Jo I know that boys do that (we used to use sticks as our guns), its just I won't be buying them. There was a reallyinteresting article in Junior magazine about this, and how boys (and girls) seem to naturally do this. Its just that I won't be encouraging this through buying them toy guns. If I do catch my twoplaying with guns (made out of sticks or whatever) then I will i use this oppertunity to talk about guns, etc etc when they are at the appropriate age, not tell them off or discourage it.
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Boys willl be boys and as Jo says if they don't have a gun its lego/ sticks/ fingers whatever there is to hand.
I think if they have toys as a child they work it out there system its a toy its fun and like everything else as they grow up they lose interest. If they're not allowed a gun, its seen as forbiden fruit so when they get older they are more likely to want the real thing.
My boy likes playing wih his gun, he likess playing pirates, and wih his toy soilders, yet he will also play cooking & dolls with his little sister!
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Boys willl be boys and as Jo says if they don't have a gun its lego/ sticks/ fingers whatever there is to hand.
I think if they have toys as a child they work it out there system its a toy its fun and like everything else as they grow up they lose interest. If they're not allowed a gun, its seen as forbiden fruit so when they get older they are more likely to want the real thing.
My boy likes playing wih his gun, he likess playing pirates, and wih his toy soilders, yet he will also play cooking & dolls with his little sister!
I agree with Jo too. If my son isn't playing with one, he's drawing guys with guns or making them out of sticks etc. It's a boy thing. Doesn't mean that they will be bank robbers or murderers. This has been going on for generations.
Take a look at men to women. Men love action shows, women love romance movies. We are wired differently.
Caroline, mine does his boy thing but he also plays girly things with his sister too.
I honestly can't see barring my kids (boys OR girls) from toy guns as long as they don't look real. My nieces and nephews and I played with toy guns and played army together as much as we played house.
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I'm with Beanie on this one. I won't allow toy weapons in my house. If Kaya chooses to play with them outside then that's her choice. She will even be allowed to buy them herself, but she will have to keep them somewhere other than my house. If people buy her them as presents they will have to keep them at their house. I will discuss the reasons with her when she's old enough.
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doesnt bother me and if i have a boy he will be allowed to play with guns, swords etc....as long as i teach him right and wrong and bring him up properly not to get involved with gangs i dont care.... my little brother played with guns, even had a potato gun, and watched violet filsm and played video games and he isnt violent in the slightest..he is aware of what a game is and the difference between that and real life....guns and knives kill people and as long as he knows that.....
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I have a 4 year old boy and he likes to play with toy guns - mostly nerf guns that don't even look like real guns. Yet, I find a lot of mothers and parents will not let their boys play with guns and absolutely forbid it. The looks I get sometimes when my boy says he plays with toy guns, I might as well be dead.
Well, for one, cowboys and indians have been going on for generations, so has playing with army men. These were boy toys.
I understand the parents thinking however, their little boy will probably go to someone else's house and play with toy guns. They will just sneak and do it.
I also will not harp on my child for being just what he is, a little boy....a child.
What are your thoughts?
OMG you are my Parallel world......
Jade is a Tom Boy and like a lot of kids when we have been in shops she has wanted a gun (I am going back to the age of 3-4 til present). So we have bought her a gun, tbh I never gave it a second thought it was a toy that I played with as a kid when I used to play TJ Hooker so never put any thought into it.
I lived a long way away from my sister and when I went to visit I was shocked at the fact that her little boy was not aloud to play with guns, swords and anything of the like, but it soon became apparant why. He would not only play with them but he was actually violent with them, he would take a full swing with swords and really hurt people as well as hit things around the house. He just never knew the difference between playing and being violent.
Because Jade was playing with guns, had light sabres and watched Spiderman, The Hulk and whatever else she enjoyed within reason I got a real strong sense of my sister's OH looking right down his nose at me for letting Jade do what my sister's son was not a loud to do, corrrr I could feel it a mile off. It was as if I was a shit Mum for letting her have fun, as that is what she was doing, she was playing and enjoying herself, unlike what my nephew was doing, he almost terrorised people.
If Jade was violent with light sabres and swords and guns in any way and was physically fighting with kiddies rather than playing then she would not be a loud to play with them, but as she is sensible and able to 'play' I don't see the harm at all!
As you said, they are kiddies and it is all part of role play in my opinion, they see guns in cartoons and they don't see the dark side of guns, as cartoon charaters always get up and walk away. I know they will soon learn about the darker side as they get older but we as parents need to guide them as best we can. x
Boys willl be boys and as Jo says if they don't have a gun its lego/ sticks/ fingers whatever there is to hand.
I think if they have toys as a child they work it out there system its a toy its fun and like everything else as they grow up they lose interest. If they're not allowed a gun, its seen as forbiden fruit so when they get older they are more likely to want the real thing.
My boy likes playing wih his gun, he likess playing pirates, and wih his toy soilders, yet he will also play cooking & dolls with his little sister!
i also have a four year old and he loves playing with guns, i dont think theres anything wrong with it and seeing as hubby is in the Army i think id be a hypocrite if i told banned him from playing with them.
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If I do catch my twoplaying with guns (made out of sticks or whatever) then I will i use this oppertunity to talk about guns, etc etc when they are at the appropriate age, not tell them off or discourage it.
so never put any thought into it.
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