11 year olds on facebook

Foogirl · Jan 27th, 2010, 04:46 AM

I just wondered what you ladies thought of "tweenies" using Facebook.

My nephew is eleven and pretty much all of his classmates have a page on facebook. My sister refuses to let her son have one as first of all it is against their rules, but also because he is too young to appreciate the dangers of the internet.

She does talk to him and educate him about what to do and what not to do but she feels there is no need for him to be on Facebook. His friends obviously tease him about it, but he does understand why he doesn't have it.

My sister is more annoyed that the parents let it happen, in fact one of the lads in the class is a policeman's son and he is happy enough to let that happen.

Is she wrong? Do any of the mums here think Facebook is acceptable for eleven year olds?

Boony · Jan 27th, 2010, 05:37 AM

my niece and nephew have it they are 6 and 7!!!! and i think its ridiculous theres so much stuff on facebook that they shoudnt be able to see. for example my niece joined a group called 'hunni dont flatter yourself he's desperate and you're easy' now i'm sorry but she is 6 years old!!! and her mother thinks shes monitoring it! Thats been on her profie for at least a month now!

IMHO facebook has a age limit for a reason if you have to lie about your age to be on it then you shouldnt be on it!

expecting09 · Jan 27th, 2010, 06:01 AM

My sisters are 11 + 9 and they both have facebook. The 9 year old only has family as her friends on there and shes only allowed to use it for the games (farmville etc). Since the 11 year old started secondary school shes had her mates added, she doesn't have any pictures either and our dad has told them what they can and can't do, they mostly use it to play the games and dad checks after every time they've been on to see what they've been doing.

I think if there is an understanding about what they use it for it's ok. But IF they started to join groups, have 'randoms' add them and stuff it should be stopped

Cariad_bach · Jan 27th, 2010, 06:44 AM

I think it depends entirely on the parents TBH ..

..If there's a mum/dad in the background all the time monitoring, checking, keeping a very very close watch then Facebooks fine for 11+ keeping in touch with Grandparents and family.
(i wouldnt let my 7 year old loose on it!!)

But the Internet especially 'social networking' webbies are a gateway to hell if your not careful.

Even adults add the wrong people and fall out etc on there so you have to be careful.

sabby52 · Jan 27th, 2010, 07:51 AM

Dec is 12 and he has had a Facebook for ages now, I have set all his privacy setting so if someone searches his name it is very unlikely they will find him. He doesnt accept friend requests unless he knows the person and if he is a bit weary he will always come to me

He is very mature for 12 and he has his head screwed on so I dont mind him having one.

sarah0108 · Jan 27th, 2010, 15:13 PM

i think as long as they are being monitered its fine, but if not then its dangerous!

im not sure id let Harriet on FB at 11 or not

AtomicPink · Jan 27th, 2010, 15:18 PM

I dont think its acceptable. Its an open online playground for bullying and paedophiles

Jkelmum · Jan 27th, 2010, 15:58 PM

Katie is 10 and as facebook only has family on there and plays the games ..her name isnt her name either

kiwimama · Jan 27th, 2010, 16:08 PM

IF i let my child on there at 10 or 11 I'd be monitoring it VERY closely..

AtomicPink · Jan 27th, 2010, 16:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by serina27

Katie is 10 and as facebook only has family on there and plays the games ..her name isnt her name either

thats a good idea

Jan 27th, 2010, 04:46 AM	#1
Foogirl Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Falkirk, Scotland Posts: 4,606	11 year olds on facebook I just wondered what you ladies thought of "tweenies" using Facebook. My nephew is eleven and pretty much all of his classmates have a page on facebook. My sister refuses to let her son have one as first of all it is against their rules, but also because he is too young to appreciate the dangers of the internet. She does talk to him and educate him about what to do and what not to do but she feels there is no need for him to be on Facebook. His friends obviously tease him about it, but he does understand why he doesn't have it. My sister is more annoyed that the parents let it happen, in fact one of the lads in the class is a policeman's son and he is happy enough to let that happen. Is she wrong? Do any of the mums here think Facebook is acceptable for eleven year olds?

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Jan 27th, 2010, 05:37 AM	#2
Boony Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Lincolnshire Posts: 1,945	my niece and nephew have it they are 6 and 7!!!! and i think its ridiculous theres so much stuff on facebook that they shoudnt be able to see. for example my niece joined a group called 'hunni dont flatter yourself he's desperate and you're easy' now i'm sorry but she is 6 years old!!! and her mother thinks shes monitoring it! Thats been on her profie for at least a month now! IMHO facebook has a age limit for a reason if you have to lie about your age to be on it then you shouldnt be on it!

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Jan 27th, 2010, 06:01 AM	#3
expecting09 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Cornwall Posts: 1,047	My sisters are 11 + 9 and they both have facebook. The 9 year old only has family as her friends on there and shes only allowed to use it for the games (farmville etc). Since the 11 year old started secondary school shes had her mates added, she doesn't have any pictures either and our dad has told them what they can and can't do, they mostly use it to play the games and dad checks after every time they've been on to see what they've been doing. I think if there is an understanding about what they use it for it's ok. But IF they started to join groups, have 'randoms' add them and stuff it should be stopped

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Jan 27th, 2010, 06:44 AM	#4
Cariad_bach Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: North Wales Posts: 5,652	I think it depends entirely on the parents TBH .. ..If there's a mum/dad in the background all the time monitoring, checking, keeping a very very close watch then Facebooks fine for 11+ keeping in touch with Grandparents and family. (i wouldnt let my 7 year old loose on it!!) But the Internet especially 'social networking' webbies are a gateway to hell if your not careful. Even adults add the wrong people and fall out etc on there so you have to be careful.

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Jan 27th, 2010, 07:51 AM	#5
sabby52 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Belfast N.Ireland Posts: 15,162	Dec is 12 and he has had a Facebook for ages now, I have set all his privacy setting so if someone searches his name it is very unlikely they will find him. He doesnt accept friend requests unless he knows the person and if he is a bit weary he will always come to me He is very mature for 12 and he has his head screwed on so I dont mind him having one.

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Jan 27th, 2010, 15:13 PM	#6
sarah0108 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: May 2009 Location: Amongst the chaos Posts: 14,893	i think as long as they are being monitered its fine, but if not then its dangerous! im not sure id let Harriet on FB at 11 or not

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Jan 27th, 2010, 15:18 PM	#7
AtomicPink Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 19,122	I dont think its acceptable. Its an open online playground for bullying and paedophiles

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Jan 27th, 2010, 15:58 PM	#8
Jkelmum Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In my own bubble Posts: 17,575	Katie is 10 and as facebook only has family on there and plays the games ..her name isnt her name either

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Jan 27th, 2010, 16:08 PM	#9
kiwimama Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: New Zealand Posts: 6,389	IF i let my child on there at 10 or 11 I'd be monitoring it VERY closely..

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