i am so sorry for you loss......it really is unfair....

it is devastating, and there are few words that will help you through this.....

all that i can say though, is that there are so many wonderful people on bnb with different stories to tell. I've had 2 mcs, and can honestly say that i would have gone mad without this place....

always here to talk to if you need me though....pm me if you need to chat.....

luv & hugs

Hi,

I too suffered a miscarriage which started on Fri 13th. I was 6 weeks pregnant. Just like you i have random periods either 29 day or 41 days. I my dh and i were over the moon and sooooo excited to be expecting a baby, we have been trying since nov last year. I too had all the symptoms extrememly sor e boobs, so much so that i had to be re-fitted for a bra. My boobs became so swollen that they increased from 36B - 38C!!!

I should have read the warning signs that something was wrong - from last tues I began to feel renewed energy, boobs became more normal. Thurs got strong cramping that lasted 30 mins. Fri got more tummy aches, and began spotting. Pain worstened in left side and doctor advised me to go to hospital.

After having my blood and urine tested I was told that i was no longer pregnant, as preg. hormones had dropped to 25.
my dh and i were so confused, and on valentines day i started to bleed very heavily. Yesterday was the same but today it has almost stopped.

I feel so upset, confused and a little angry?!!!!! I know its just the grieving process. The other side of me is thankful that my body recognised that there was something wrong before my pregnancy progressed to a later stage.

We just have to keep strong, and think ourselves lucky that we are able to get pregnant, and we are able to keep tyring!One day we will all hold our little bundles of joy in our arms and it will all seem worth it xx

Thank you both for your replies, and big hugs to you both too I'm so sorry for your losses. You don't realise just how many people have this cruel thing happen until you experience it yourself.

I can't believe how much of a help this place has been already, i keep logging on just to remind myself i'm not alone in this. Today has been odd, the physical pain and loss is easing but my emotions are more volatile than ever! Switching between anger and fear and deep deep sadness.

You're right of course mrstapster- there is a lot to be thankful for, and i do feel more positive about all this when i think that we were able to get pregnant in the 1st place, and so quickly as well.

Hugs to you both

I too had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy I was 9 weeks along.. when we did an early scan..found out the babies didnt have heart beats. I had to take misoprostal to induce my miscarriage.. and was in soo much pain.. no one should ever have to go through that.

Im so glad that you found this site.. even though it is a super sad experience.. you have "us" to talk to.. and can always reach out here when you feel lonely.. and empty inside.

Feel free to send me a private message anytime. Im here to answer any questions.

awwww I am so sorry for your loss and if you need to talk I am here for you, as we have something in common: we started to miscarry on the same day... I am so sorry that you came to this site for this reason, but this site has really helped a lot of people and I know that, for me at least, it is comforting to know that these ladies are here if I need to vent or just let someone know how I feel...Here's to hoping that you get a (a sticky one) in the near future...Best of luck and get to feeling better!

Thank you I'm sorry to hear of your loss shelby and mrsstreet, i know i already said this on your thread but i'm sorry again for your loss. How are you getting on today?

I have just got home from seeing my Dr and she is sending me for a scan tomorrow morning. She was very nice and sympathetic but she looked at me a bit odd when i said i hadn't been anywhere or seen anyone (medical) over the weekend when i was bleeding.

Does this make me strange? I knew how early on i was in my pg and from the pain and what i was losing i just felt like i knew that there was nothing that could be done, and i would rather be in the safety and comfort of my own home than to go to a&e and be told 'we can't do anything, go home' or to be examined...

I know it's bizarre i am a nurse with a phobia of hospitals! Actually, i am just scared of being a 'patient' and not being in control of what is happening to me.

Anyway i have the scan tomorrow...i broke down when i was telling her. Each day i think i am doing a little better and then bang all of a sudden i am back to square one. I am so anxious about what the scan might or might not show and what they'll say. Also i have the horrible task of calling my manager this morning to explain why i won't be in work tomorrow

Hi Rebaby, I'm so sorry to hear about your m/c. I've had 3 in 2008 and I know how devastating they can be. Just take each day one at a time and try not to get swamped by everything. I found that a long walk with my OH with the wind blowing swept out all the cobwebs and made us feel so much more positive! You have proved you CAN get pregnant, and without too much trying you both must be super fertile! These things happen for a reason and although it sounds harsh, better for it to happen now than further down the line. There's nothing odd about sitting at home and not seeing anyone medical, firstly you're a nurse and secondly, you knew what was happening and no-one could do anything, just have to see it through. It does get better, and next time you'll be fine.
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Hi Rebaby I just wanted to send you some big HUGS and hope that your scan goes ok tomorrow. It is such a difficult time and until you have experienced it nobody can tell you the pain and yo-yo ing emotions you will go through.

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Rebaby, how are you feeling today? How did your scan go? Thinking about you....

I to am grateful for all of the kind messages on this site and it has made things a lot easier for me.

I lost the pregnancy this morning. I am oddly ok about it. I am trying to focus on the positives which are 1) I got pregnant staright away in cycle 1 2) i have been scanned internally and externally and there doesnt seem to be any physical reason.

It could have been worse, I could have been 12 weeks down the line. In reality I had only known for an hour before the bleeding was bad.

I feel for my OH as he now knows but is on holidya with his kids. I have told him not to come back as I am physically fine (but for a terrible headache) and emotionally I think I am actually ok.

I look forward to getting back into the swing of it after my next period! I think looking fowards is more productive than back. Its not easy and i am sure there will be ups and downs but take comfort in the fact that you can get pregnant- this surely is to be celebrated?
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