when i lost my babies i was told by the midwives
"it's natures practice run"
made me ill!!!

Ive had all of these, and if any one uses them on me again im gonna wack em one. Pregnant mums everywhere do my head in and a mate got rid of hers and said she knows how i feel, no she flaming doesnt and anova is preg and near her due date and says its not all fun and ball games anyway, yes i know but i dont care if it means i can have my angel back.

Another Mum I know said when told of my recurrent miscarriages "oooh, we'd better try for another sooner rather than later in case it happens to us as well."

"Can you re-try for a baby when your feeling up to it?" (Sent by text).

My cousin who had an abortion said "It's ok, I felt the same as you do. You'll be glad it happened in the long run."

Theres a difference between a loss and having an abortion

WHAT Scotgirl?? OMG.....I cannot believe someone would actually say that!!!!! That is terrible....has to be the worst I have heard

I don't see how she can compare losing a baby that was wanted, to an abortion. She seems to think because I'm only 17 that I'll be glad it happened in the long run because it would have wrecked my life. She was pregnant at 19 and had her abortion because she didn't want to be stuck with a baby at her age.

I know I'm young, and I wouldn't have tried for a baby until I was older. But it doesn't make the loss any easier to cope with, from the minute I found out I was preg I wanted and loved my baby.

Some people don't seem to have a clue

xxxxx

There is NO comparison- no matter your age! But you are right- some people just do not have a clue...

When my little brother died I recall my friend saying "I know how you feel. I know how it feels to lose a child."

She aborted hers at 14 weeks.

She did not 'lose' a child at all.

I've never miscarried a baby but two very close relatives of mine have within the last few years. One of them coped suprisingly well...still heartbroken but she is ok now. But the other lost hers a few years ago and yeah she was to young etc. but it crushed her. Shes had a baby very recently but that doesn't change how she felt after loosing him/her. I never thought she would be the same again, she still isn't really. And no matter what anyone said to try and make her feel better, especially the gooden 'it wasn't the right time for you' just didn't help. Maybe it wasn't the right time, but that didn't mean she didn't want that little baby with all her heart.
I do understand what your all going through and reading some of your stories has had me here in tears, i genuinly just want to hug you all. I couldn't imagine anything worse...truely. And there were a few especially who said their babies were a few days old before they passed on...your heroes. To be able to share your stories to help others after that, your great people. I can't imagine what its like to hold him/her, see them as a real person (please don't get me wrong, not that a foetus isn't!!) and to have to say goodbye. i genuinly am so proud of you all, and can only hope that some day you all manage to get closure...if it's possible. I'm not even going to pretend to know how to do that.