aww hunni thats a lovely thing to say i tell Lisa this too

sorry you have no one to go to!! Could u not go to a different surgery or a local family planning clinic!!

I wouldn't ever "put" someone on anything, but if she comes to you and requests it, I'd go for it. Just as long as she uses a condom for STD stuff, she'll be alright. Or even just as a backup...

Thank you for taking time to the reply but I did ask for opinions from people who either have teenage kids/nieces/sisters etc. or from those who had gone thought this with their own mums. I respect that you wouldnt ever 'put' your daughter on anything but with the greatest respect, you dont know how you will feel if you ever have a teenage daughter I thought I would and wouldnt do many things but until it's YOU in the position you can never say how you will deal with things. Perhaps that's why you have a 'she'll be alright' mentality towards it. I dont have that luxury as she's a real and precious person to me

Stalker alert!!

I dont have a teenage daughter but will be 30 this year and just wanted to say that I think one of the best things a mum can do is to have an open relationship with her daughter, just like you have. My mum and I can talk about anything, she seriously is my best friend. You sound like a fab mum and Emily really is very lucky to have such a fabby mum

I also think you are doing the right thing regarding looking into contraceptive choices for Emily as to be honest I dont think many young teenagers are fully able to grasp the pros and cons of the wide choice available out there. Not sure if you have already spoken to her about what her feelings are on contraception? I went on the pill at 14 due to having mega painfull periods and it didnt encourage me to have sex before I was ready.

I really hope I can have such an open relationship with Rebecca

aw thank you.....you dont know what its means to hear someone say that

Well I thought I'd update this thread....

Since posting I have had a number of conversations with Emily for various reasons - this topic obviously and also because of the HPV vaccine.

As the HPV vaccine program started when she was in Y9 she will be part of the mop up, which means she wont get the jabs until she is almost 17.
I'm really keen for her to have the vaccine and for it to be given before she becomes sexually active. Emily knows very well that getting pregnant is (as far as I am concerned) the least of her worries - catching an STD ranging from a dose to HIV is a much bigger concern for me personally. So she understands the importance of the use of condoms to protect her sexual health and then contraceptive as well - a kind of belt AND braces approach is what I like to instill in her.
Obviously I wont be there to ensure she always takes my advice so I spoke to the school nurse about her getting the HPV before Y11. The nurse advised I go the GP and plead my case. My GP is lovely so Emily and I went to her today. She has girls a couple of years older than Em so she knows EXACTLY where I'm coming from. We talked about the jab and she said she would check if we were able to request it before she would get it under the mop up. We also talked about contraception and the timing of it. She advised us that there is obviously no need until she is sexually active and echoed what I had said about the importance of condoms. She talked to us both about the importance of getting the right type of contraception when the time comes. She told Emily that she could either come with me or on her own if she didnt want to talk to me about it - Emily looked shocked and said she would definately be with me but I told her she didnt know that when it came to it that she would still feel that way. The Dr told her that it was important that she knew her options and then she could decide if she wanted me involved at the time. She then explained that the advantages of me knowing are that I can remind her to take her pill and if she wanted to keep it private that she would be able to have the implant. The injection is not recommended in very young or older women as it carries a risk of osteoperosis (sp).

so we came out feeling very informed. Emily asked me how the mini pill and combi pills worked and how the implant worked too.

I'm really happy with how things are progressing and now it's just a case of waiting until Emily asks me or a boyfriend crops up maybe and I'll remind her to remember what the options are.

glad things went well hun, and Emily is listening to you and the docs advice

Glad it worked out well. Well done Lisa. As you know i haven't got a teenager but am getting tips for when Niamh is older!!
Somehow i don't think stefan's plan of locking her in her room till she's 35 is going to work!!!

Thats brilliant Lisa....gonna do the same with Maley....i think the best approach is openness (and if anything did ever happen - i would like to think that Maley would come to me regardless as it would break my heart if she was scared to or dealt with it on her own).....well done!

That is excellent Lisa! sounds like you are doing a great job! This is how I want to be with Rosie...there is so much that mothers should tell their daughters but dont and its quite worrying, great job x