Its not fair...she's only 10!

xxxjacxxx · Nov 21st, 2009, 17:33 PM

My DD is only ten and she is very close to starting her periods.

She's been thinking about it for the last year or so as Ive noticed light browny coloured discharge in her knickers, pubic hair down there, boobs, greasy hair/skin and spots on her face

The thing is, although she looks older than 10, she isn't ready for the responsibility of puberty! I still have to nag her in the mornings to change her knickers, wash her hair... I'm scared she's not going to be able to maintain her personal hygeine.
I have had a talk with her and she knows to tell me if and when it happens, so I'm confident she will confide in me when the time comes.
10 THOUGH? wtf!
I was 15, ffs, my baby girl is growing up too fast

Anybody else dd satrted this young? How did you handle it, how did she handle it?

dizzyspells · Nov 21st, 2009, 17:52 PM

Aww hun It must be hard for you to see!My Mum(69),Sister,Me and my sisters 2 eldest girls all started our periods at age 10!!I was pre-warned as my Mum expected it so it was not a big deal really for me,my mum was open about it but I felt embarressed to tell people!.I started High School boobs,periods and all!!She will be fine hunni,aslong as she knows what to expect and she has you there for support,It never really affected me just made me look older than I was but for me at the time as a teenager I loved it.xxx

loz · Nov 21st, 2009, 17:52 PM

omg my daughter is 6 i cant imagine her going through that at 10! no advice sorry x

Weeplin · Nov 21st, 2009, 17:59 PM

Hi. My daughter isn't anywhere near this stage but I myself started my periods really young. I was 11. My mum didn't ever really talk to me about just told me that I would have to start wearing sanitary pads and I already knew from school what periods meant.

I remember that I wasn't really fazed myself and just dealt with it. Back then I think It was just another tedious chore like washing my hair but I was still the same child I was the day before they started.

If I was there now with my own DD I would have done what you have done. Talk to her, make sure she understands. Make sure she knows that you are there to support her whilst she goes through these changes. Talk to her about personal hygiene however awkward and help her understand how important it is.

Hope I help

xxxjacxxx · Nov 21st, 2009, 18:20 PM

I have spoken to her about it but I dont know how much of it has gone in to be honest. I swear she'd forget her own name somedays

She's so lacksadaisy its unreal. I am just not sure she's mature enough to deal with it all.
I suppose she will have to learn fast though,

I have spent the last year drumming into her the importance of personal hygeine, and its finally registered that she has to change her knickers every day

My 6 year old does this anyway.

She's just too young to become a woman at 10

brownhairedmom · Nov 21st, 2009, 18:26 PM

I started at 11.

I don't know what to do about the knickers thing, but you can help her prevent acne and greasy skin by maybe doing facials and stuff together?? Buy her a fancy facewash (apparently boots carries a line called Soap and Glory that you can get 2 for 3 or 3 for 2, whatever their sale is that they have there. They sell it here, I use it...its wonderful. Its called Scrub Your Nose In It) that looks pretty and wash your faces together/slap some facemask on...make it mother/daughter bonding time. Help her do her hair too so it doesn't look so greasy, etc....

v2007 · Nov 21st, 2009, 18:40 PM

My dd is 10 as well and im dreading it, she is a bugger for not changing her knickers, every morn i have to tell her.

She wont have a shower unless i remind her but she always remember to brush her teeth, shame she dont do her hair.

Her memory is appalling, i can ask her summat and not 10 second later she has forgotten.

Oh well its part of Mummyhood.

V xxxx

jackiea85 · Nov 21st, 2009, 18:47 PM

I started my periods at 11, as did my mum. She got me a book when I was 10 (Everything a Girl Should Know by Samantha Rugen, brilliant book, basic without being patronising) and some sanitary towels to keep in my underwear drawer, and told me what to do with them. As soon as I started my period I went in and told her as I was really scared, even though she prepared me for it, and she gave me a big hug. I think she went about it the right way really, it must be difficult for both of you. My mum is already panicking a bit about my sister who is 9 and has started developing already, but no periods yet x

xxxjacxxx · Nov 21st, 2009, 19:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Scorpio87

I started at 11.

I don't know what to do about the knickers thing, but you can help her prevent acne and greasy skin by maybe doing facials and stuff together?? Buy her a fancy facewash (apparently boots carries a line called Soap and Glory that you can get 2 for 3 or 3 for 2, whatever their sale is that they have there. They sell it here, I use it...its wonderful. Its called Scrub Your Nose In It) that looks pretty and wash your faces together/slap some facemask on...make it mother/daughter bonding time. Help her do her hair too so it doesn't look so greasy, etc....

I use this line! I dont have the facial one though. I do buy her clearasil and she has MUD facial mask and to be fair, she uses them when she feels like it. I think I might suggest a little 'us' time one night this week and do this, maybe I can approach the puberty subject again.

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Originally Posted by v2007

My dd is 10 as well and im dreading it, she is a bugger for not changing her knickers, every morn i have to tell her.

She wont have a shower unless i remind her but she always remember to brush her teeth, shame she dont do her hair.

Her memory is appalling, i can ask her summat and not 10 second later she has forgotten.

Oh well its part of Mummyhood.

V xxxx

Oh hun, we have 2 peas in a pod! Courteney is Ditzy, so unbeleivably ditzy, lol!

