so i wana know how much is too much with buying toys etc?
i was spoilt rotten as a child, i looked at something and got it. i also went to private school and all the other girls were exactly the same.
and i dont want my son to be like that,,,,but i think he sorta is, whenever we go out he buys sweets and a toy or dvd and normally a couple of new tops...and this is everytime we go out, including lunch.
i was thinking about this becuase im trying to save for the baby and was looking at where i am wasting money.
he does take things for granted, new toys will be trashed and thrown away.
i want him to appeciate what he has. i was thinking of maybe a reward chart and buying him something once a week only?
would like to know what everyone else does?
thanks! xx

Everytime you go out? Aaron is lucky if he gets something once a month! So yes, from my point of view your son does sound a bit spoiled, especially if he takes things for granted and trashes new toys. Limiting it to once a week sounds like a good idea to me. Probably best to do it sooner rather than later so he doesn't connect it with the new baby coming.

Yeh everytime you go out is a bit extreme.. I treat the kids to a packet of sweets or something if they have behaved around the supermarket!

I dont think they'd appreciate keep getting things every time we go out.. they would just take it for granted and then not realise that good behaviour gets rewarded.
So as you say, a reward chart would be a great idea!

sorry but i do think every time you go out is a bit much.

my son gets sweets/chocolate and a packet of crisps on saturdays only, if he's behaved himself.

i tend to only buy toys at birthdays and christmas! if a favourite toy of his gets broken accidentally i'll try to replace it if i can. sometimes if he's been an angel in the supermarket he can have one of those small cars, about 75p.

the only thing i make sure i've always got a good supply of is crafty stuff. although i save alot of paper and bits and bobs from around the house so don't have to buy much.

my son does have alot of toys, he's got aunts, uncles and grandparents that buy for him at christmas etc but he really appreciates it cause it only happens twice a year.

I must admit i spoilt my older girl mainly because of what we both went through at her birth and everything and now I'm paying for it. She got everything she wanted and earned the best dressed in nursery! She takes things for granted and feel she has to get anything she wants, no appreciation. I'm trying hard to make things better and treat the younger one a bit different so she will not be in the same boat as the older one. Now i'm able to NO and that will be final.

I don't think giving children a lot is spoiling them, but to give them something every time you go out would be a bit too much. It unfortunately makes a child not appreciate it but as said they take it for granted. Plus it might make them jealous. What if the baby is there? Then you will have to always buy for two and it will make it very tricky for you.
I do like to buy things but won't always give it right away, so the children don't think... aaah shopping I get a present. I always make it a big thing if they get something, so they tend to think of it as something special. Plus if something special happens (like going to the dentist for something major or graduating their swimming diplomas) they do get a little present.
I never give them anything for being good in the supermarket. To me being good is what they are supposed to be, so no need to reward that. Sometimes when children are older they are allowed to choose some sweeties for all of us. I remember the discussions as they are trying to agree on the sweets! I must say they are really great in compromising, hahaha!

I buy mine toys everytime we go to a shop. I know its pretty bad but its not the worst a parent can do

Only get him things for birhday or christmas, and only if he was special get him a small thing in between maybe .

I think it is a bit much.. when I was a kid we only got stuff at birthdays/Christmas.. as I got older it slowly became Easter/Halloween/Valentine's Day/Christmas/Birthdays etc lol... and eventually it became we got stuff all the time, not EVERYTIME we went out but if we asked we got it..

I don't feel spoiled but my BF says I am/was lol. I guess I can see, in a way, where he is coming from... but I can't change now lol

TBH I would try to cut back because the extra toys etc are obviously not making him happy if he asks for more everytime you go out and doesn't respect his things.. you're not doing him any favours by giving him everything he wants.

well, everytime we go shopping is only twice a week, ive now cut it down to once a week he gets something.
but he isnt a typical spoilt. if i say no he doesnt cry or tantrum, and hes so helpful to me, he makes his bed and tidies his toys up and helps me cook and wash up.
i think cutting his amount of spending down will help him not take things for granted and also im trying to teach him to not break toys.very hard becuase hes a boy and gets very excited!