I sooo know how this is.. I lost my twins very late into my pregnancy.. and it took me over a year to get pregnant again and in that time it seemed like all of my friends were getting pregnant and my OH said the same thing..

Some other comments i got were..
From my sister... She is mentally challenged..so I didnt take it to hard but it still broke my heart
*Well.. are you going to kill this one to*

And then.. another one that I got after my daughter was born.. from my doctor.....
*Now, just remember If this one dies.. its not your fault* ..
Refering to sids and such ....

There are some really insensitive people around.
I know dh isn't trying to be insensitive, he just doesn't want me getting down each time a new person is pregnant, but i can't help how I feel. It would be lovely if I could be happy each time, but I just can't!!

I was told, 'Life is for living right now...you'll have plentyof time to have a family later...'

Because having children isn't living??

My DSD was only 5 when I had my 3rd early miscarraige and she asked me if I made the baby go away up to heaven? She couldn't understand how the baby had gone from my tummy up to heaven. It was heart breaking trying to explain it to her. I managed to keep my emotions in check long enough to answer all her questions but as soon as she left the room I was in floods of tears and couldn't stop shaking.

She's 7 now and said to me this morning: Is Ruby my sister from before?

I wasn't really sure what to say, but thought it was a lovely way to look at things, so I said yes. She seemed quite happy at that and cuddled my bump and said Thank you for coming back Ruby. I blubbed again over that as well x.

So sweet!

Aww thats so cute bless her xxxx

I had an ectopic pg 3 weeks ago tomorrow at just 5 weeks. I only knew I was pg for 5 days but had already played out a wonderful future in my head a million times. I will never forget the pain in my chest when the radiologist said "theres nothing in your womb". My list of insensitive comments so far include:
- Well who knows what could have happened with all the travel and horseriding! (from my mum when I had a bleed and feared mc...she has had 9mc, 1 molar and a son die at 6 days so this comment really hurt)
- You are still young
- At least it was early, just a ball of cells!
- Did they manage to put the baby in the right place ok?
- You can have more.
- Count yourself lucky.........how?
- My friends sister had one so I know how you feel.
- How did you manage that?

I can't even begin to imagine the pain of losing a baby later on.....if it hurts so much for me so early. I think every day with your baby your love doubles!
In found the ectopic hard because I feel like I decided to end it...I went to sleep pg and woke up empty!

One of the most helpful things said was by the ob/gyn. I was very upset when I got af shortly after the surgery because it felt like I was miscarrying then. The ob/gyn said that af is not the end, it is the beginning of a new cycle and shows that your body still wants to make you a baby and is growing another egg for you. It was comforting to know there was still hope because I feared I had ruined my chances forever.
Love to all you angel mums.
x

Yeah, I remember hearing this one too. People assume they know how it feels, but unless you have been there, you have no idea.

The day after my miscarriage, I was shattered, the first thing my mom said to me was "You weren't even that far along... you know it was just a bunch of cells!" I was like ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I can't believe someone could be so insensitive. Especially my own mother. I know this one was already stated, I just wanted to mention it.

:/ <3

Ok here's mine - from my mum of all people
I had been explaining that it was a MMC
'so, have you had your period yet?'
'it wasn't a period, it was a miscarriage - and yes I have'
'oh, yes I suppose that's what you would call it'
'YES, IT IS'

Trouble with my mum is, if things are emotive she gets herself into such a pickle trying not to say the wrong thing - so she usually plumps for things which are as unemotional as possible (like period instead of miscarriage) .... or she slips into professional sounding jargon - none of which helps