morri

I also got talks etc as i advanced , but I also read a lot by myself (somehow a topic that always intrigued me , while as a kid I wasn't interested in having kids myself , I was always keen to read the parenting magazines xD, and sex-ed books)
Anyway since I don't like the ideas of hormones I looked for an alternative nor hormonal way and chose that. I think as a parent one should allow the kid also to choose rather whether it prefers mechanical or hormonal (and I am talking on permanent stuff not pessars or condoms )

Mervs Mum

Thanks MM & Amanda - I hope being open has the desired effect. Your comment means a great deal - reassures me I'm being sensible.


Morri - what alternative did you go with?? I'm keen to look at all the options with her.

morri

I have displayed it in the topic : (what do you go when you go to TTC ) too. So There is the hormon less IUD gynefix, which is also fittable for teenagers and anybody else who hasn't born yet. I try to dig out that specific thread )
The good thing about it though is in a short summary:

It gets stuck to the uterus , it does not have any arms which can irritate the sides.
It is hormon free.(it works with copper)
it has different sizes(4 pieces to 6 pieces)
and it can stay for 5 years.
It has as high safety as the pill , or even higher.
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[quote=morri;2029375] They are not too widely spread , (depending where you live)
but at this lj entry of somebody I found this information.
http://community.livejournal.com/iud_divas/profile

Director of Family Planning at Halton and St Helens PCT near Liverpool and Manchester, lydia.kingsley@hsthpct.nhs.uk and alsothis one can tell you too:
april.prior@wms.co.uk

Mervs Mum

Thanks Morri!

maddiwatts19

this makes me laugh, but its good, a saying she'll deffinitely remember!!
you know i dont have any teenage kids, but i went on the pill at 16, my own choice. i never spoke to mum and dad about sex, they never brought it up either. although i know they knew when i did start to have sex, because of little things they'd say about making sure i was careful. i didnt have any sex ed at school either.. but i really wish i did..
Lisa, your an amazing mum, and Emily is lucky to have you being so open and honest with her. i wish my mum had been more like you..
i only ever was on the pill, but maybe try a coil? or the implant? i dont know if theres age restrictions with them too, but they're alternatives.
x x x x x

clairebear

My mum was very open to me about sex and contraception. I have always used protection with every partner. I feel by my mum not being on edge about it i was able to talk to her and get the emtional as well as practical support.

Rachiebaby24

Not always. I went on the depo aged 15 as i had terrible periods and the pill didnt help. I was on it from age 15-22 with no problems at all. I came off it in November and fell pregnant in March. My periods have been fine since and I will not hesitate to go back onto it when i am finished babymaking!

I went on the above contraception due to my periods and it was before i had started to have sex but i know my mum told my sister to go on the pill when she noticed my sister interested in boys/having boyfriends.

My mum has always been very open with all of us and considering what the "professionals" say about the liklihood, apple falling fair from the tree etc etc (my mum had us all very young) i had my first baby at 25, my sister is pg with her first at 23 and my older brother has none. and i truly believe that was due to my mum being so open and honest about sex, relationships etc.

My little brother is 13 and we are very open and frank with him. He saw me in labour with no clothes on (some people may not agree) but i believe he needs to know what women are, what they go through and that their bodies arent just sex objects. He knows about condoms and he talks to my OH alot about stuff which is good as his dad died when he was young.

Sounds like you are doing a great job Lisa and Emily sounds like a credit to you. Its scary your kids growing into young adults (it scares me with my liitle bro so cant imagine my child).....

My only advice is carry on what your doing......

oh and wen i was on the pill for my period my mum just reminded me every morning to take it (didnt have phones back then!!!!)

kaylynn040485

I would say to avoid the depo jag for your daughter completely. I went on this jag when i was around 16 to regulate my hormones and i believe it completely mucked up my cycle. I gained almost 3stone whilst on it then when i came off i didnt get a period for 2.5yrs and even then i had fetility problems and to this day i dont think everything is completely right and i firmly believe the depo is the reason. Obviously its down to personal choice but there are so many other contraception available i would say to stay away ffrom depo hun as it caused me nothing but problems. Kx

Mervs Mum

Thanks so much Rachel It means a lot to hear this. I have a great deal of respect for you and I think yours and your family's open attitude with each other is exactly the way I want things to be here.

I know a few people have said to stay away from the depo but I still think it's down to the individual. Both me and my sister have used it and not had any problems - infact I concieved after 3 months with #1, 2 months with #2 and my sister caught the egg on the first cycle!

hopeandpray

You are a great mother! i'm 18, my mother knows i've been with my bf for 2 yrs, we use condoms but i'd love a more safe method. i've been hinting about it but she refuses to talk about it! and my doctors my dad so not like i can go to him. It's great that you are so open with your daughter, she's lucky to have a mom like u