more time to think and maybe your body more time to resolve the immune and other issues? It may be worth waiting and even trying again?

Superp123- I feel the same way with the experimenting and feeling stuck. I do think some of it (getting & staying pregnant) is still chance, but it sucks so bad to keep taking that chance each time. I have an intial appointment with a reproductive specialist on the 18th and we'll see what happens from there. I want to do some more testing to see if anything else is up, I think i'm beyond aspirin and progesterone, but we'll see.