what to do??kids expolrng

missy123 · Dec 15th, 2009, 09:37 AM

ok ill keep this brief but my 5 year old(boy) and my my 4 year old neice,were caught with the trousers and pants off in my mothers house last weekend by my sister who went mad,her daughter told her they were playing "sucking bums" she rang me shouting her head off and said i should have my child looked at as his behaviour is "not normal" my son said it was her idea and she blaming him,either way there were no adults around

she even took her child straight to hospital like she had been sexually abused or something,the kids didnt see anything wrong in it they were just playing

now my sister wont talk to me and thinks we should see a shrink

im gutted and dont know what to do,my son said he didnt touch her with his lips but addmitted they had their pants off

leeanne · Dec 15th, 2009, 09:46 AM

Oh boy! This is such a normal thing at this age. Honestly, exploration occurs at this age and to even bring her child to the hospital.

Midnight_Fairy · Dec 15th, 2009, 09:49 AM

I cant believe your sister is behaving in such a way

I dont really know what to suggest hun but I am sure your boy was just exploring. How was he to know? I hope your ok x

Tegans Mama · Dec 15th, 2009, 10:00 AM

You poor thing. Your sister is really over reacting

I don't have any advice but I hope it works out

kerrie24 · Dec 15th, 2009, 10:10 AM

Oh dear,its completely normal at this age to want to explore what they havent got.Your sister is over-reacting slightly,the children both did it and they arent that different in age so you cant blame one more than the other.Hopefully she will realise she is being silly.If you both explain to the children why you cant do things like that,I think that should be the end of it.

missy123 · Dec 15th, 2009, 10:16 AM

thanks everyone

she wont see sense i offered to talk to her but she shut me off and doesnt want to know,i have spoken to my child and he didnt know he was doin wrong untill she shouted at him,the whole family are upset my mother especially

after all this i dont think i want her in my life

Jkelmum · Dec 15th, 2009, 12:33 PM

Thats awful hunnie

she is overeacting

Dinoslass · Dec 15th, 2009, 14:51 PM

Yes I agree. She is over reacting. Hope things work out, must be hard.

Blah11 · Dec 15th, 2009, 15:21 PM

Oh they're both only babys... she's def over reacting. They would have just thought they were playing a game, they don't understand or have any remotely sexual feelings so young!

skippy · Dec 16th, 2009, 17:16 PM

she's certainly over reacting, hope everything works out

Dec 15th, 2009, 09:37 AM	#1
missy123 Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Ireland Posts: 1,561	what to do??kids expolrng ok ill keep this brief but my 5 year old(boy) and my my 4 year old neice,were caught with the trousers and pants off in my mothers house last weekend by my sister who went mad,her daughter told her they were playing "sucking bums" she rang me shouting her head off and said i should have my child looked at as his behaviour is "not normal" my son said it was her idea and she blaming him,either way there were no adults around she even took her child straight to hospital like she had been sexually abused or something,the kids didnt see anything wrong in it they were just playing now my sister wont talk to me and thinks we should see a shrink im gutted and dont know what to do,my son said he didnt touch her with his lips but addmitted they had their pants off

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Dec 15th, 2009, 09:46 AM	#2
leeanne Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: BC, Canada Posts: 26,691	Oh boy! This is such a normal thing at this age. Honestly, exploration occurs at this age and to even bring her child to the hospital.

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Dec 15th, 2009, 09:49 AM	#3
Midnight_Fairy Other BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: South Coast UK Posts: 17,289	I cant believe your sister is behaving in such a way I dont really know what to suggest hun but I am sure your boy was just exploring. How was he to know? I hope your ok x

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Dec 15th, 2009, 10:00 AM	#4
Tegans Mama Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Sunny Derbyshire Posts: 12,011	You poor thing. Your sister is really over reacting I don't have any advice but I hope it works out

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Dec 15th, 2009, 10:10 AM	#5
kerrie24 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: uk Posts: 2,941	Oh dear,its completely normal at this age to want to explore what they havent got.Your sister is over-reacting slightly,the children both did it and they arent that different in age so you cant blame one more than the other.Hopefully she will realise she is being silly.If you both explain to the children why you cant do things like that,I think that should be the end of it.

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Dec 15th, 2009, 10:16 AM	#6
missy123 Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Ireland Posts: 1,561	thanks everyone she wont see sense i offered to talk to her but she shut me off and doesnt want to know,i have spoken to my child and he didnt know he was doin wrong untill she shouted at him,the whole family are upset my mother especially after all this i dont think i want her in my life

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Dec 15th, 2009, 12:33 PM	#7
Jkelmum Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In my own bubble Posts: 17,570	Thats awful hunnie she is overeacting

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Dinoslass Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 789	Yes I agree. She is over reacting. Hope things work out, must be hard.

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Blah11 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 32,825	Oh they're both only babys... she's def over reacting. They would have just thought they were playing a game, they don't understand or have any remotely sexual feelings so young!

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Dec 16th, 2009, 17:16 PM	#10
skippy Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Anywhere but home Posts: 484	she's certainly over reacting, hope everything works out

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