Am so sad it hurts.....

natasja32 · Mar 24th, 2009, 16:33 PM

I have my baby Bohdis funeral tomorrow. Im so sad it hurts. Have tried to keep myself busy today,but just cant find anything to ease the heartache. Had my 8 year old in tears,he didnt want to go to his brothers funeral as it will be to sad,and he was afraid if he didnt go,his little brother Bodhi would hate him and think he doesnt love him....That was heartbreaking. How do i explain to my 8 year old that its not going to hurt all the time,when i dont even know that myself.....

Laura1984 · Mar 24th, 2009, 16:41 PM

Thinking of you tomorrow sweetheart xxxx

Jkelmum · Mar 24th, 2009, 16:51 PM

Oh sweetheart I really wish there was somthing I could do

I found this website when i lost my foster mum who was very close to my oldest lo xxx http://dying.about.com/od/childrenlo.../childcope.htm

todteach · Mar 24th, 2009, 17:14 PM

we'll all be thinking of you and your family tomorrow. xox

rachjim98 · Mar 24th, 2009, 17:14 PM

It is so hard to try and comfort a older child when you are mourning the loss of a younger one. You don't have the answers and that is so hard. I am so so so sorry that your family is going through this

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I have a 9yr old girl and a 6yr old boy, the 6yr old could care less (which was kinda nice I didn't have to go there with him) my 9yr old girl was very worried about me and was trying her hardest to help make me happy. She has never dealt with death and the sadness that comes with it. She didn't want to go to the service because she didn't want to see me more upset.. it was already too much for her little mind to handle.
You poor thing I just wanna reach through here and hug you so bad

I will be thinking of you and your family tomorrow.

jo_79 · Mar 24th, 2009, 17:19 PM

My daughter was 6 when my little girl died and i couldnt explain to her why her baby sister had gone to heaven. Over the years as shes gotten older she understands a bit more now and even sits talking to her sometimes. I think if this helps her then i should let her.
I hope tomorrow goes as well as can be expected, my thoughts are with you.

hypnorm · Mar 24th, 2009, 17:31 PM

Thinking of you for tomorrow.

Barneyboo · Mar 24th, 2009, 17:32 PM

Thinking of you x x x x

who's_mummy · Mar 24th, 2009, 17:59 PM

My thoughts are with you and your family for tomorrow

Gemma x

Nicki2202 · Mar 24th, 2009, 18:05 PM

My thoughts are with you for tomorrow

Mar 24th, 2009, 16:33 PM	#1
natasja32 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: folkestone,kent Posts: 7,716	Am so sad it hurts..... I have my baby Bohdis funeral tomorrow. Im so sad it hurts. Have tried to keep myself busy today,but just cant find anything to ease the heartache. Had my 8 year old in tears,he didnt want to go to his brothers funeral as it will be to sad,and he was afraid if he didnt go,his little brother Bodhi would hate him and think he doesnt love him....That was heartbreaking. How do i explain to my 8 year old that its not going to hurt all the time,when i dont even know that myself.....

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Laura1984 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: chester Posts: 1,203	Thinking of you tomorrow sweetheart xxxx

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Jkelmum Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In my own bubble Posts: 17,575	Oh sweetheart I really wish there was somthing I could do I found this website when i lost my foster mum who was very close to my oldest lo xxx http://dying.about.com/od/childrenlo.../childcope.htm

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rachjim98 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Florida, (East Coast) USA Posts: 585	It is so hard to try and comfort a older child when you are mourning the loss of a younger one. You don't have the answers and that is so hard. I am so so so sorry that your family is going through this. I have a 9yr old girl and a 6yr old boy, the 6yr old could care less (which was kinda nice I didn't have to go there with him) my 9yr old girl was very worried about me and was trying her hardest to help make me happy. She has never dealt with death and the sadness that comes with it. She didn't want to go to the service because she didn't want to see me more upset.. it was already too much for her little mind to handle. You poor thing I just wanna reach through here and hug you so bad I will be thinking of you and your family tomorrow.

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jo_79 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Somerset, UK Posts: 1,121	My daughter was 6 when my little girl died and i couldnt explain to her why her baby sister had gone to heaven. Over the years as shes gotten older she understands a bit more now and even sits talking to her sometimes. I think if this helps her then i should let her. I hope tomorrow goes as well as can be expected, my thoughts are with you.

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who's_mummy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Lancashire, UK Posts: 642	My thoughts are with you and your family for tomorrow Gemma x

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