Hey, just wondering if there's anyone that have a couple of children with big age gaps and how the older one dealth with having a new brother or sister.
My daughter will be 8 when her sister is born and although she is very excited about it, not sure what she'll actually be like when the baby comes.
Also I find myself getting upset at times because it's been just her and we give her everything (not spoilt though) I mean love and attention, she's still my baby.
I feel the same towards my little boy who is 6 i love him so much, he is excited for the new baby too, but dont no how he will be when baby comes, the way im going to try and deal with it is invole him as much as i can with the baby i.e when vistor come make it special that he shows them the baby and talk about the baby helps with feed, bath time ect.
I do think in the long run it will be good for our children to have a brother or sister. Ive been upset a few times myself.
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My LO will have a half sister who is 8. She seems to be looking forward to it.
I think at that age it's great because they're old enough to understand whats going on and not get jealous like a toddler would. They can be more involved so they don't feel left out.
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Emily was 7 when i had Jack, I had all the feelings, would she be jeleous etc...
But she was brilliant, a great little helper and loves him to bits, she was/is also old enough to understand that they need that little bit more attention, i have to admit she was left to her own devices sometimes but i tried to split my time and attention equally even though it is hard at times
It is only now that he is 2 that the novelty has worn off and she finds him a bit of a pest at times, but i think that happens with all siblings really
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My DH is 21 and his youngest brother is 8! DH is GREAT with kids though, loves babies, maybe even more than me! He has a lot of experience taking care of little ones since he is the eldest of 4.
I gotta say though, his little brother "never acted his age" since I've known them (met DH when his brother was 4), since he had so many older siblings he hung around with. I remember when he was 5 he would say he was age 17...
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During the pregnancy she was really excited about having a brother, and kept on about it all the time. Then the day I had him, apparently my sister told me she was very nervous about coming up the hospital to meet him and see me and Paul. So my sister took her out so she could buy us (mummy & Daddy) a gift from her and a card, which took her mind of things and gave her something to focus on, (we never knew any of this at the time).
She very cautiously walked into the room and came and gave me a cuddle and I encouraged her to go and look at Alfie (I think she was a bit shy too) so she did, and tbh none of us have looked back since.
I was the same as you, I felt so sorry for Jade being so much older and thought she would feel left out, so I made a conscious effort to involve her in everything from the start, which included an imediate hold of Alfie to have a cuddle.
There was the initial bit of feeling left out when he was very young, but we just explained that at this age he needed everything doing for him as he is so small, but it wouldn't always be like that. We also made sure she was never left out, so I think that was more about her adjusting to having a sibling and not having 100% attention to herself.
We bought Jade a little present and said that was from Alfie, who is so happy that you are his big sister......that went down very well.
I also promised her that we would go out on a saturday or at times for a coffee on our own (without Alfie) so we could still have 'our' time together.
She has loved every minute of it, she even wants us to have a little girl now. So I really think your LO will be great hun, I truely was worried, but she absolutely dotes on Alfie, and he gets all excited when she comes home from school or when he sees her first thing in the morning.
At the moment, they both spend a lot of time crawling about on the floor racing, which is ace as it has Alfie in hysterics and it is keeping her busy and is all good for their relationship.
I am sure you will have as much enjoyment watching your kiddies together, as will your daughter having a sibling around. x
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Kayleigh's 15 in 7 weeks, and Charlie's 18 months, so I think you can call that a rather big age gap!!
She is brilliant with Charlie - a proper little mum. She's always wanted a little brother, but I was worried the novelty would have worn off my now, but it's not. In fact, he's sitting on her knee on the other sofa at the minute reading a book!
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