leeanne

Unfortunately, she does take notice. She's a very smart girl. Besides, I think kids pick up on these things more earlier than it used to be.

So far a few episodes since then but she's not been really playing with the one mean girl.

It's still strange though. Last year she was so liked in school and none of this happened. That was kindergarten. This year is a new school, Grade 1, and so much different.

leeanne

This week has been tough on her and all the girls haven't been playing with her the past few days at lunch. All of the 4 other girls in her class.

I had a big talk with OH last night. The school is good in that she is getting extra help where and when she needs to...like reading and speech. I also thought I liked the fact that the class size was 1/2 the size of many other schools due to the fact that it is more in the country.

However, the downfall is that there are only a handful of girls and if she has problems with some, she can't hang out with any others. She hasn't connected with them since the first day of school and that's not her. The mothers are also far more cliquier, possibly because they've known each other quite awhile and possibly because the kids have too.

So, I will be looking into other schools around here to see if maybe a change might do her good. Also going to look into activities such as soccer etc.

Wobbles

Poor lil woman

I think as much as we'll look for the said best schools, reputation, extra learning activities, more one to one with fewer kids the happiness of your kids is vitel & a sad lil girl could have effect on how well she in concentrating so could effect grades.

I personally think you are making the right decision for your daughter - If she had a choice to move school to be a happier more playful lil girl with some school buddies I'm sure she would and we as parents have to make the final decision in their best interest & on their behalf.

Hope you see what I am saying

An idea - is she a bouncy lil girl? Any local dance classes for kids? Something fun and I bet lots of nice lil ladies there too! I wish I went to something like this when I was younger even considered it a while ago for adults (not slow jazz dancing like lol)

Best of luck with what comes next x

leeanne

Thank you Wobbles! She's really wanted to play soccer for two years now and I looked and registration is still available. So, I will be asking her if she wants to do that.

She loves school but if this continues, I can see her not liking it so much anymore. I sure wouldn't. I know when I was in junior high school I had a tough time and dreaded going to school.

I just hope that I make the right decision if we do change her schools. There will always be cruel kids but maybe in another school there will be more kids (girls) that she can befriend rather than just 4.

Wobbles

Ahhh I see @ soccer - I was thinking girly girl activities hehe

Could you ask for a meeting to her current school talk about how you feel and that you would like to move her schools but as you are unsure at this time if it is the right decision could she return?

leeanne

In the meantime, I want to have a talk with her teacher and see how Amanda's been in class, what the dynamics are between her and the other girls and boys, and just pretty much not point fingers at other kids. Hopefully the teacher can keep an eye on her from then on out. But I will tell the teacher that I am thinking of moving schools because Amanda is feeling uncomfortable. Will see if it helps any.

Jo

I think it's a great idea, to chat to the teacher and let her know how concerned you are and that you are thinking about swapping schools
I'm so sorry Amanda is still having a rough time of it

I would try out of school activities to see if she can get to know other girls that are in other schools before changing as it could be hard for her to make all new friends if you get what i mean

i've had some nightmare times with Emily and a couple of girls so i really do know how hard it is hun xx

Mamafy

yep I think if it was me I'd look for another school too, your little girl has to spend much more time there so it would be great if she could spend it happy. Good luck!

leeanne

Thank you Jo! It's upsetting, isn't it?

Well, this morning she confirmed she wants to play soccer. Next September I'll probably put her back into hip hop dance too.

As for other schools, you never know. They may not accept her because we don't live in their district. But I will raise a stink if I decide the change of schools is better.

BTW, I won't be changing until the beginning of the next school year.

AWW, thank goodness she will have two younger brothers to protect her in school in years to come. Jayden is off to Kindergarten in her same school next year and then in Grade 1 he will be there full days. Other kids don't see what's to come! LOL

leeanne

We, as many know, are having a big birthday party on Saturday for my son who is turning 5 and the next door neighbor's daughter who is turning 9.

So, I've invited a girl from Amanda's class to come and she is! I so like this little girl and she is so much like Amanda. They were hanging out for quite awhile but lately one of the mean girls has been taking her away from Amanda. I am hoping this party might help to them bond again.

What I also feel badly about is Jayden, who is in preschool, is being invited to a number of different friend's houses from school. It's great for Jayden, yet I can see Amanda getting jealous of that too.

Sorry for my rant today. Been stressed due to this large party and now to hear that Amanda is having bad days this week doesn't help!

to all who gave advice! I appreciate your words greatly!