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Originally Posted by jackiea85

I started my periods at 11, as did my mum. She got me a book when I was 10 (Everything a Girl Should Know by Samantha Rugen, brilliant book, basic without being patronising) and some sanitary towels to keep in my underwear drawer, and told me what to do with them. As soon as I started my period I went in and told her as I was really scared, even though she prepared me for it, and she gave me a big hug. I think she went about it the right way really, it must be difficult for both of you. My mum is already panicking a bit about my sister who is 9 and has started developing already, but no periods yet x

Ive bought her a book a while back and she did have a look. She's not embarrassed about it at all which is great! But maybe I should buy her some sanitary towels...the only thing is she shares a room with my 6 year old dd and last time she had hold of mine she plastered the cat in them

But no seriously, I shall pop some in her bottom drawer and tell her they are there

tasha41 · Nov 21st, 2009, 22:48 PM

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Originally Posted by xxxjacquixxx

My DD is only ten and she is very close to starting her periods.

She's been thinking about it for the last year or so as Ive noticed light browny coloured discharge in her knickers, pubic hair down there, boobs, greasy hair/skin and spots on her face

The thing is, although she looks older than 10, she isn't ready for the responsibility of puberty! I still have to nag her in the mornings to change her knickers, wash her hair... I'm scared she's not going to be able to maintain her personal hygeine.
I have had a talk with her and she knows to tell me if and when it happens, so I'm confident she will confide in me when the time comes.
10 THOUGH? wtf!
I was 15, ffs, my baby girl is growing up too fast

Anybody else dd satrted this young? How did you handle it, how did she handle it?

For the panty issue, what about buying her some fun/cute (but still age-appropriate) underwear? Not sure if it will help, but maybe? I was 11/12 with mine, I know I always wore dark bottoms when I had my period because I was super paranoid about leaks LOL before I started using tampons.. umm.. TBH I kept everything in check because I knew it would be super embarrassing if I didn't and there was some sort of AF mishap

She'll do fine I'm sure, you're doing great already with the book etc! <3

Nov 21st, 2009, 17:33 PM	#1
xxxjacxxx AutoSignup (SAAB) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: N. Wales Posts: 15,770	Its not fair...she's only 10! My DD is only ten and she is very close to starting her periods. She's been thinking about it for the last year or so as Ive noticed light browny coloured discharge in her knickers, pubic hair down there, boobs, greasy hair/skin and spots on her face The thing is, although she looks older than 10, she isn't ready for the responsibility of puberty! I still have to nag her in the mornings to change her knickers, wash her hair... I'm scared she's not going to be able to maintain her personal hygeine. I have had a talk with her and she knows to tell me if and when it happens, so I'm confident she will confide in me when the time comes. 10 THOUGH? wtf! I was 15, ffs, my baby girl is growing up too fast Anybody else dd satrted this young? How did you handle it, how did she handle it?

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dizzyspells Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Skipton but soon will be Spain again! Posts: 7,670	Aww hun It must be hard for you to see!My Mum(69),Sister,Me and my sisters 2 eldest girls all started our periods at age 10!!I was pre-warned as my Mum expected it so it was not a big deal really for me,my mum was open about it but I felt embarressed to tell people!.I started High School boobs,periods and all!!She will be fine hunni,aslong as she knows what to expect and she has you there for support,It never really affected me just made me look older than I was but for me at the time as a teenager I loved it.xxx

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loz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: manchester Posts: 4,685	omg my daughter is 6 i cant imagine her going through that at 10! no advice sorry x

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Weeplin Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Scotland Posts: 2,848	Hi. My daughter isn't anywhere near this stage but I myself started my periods really young. I was 11. My mum didn't ever really talk to me about just told me that I would have to start wearing sanitary pads and I already knew from school what periods meant. I remember that I wasn't really fazed myself and just dealt with it. Back then I think It was just another tedious chore like washing my hair but I was still the same child I was the day before they started. If I was there now with my own DD I would have done what you have done. Talk to her, make sure she understands. Make sure she knows that you are there to support her whilst she goes through these changes. Talk to her about personal hygiene however awkward and help her understand how important it is. Hope I help

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xxxjacxxx AutoSignup (SAAB) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: N. Wales Posts: 15,770	I have spoken to her about it but I dont know how much of it has gone in to be honest. I swear she'd forget her own name somedays She's so lacksadaisy its unreal. I am just not sure she's mature enough to deal with it all. I suppose she will have to learn fast though, I have spent the last year drumming into her the importance of personal hygeine, and its finally registered that she has to change her knickers every day My 6 year old does this anyway. She's just too young to become a woman at 10

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brownhairedmom Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 6,444	I started at 11. I don't know what to do about the knickers thing, but you can help her prevent acne and greasy skin by maybe doing facials and stuff together?? Buy her a fancy facewash (apparently boots carries a line called Soap and Glory that you can get 2 for 3 or 3 for 2, whatever their sale is that they have there. They sell it here, I use it...its wonderful. Its called Scrub Your Nose In It) that looks pretty and wash your faces together/slap some facemask on...make it mother/daughter bonding time. Help her do her hair too so it doesn't look so greasy, etc....

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v2007 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Trendy Morecambe Posts: 24,528	My dd is 10 as well and im dreading it, she is a bugger for not changing her knickers, every morn i have to tell her. She wont have a shower unless i remind her but she always remember to brush her teeth, shame she dont do her hair. Her memory is appalling, i can ask her summat and not 10 second later she has forgotten. Oh well its part of Mummyhood. V xxxx

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jackiea85 Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 2,398	I started my periods at 11, as did my mum. She got me a book when I was 10 (Everything a Girl Should Know by Samantha Rugen, brilliant book, basic without being patronising) and some sanitary towels to keep in my underwear drawer, and told me what to do with them. As soon as I started my period I went in and told her as I was really scared, even though she prepared me for it, and she gave me a big hug. I think she went about it the right way really, it must be difficult for both of you. My mum is already panicking a bit about my sister who is 9 and has started developing already, but no periods yet x

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