leeanne

Ok, I may be venturing into a controversial area.

I have a 4 year old boy and he likes to play with toy guns - mostly nerf guns that don't even look like real guns. Yet, I find a lot of mothers and parents will not let their boys play with guns and absolutely forbid it. The looks I get sometimes when my boy says he plays with toy guns, I might as well be dead.

Well, for one, cowboys and indians have been going on for generations, so has playing with army men. These were boy toys.

I understand the parents thinking however, their little boy will probably go to someone else's house and play with toy guns. They will just sneak and do it.

I also will not harp on my child for being just what he is, a little boy....a child.

What are your thoughts?

Ell.Bishh

Children playing with toy guns (im going to get shot for this (haha)) do not bother me in the slightest and many a time I myself have bought my little cousin a toy gun for him to play with and toy swords and when Alex is old enough to play with toys like this i'll be buying them for him
I dont see a problem with it, playing with a toy gun or sword or axe or whtever certainly isnt going to turn them into crazed mass murderers. I had a plastic sword and a cowboy set with pistols and a toy machine gun when i was little and i loved them. its done me no harm at all

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leeanne

My son had a play date yesterday and when I picked him up, I talked to his friend's mom. She was telling me they were playing guns and swords. I was so amazed that I actually was talking to someone who allowed it and we had this discussion. She has 4 boys. As she said, let them be kids.

Samo

i dont have a problem with waterguns or nerf guns, they don't even look like real guns. BB guns and pop guns however have always been banned from onbase (and i grew up living on a base, and now still live on one since i married into the military). Just not safe to have real gun look-a-likes on a base. And i believe if you own a real gun or a paintball gun onbase, it has to be registered onbase as well so they know you have one. But kids are not supposed to have toy gun look-a-likes.

I personally, am terrified of guns lol i always think when i leave the house here, i will get shot. Where i come from, guns are illegal to own unless youre a cop or military, so there was no fear your next door neighbor could have a gun (or anyone for that matter). in the states though, it is legal, and i am still not used to the idea of it. That is just me. And i probably would not let my kids play with guns, unless it was maybe a brightly colored water gun or nerf toy. Not a toy they could mistake a real one for. It's way too scary for a kid to get their hands on a real gun and think it's a toy because it looks just like their plastic toy one.

leeanne

Quite honestly, rarely do they sell toy guns that look like real guns anymore.

My boy has a pirate looking gun, nerf guns, but nothing that truly look real.

He got new shoes the other day and there is a little logo on the heel part and one has to look very closely to see what it is. There is a skull and a few other things including a little gun.

He went to preschool the other day and told his teachers about his shoes, adding "They have a gun on them." My gosh, the look they gave I wanted to smack them.

My next door neighbor has two boys and she forbids them to play with guns, and that means whatever my son has. Well, they sneak over here to play them. So what do you think they do if they go over to other friend's houses?

leeanne

Btw, reason I am asking this is because when I encounter those that forbid them I feel like they look down upon me as I am a bad mom. That bothers me to know end.

beanie

My kids won't be bought toy guns (probably won't be as strict re waterpistols) or toy knives. I won't buy them as I think that guns and knives are becoming too "normal" in our society. I am not niaive I am all too aware that they could go round their friends houses and play with their toys there (I am not a fan of bratz dolls either but know that their friends may well be and will play with them there), but I am not going to buy them for that reason.Its not about me thinking that other mums are worse parents then me (I don't see what toys you let your children play with is any of my business tbh), its just I don't like the idea of my children playing at killing someone, its not a necessary part of childhood in my eyes and I don't think they will miss out on anyhting as a result. I played with toy guns when I was younger, and no it didn't do me any harm but that was when gun culture was not as in your face as it is today.

Tilly

I have to agree with beanie. There are some toys that I dislike (bratz being one of them). I think a lot of the toy guns look too realistic and the dolls are too "sexy" and grown up looking.. not what I want my little girl playing with.

Anyway, I know this thread isn't about dolls.. but on the gun issue - I see nothing wrong with water pistols, but realistic looking guns are a no no. My brother used to have the cap guns and they were pretty fun although I know that my mum never really liked them.

Jenelle

My son plays with the nerf guns, and water guns, but anything that simulates a real gun is not allowed im my house, though I think you are right I dont think that they sell realistic looking guns at too many stores anymore.

I agree with alot of what Beanie had to say... couldnt have put it better myself!!

Jo

doesn't really bother me as such, Beanie you make some very good point and for the record i detest Bratz too
But from my experience boys will make guns out of anything if they don't have a toy gun, Lego, stick, fingers etc..
I do think it is the way they are programmed sometimes

Leeanne the mums that seem to look down on you, their boys probably still play "guns", "fighting" etc... they just keep it hidden from mum