*I do have this posted in WTT, but think this might be a better place for it, since it will deal with my kids when they're older. If it needs to be moved, feel free to move it, mods!*

I've been talking to my OH a little bit about when we should try for our third baby. I know we're jumping the gun a little, since I'm still pregnant with the second, but I'm a planner. We were going to start trying in 3-5 years, but I don't think it will really be possible unless everything falls into place within a short timeframe. So instead of trying in 3-5 years, I thought maybe we would try again in 10 years (sounds like forever).

See, we have our son, who will be 16 months old when his little sister is born. So they will be really close in age. And I'd rather not have another baby five years from now and a fourth another five years after that (we have agreed on having 4). I thought maybe we'd just wait 10 years and have #3 and #4 two (or so) years apart.

Would that be mean to my older two, or even the younger two, for such a big age gap between the groups? Is it mean to have two different groups in the first place?

*Sorry for rambling, I can never seem to get out what I'm trying to say *

i have 14 yrs gap between 1st and 2nd and am ttc now for my third.
tbh the best to do is whats best for your family, rosie has a lovely bond with rhys and is more help than a toddler would because obv she's more independant but she is still an only child as she does play/hangout on her own. this ios the reason why i want another close in age.
prob a different perspective i'm not telling what to do just what my family is like, all children have their own bond what ever the gap, you do what feels right for you
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I have jake 13 and katie 9 then ethan 2 so a 7 yr gap and now lily ....tbh Ethan was my last baby but then i realised he was like a only child cos other 2 was older so we decided to have lily ....it works great in my house i dont think i cud do 4 little ones ...the older ones help out and love there litte siblings xxx

There is a 9year 9months gap between my two and I love it, I am not planning on having any more but I wouldnt have it any other way, Dan is old enough to do his own thing and I have free time to spend with Dec when I want, then I have the evenings when Dec is winding down to spend with the both of them. They get on so well apart from the fact that Dec is so rough due to the fact that he is thrown around by an 11 year old!!!! Lol But I also have the benifit of Dan being on hand to help with his little brother.

My sister is 30, I am 26, brother is 25, sister is 16 and brother is 10. I love it and we all get along. I wouldn't worry about age gaps xx

I'm the same as Helen - 14 yrs between #1 and #2 and TTC #3. There are no rules....families adapt to their specific circumstances

I rekon any age gap will work really, its individual to the family, theres 7 years between me and my sister and we get on really well, i get on better with her than my brother and hes only 14 months younger. Its up to you and your family will adapT! theres no rules and no age that works better than another!

my 1st daughter is 16.........baby daughter no 2 due in 15 days.

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my daughter is 12, my son is 6 in october and this one is due in august

My DH's siblings range in age from 23 to thirty-something... and then their 9-year-old sister! She's very spoiled but she's a sweet kid; I don't think the age difference had any adverse effects. As for my family, I'm 24 and my older siblings are 28, 30 and 32... and we have a 6-year-old brother and a 9-year-old sister. My oldest nephew is actually older than my youngest brother! The only sibling I grew up with is my 17-year-old brother, and even the 7 years between us could be considered a pretty good gap. We fought a lot, since he was a bratty little brother, but we're actually pretty close. There's no real rivalry between us since I'm a lot older, and I can give him good advice that he sometimes actually listens to; he tells me a lot more than he tells our parents.

All in all, I don't think a big age gap is a bad thing at all. We turned out mostly normal