lisa, firstly i think you're doing amazingly with emily; you seem to have the same sort of 'open' relationship me and my mum had at that age, and still have now. i'm now heading to 25 and when i look back at how mum was with me, i think she did a great job, and after teaching for a while, i really do remember what i was like.

with regards to the pill i was put on it at 14 by the hospital because of my pcos, but she always talked openly and honestly with regards to contraception, so i think you're just doing everything right honey! keep doing what you're doing! i don't blame you banning msn, when the internet first came out i was 14, and mum bless her, knew nothing of it, and they way i talked in chat rooms, just a few times, was terrible! maddi will never be allowed that! i think policing there internet usage has to go on, for safety, but i also think all we can do as parents is continually talk to them, thats what mum did with me, and i no she now takes that lovely smug look where she can forget about when i was naughty and say, wow, i did it!

well done you honey, you're doing great!

HI, i dont have a teenage daughter so cant advise on that part of ur Question, but what i would say is avoid the depo injection at ALL costs. It completely ruins ur cycle, and she is far too young to have that. I wouldnt recommend it to anyone who hasnt had children yet, as it really does cause lots of problems for the future. Please dont let her have it. There are loads of other options

Thanks Carly

FEDup - I had the depo for a couple of years after I had Emily and it worked fine for me - came off, periods went regular as clockwork and no probs TTC BUT I appreciate it doesnt always pan out like that Thanks for the advice - I just thought it might be better than remembering a pill but I suppose I could make sure she took the pill properly while she's at home.

just a thought - i actually set my alarm on my phone to remind me to take my pill, might be an idea x

I did that too in the first year...and had a post-it stuck to my bathroom mirror to make extra sure to take it.


I think it's great that you talk to her about all this openly. My mom never did that with me, when I started having sex I was 15 and my sister (who was 20 at the time) signed the consent form for the pill!
I really couldn't talk to my mom about any of this...I'm sure that even if she cringes at the talks now she will appreciate it one day.



Edit: you can also try to put her on the patch? I was on it for a year and it's much simpler than the pill because you only need to remember to stick it once a week.

i didnt know about the patch - thanks Amy I'll look into that

I had the implant which was grat because you can forget about it for 3 years.

Can I ask how old you were?? I do like the idea of making sure she doesnt need to remember but I'd like to chose the right thing with her. Does the implant stop periods?

hey hun

i went on the pill quite young think like 14 or something but I was having really irregular and heavy periods so the docs put me on it knowing it regulates your cycle..! My mum was quite open with me, but I dont think she ever really sat me down and gave me a grown up talk about sex, feelings and contraception.... I feel that I will do this though!

I dont advise the depo at all... but I see you have been on it so maybe your daughter will react to it the way you did?! I put on weight , lots of weight

Might be harder than youd imagine... my mum constantly found pill packets with missed days and she couldnt tell my sis enough... ! She even phoned me to tell remind my sister how important it was... and my sis was 19 at the time !! But then Ive never been very good at remembering the pill!!