Hello ladies
here's the problem and I need some advice. My step-daughter is 6 and still wearing diapers at night. We have her like 2 nights a week and I have told DH that is not good. She has to stop wearing them because she will never learn the right way, or she will but she will be a teen anf might not be able to hold it and look up to pull ups. Her mother doesn't put diepers on her because she is too lazy to potty train the kid, obviously she is almost 7! My DH's mom is also a problem because she want's to "baby" her and thinks her bladder will automatically learn and streghten. I think that is not true, if she knows theres a diaper she is comfortable, without one she hasnt learn to potty train and she will have an accident. DH wont listen to me anymore, we used to not put pull ups for 6 months and she was just fine but last night he spoiled it He won't take my advice anymore and is firm with his answer, he will simply follow the rest. That is bad for my step daughter! Kids start potty training at 2,3 and she is almost 7! I am frustrated and give up with advices for him simply because he wont listen anymore! Our kids will be potty trained and she will be like 10 and still with pull ups (he even mentioned one time that his mom will put them even when shes a teen, she doesnt want her to grow up) I had given up now...I have talked to people and they all think this is crazy. What do you guys think?

I do think it is a bit odd and seems that mum is putting diapers on her to save her the hassle of washing sheets.
How does your step daughter feel about wearing diapers at night?

One thing I will say though is that some children just do wet at night for quite a long tim,e sometimes they are in too deep asleep to feel the urge to go, also other factors can make children wet at night.

I used to wet the bed until I was around 7/8 ( can't beleive I am admitting this lol but may help) it did not stop until my mum and dad split up, because the atmosphere at home was so tense I picked up on it, 2 days after he left I was dry through the night and never had another accident.

If you only have her 2 nights it will be very dificult to make a change unless Step daughter wants to, as she will revert back when she is at home, she will realise it is not right as such when she is at school has sleep overs etc...

I think DH's mum needs to keep out of this issue TBH as she is not helping matters

Good luck and try not to get stressed about it too much x

I have got 2 say I agree with your opinion, a 6 YO should not be still in diapers at night, fair enough it would be ok if there was a medical reason for it but if her mum is just too lazy to train her then that is soo not on!

Yeah I agree... tbh you might not be gettign a good picture from her mum, there could be other issues there.

My little brother is 9 and is incontinent both ways.

Theres not a lot you can do to change anything in 2 days so its really up to her mother to make the decision.

x

The mother is as lazy as she can be thats the reason why she is not enforcing on the new rule. Yes DH's mother needs to stay out of it but he is on her side and that what makes me mad My step daughter gets excited when she is accident free and I make her feel special and tell her she is a big girl when she doesnt wear a pull up and accident free. It is the kid's benefit but nobody wants to help and you are totally right, we don't have her enuf to teach her so it's almost impossible. DH's mom told him her bladder will automatically streghten and i dont see that unless she gets potty trained and rewarde. Keeping the routine wont make her stop outta no where and if she wants to baby her she will always put pull ups it is not helping! Both mothers are stricktly for pull ups and now we are back on that It sucks that my opinion doesn't matter and I am the only one that wants her to grow up and know the right thing... It makes the kid happy whe she succeed..

Well because of the laziness another problem is that she has exzema and she has had it for years! Since she was 4. Bad hygene, laziness etc leads to exzemas, irritations. Kids are so much better without pull ups, its the best for their skin and their mentality, growing up, learning.

I think the only thing is for your Step daughter to not wear pull ups at yours and then hopefully she will tell mum and grandma she is a big girl and doesn't need them.

I honestly don't know what to suggest especially as DH does not seem to be listening to your reasoning

Thats what i think so too but she sais mommy and grandma put pull ups on me and u guys don't and she starts crying. I have tried couple of times and she was accident free and very happy. And now what, back to same old Nobody is listening to me I think I am gonna step back and let it roll itself I have no other option, I have tried everything, all I want is the best for the kid.

my brother and my god-sister both were bed-wetters at night til about the age of 6 or 7, and plenty of my mums friends kids wet the bed at night til that age, i dont think its that unheard of, but they do normally just grow out of it, or you can get special alarm pads that go off when the wet to help them know when to go ect.

like someone else said they can just be in too deep sleep, or their can be other factors.

hope you can find something to do xxx

My sister had to wear diapers at night until 11. Poor thing. Some kids just can't help it and don't develop the ability to wake up when they need to go at night until they are much older. If she just can't hold her wee at night this may be the issue rather than laziness. We tried lots of things with my sister and not having any liquid after 3pm barely worked--and not reliably either. My mother used to set an alarm to get her up at night to go as well. She (my sister) really wanted to not wet as well, as she couldn't have sleep overs or anything.
If she isn't just weeing then I'd agree it may be a training issue.